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Husbands ex...UGH!!! -*Ashley*- 4 kids; Missouri 109 posts
30th Jan '13

One thing I absolutely can NOT stand is when a mother uses her child against the father. Ugh, I'm sooooo freaking mad I want to scream!
If any of you Momma's are with someone that has a child from a previous relationship, has the childs mom ever used the child as leverage to get what she wants from the childs father? If so how did you deal with it?

JΔS Georgia 72959 posts
30th Jan '13

Stay out of it for the most part. If anything, I'll tell my husband not to let her b***h him around but he can handle himself.

-*Ashley*- 4 kids; Missouri 109 posts
30th Jan '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" Stay out of it for the most part. If anything, I'll tell my husband not to let her b***h him around but he can handle himself."


What if the whole thing is about you? Like she's saying he can't see his son or talk to him anymore as long as he is with me.

Lovemommylife Due June 2 (girl); 1 child; 3 angel babies; New Mexico 1421 posts
30th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting -*Ashley*-:</b>" What if the whole thing is about you? Like she's saying he can't see his son or talk to him anymore as long as he is with me."</blockquote>




That is f**king ridiculous.

JΔS Georgia 72959 posts
30th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting -*Ashley*-:</b>" What if the whole thing is about you? Like she's saying he can't see his son or talk to him anymore as long as he is with me."</blockquote>
Lol funny that you ask me that. M's ex went through a little phase when she didn't want me around their son. Supposedly, he was crying for me one night so after that, I was banned from him. M didn't care though, I'm his wife not some broad he picked up on the corner.



Does he have a visitation order in place? She really cannot tell him who he can bring around their child unless you are a danger to him.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
30th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting -*Ashley*-:</b>" What if the whole thing is about you? Like she's saying he can't see his son or talk to him anymore as long as he is with me."</blockquote>



i would still stay out of it. she can't deny him visitation like that. he needs to contact his lawyer.

-*Ashley*- 4 kids; Missouri 109 posts
30th Jan '13
Quoting !*MySonIsMyWorld*!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting -*Ashley*-:</b>" What if the whole thing is about you? Like ... [snip!] ... he can't see his son or talk to him anymore as long as he is with me."</blockquote> That is f**king ridiculous."


That's exactly how I feel! It's ridiculous and completely unfair! One minute she LOVES me, and thanks me for being soo good with their son and tells me how much their son loves me and blah blah. But because I was in the hospital on the day we were supposed to pick him up (complications with my pregnancy which resulted in a miscarriage) and my husband was at work she flipped out saying that if we couldn't come get him how can we take care of another child and blah blah. Started messaging me on facebook being ridiculous, and when I stood up for myself (without being rude or hateful) she calls my phone and tells my husband that he's not allowed to see or talk to his son. That she's changing her number and blah blah blah!

-*Ashley*- 4 kids; Missouri 109 posts
30th Jan '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting -*Ashley*-:</b>" What if the whole thing is about you? Like ... [snip!] ... a visitation order in place? She really cannot tell him who he can bring around their child unless you are a danger to him."


Yes he has court ordered visitation every other weekend, I have a copy of the papers in our filing cabinet. And I've NEVER done anything to give her any reason to say he can't be around me. I try to go above and beyond. Anytime he needs something and she can't afford it I get it, anytime he has a school function even if my husband is at work and can't get off, I pack up my three kids and go! She loves me one minute and hates me the next!

Lovemommylife Due June 2 (girl); 1 child; 3 angel babies; New Mexico 1421 posts
30th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting -*Ashley*-:</b>" That's exactly how I feel! It's ridiculous and completely unfair! One minute she LOVES me, and thanks ... [snip!] ... phone and tells my husband that he's not allowed to see or talk to his son. That she's changing her number and blah blah blah!"</blockquote>




She sounds really immature and I hate people who do that. Sorry for you loss by the way mamma.

JΔS Georgia 72959 posts
30th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting -*Ashley*-:</b>" Yes he has court ordered visitation every other weekend, I have a copy of the papers in our filing cabinet. ... [snip!] ... even if my husband is at work and can't get off, I pack up my three kids and go! She loves me one minute and hates me the next!"</blockquote>




Then if he denies him his visitation, she can get in trouble. I hate women like that. M's ex acts that way. She calls him a dead best because the army moved us to Germany but when she needs money, he always takes care of it. She's just typical.

-*Ashley*- 4 kids; Missouri 109 posts
30th Jan '13
Quoting !*MySonIsMyWorld*!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting -*Ashley*-:</b>" That's exactly how I feel! It's ridiculous ... [snip!] ... blah!"</blockquote> She sounds really immature and I hate people who do that. Sorry for you loss by the way mamma."


Thanks hun, It's hard but I'm managing to get by.

Mommie Dearest. Due September 17 (boy); 17 kids; Mississippi 1902 posts
30th Jan '13

Thankfully , my husband didn't put up with her crap.



And if it gets to wear she is breaking her legal obligations , I would keep record of it. She can't keep his daughter away from her if it's in their custodial agreement. If she does repeatedly , I'd take her to court.



My husband's ex is doing great in every aspect of life except her love life. She was married for a year while we've been together and it was the BEST YEAR from her. She didn't get pissed about everything that happened in our lives like her and I were in some sort of competition. Now it's back to that though :(

-*Ashley*- 4 kids; Missouri 109 posts
30th Jan '13
Quoting Mommie Dearest.:" Thankfully , my husband didn't put up with her crap. And if it gets to wear she is breaking her legal ... [snip!] ... about everything that happened in our lives like her and I were in some sort of competition. Now it's back to that though :( "


See it sucks, because I try to stay out of it but when she's got his family sending me ridiculous messages and just being flat out stupid about this entire thing it's hard for me to sit back and allow all these people to pretty much attack me.
His visitation papers states (I'm going to bleep out the county and stuff) "IT IS FURTHER ORDERED AND ADJUDGED that the ********* City Police Department, the **** County Sheriff's Department or other law enforcement officials are hereby given authority to enforce custody and/or visitation orders made part hereof."

I've been told by numerous people that all he has to do is show up to get his son on his weekend, and if she refuses to call the cops (make sure he has his papers with him) and then she has to release their son to him. But he doesn't want to do that, because he doesnt' want his son to see that kind of thing. Which don't get me wrong, I don't want my kids exposed to that kind of stuff either...BUT somethings got to give. I've had about enough of this. This isn't the first time it's happened and I'm sure it won't be the last. But one thing I do know is I'm about to flip out over this crap!