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Ok need HELP...Should I get fixed or should HE! Kaci Menchaca Due April 10; 2 kids; Oklahoma 18 posts
31st Jan '13

My husband and I have been back and forth on this..I honestly want more kids..he doesn't but he wants me to get my tubes tied..What do yall think? OH Btw we are only on number two and so far our Oldest is a girl which will be two in June. Our 2nd is due this April. So far they say it is a girl..I just would like to try a lil later to have a boy.

What's wrong, flat face? TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Texas 13675 posts
31st Jan '13

I wouldn't do it till I was sure I was done having kids.

TrixieGirl Due July 4; 1 child; Maryland 1175 posts
31st Jan '13

From what a heard, it is easier for a man to reverse their procedure than for a woman. Maybe do some research on the Pro's and Con's of each procedure? Personally, I wouldnt do anything so permanent to my body if were not my idea and something that truly wanted for myself. Couldnt you just use some form of birth controll?

SherryandMatt TTC since Jan 2012; 1 child; 6 angel babies; Arizona 3369 posts
31st Jan '13

NEITHER! If you possibly want more I wouldn't do anything that might not be fixable. Maybe other forms of contraceptive??

GlamChic Due August 7; 1 child; North Carolina 4585 posts
31st Jan '13

If HE doesn't want anymore children then HE should.

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25368 posts
31st Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Raindancer:</b>" I wouldn't do it till I was sure I was done having kids."</blockquote>



I agree. Don't make a permanent decision if you're not sure.

AMR+3 Due August 7; 2 kids; North Carolina 791 posts
31st Jan '13

Usually I would say to take into consideration what someone's SO thinks but this is your body and your LO's are so young still, whether you or him gets the tubes tied, there's no going back when it's done so maybe try discussing forms of birth control in case you two should decide to try for another in the future. And on a side note, you're due on my birthday :) Good luck!

Mandy and her girls!~ 3 kids; Illinois 10028 posts
31st Jan '13

Well if you're unsure then I really think you guys should sit down and talk about it. If he truly doesn't want anymore then he needs to be the one to make that choice. Although I don't think someone should get it done without talking about it first. My husband will be getting it done when we decide we're done.

Katie[ღ]Siℓas 17 kids; Grand Haven, Michigan 2071 posts
31st Jan '13

I don't understand the term "get fixed" in the context of having a medical procedure that makes it so you can't have any more kids... You weren't broken :?



Anyways. He should if he's the one who doesn't want more kids, but it really should be something you BOTH agree on.



If you can't agree, just use birth control. Don't make a decision like that if you're not completely positive.

Love my 3 kids Due July 27; Ohio 812 posts
31st Jan '13
Quoting Trixie7678:" From what a heard, it is easier for a man to reverse their procedure than for a woman. Maybe do some ... [snip!] ... to my body if were not my idea and something that truly wanted for myself. Couldnt you just use some form of birth controll?"


I agree with this... if YOU don't want it, don't do it. You may end up resenting him for it.



And it's easier, and safer for the guy to do it.
I had a c-section for my last one (6 months ago). Doc asked me if I wanted it done then since he will be "right there" (lol). DH wanted me to do it but I didn't. I don't want any more kids but I don't want that option completely taken away from me either. Make sure it's what YOU want before you do it.

Kaci Menchaca Due April 10; 2 kids; Oklahoma 18 posts
31st Jan '13

I just hate he is so mind set on me getting fixed and i have been on many types of birth control and none seem to work with my body. It either rejects it or has a bad reaction to it. My husband and i have a low sex life for unsure reasons since he has returned back from over seas.. He says its him not me. so he doesn't want to risk the fact of killing our sex life all together if he gets fixed. but he is sure he does not want any more

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
31st Jan '13

If you want more kids, don't do it. It seems a little crazy to me for him to even suggest YOU do something permanent to YOUR body just because HE doesn't want more kids.

Kaci Menchaca Due April 10; 2 kids; Oklahoma 18 posts
31st Jan '13
Quoting Liαm & Connors Mommy:" Usually I would say to take into consideration what someone's SO thinks but this is your body and your ... [snip!] ... in case you two should decide to try for another in the future. And on a side note, you're due on my birthday :) Good luck!"

I am only 25 soon to be 26..He will be 30 next week..He is mainly looking at it from a money stand point and me i just want a big family..

Mandy and her girls!~ 3 kids; Illinois 10028 posts
31st Jan '13
Quoting Kaci Menchaca:" I just hate he is so mind set on me getting fixed and i have been on many types of birth control and ... [snip!] ... doesn't want to risk the fact of killing our sex life all together if he gets fixed. but he is sure he does not want any more "

Why does he think it will mess up your sex life?

Clk 2 kids; Dexter, Michigan 11520 posts
31st Jan '13

I wouldn't do either in your shoes. My husband and I are kind of in the same situation. We have two daughters, youngest being only 6 months old, and he is thinking he is done, I want another lol. We talked about it though and he will wait a couple years before getting vasectomy in case we decide to have a third.