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When do you have to have these decisions made? KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59247 posts
1st Feb '13

Some of these are aimed towards c-sec moms, but some anyone can answer.




Circ-ing.
My son isn't.
I'm dead set on NOT circ'ing.
My dude is set on doing it.
I've already presented the facts to him, he doesn't care.
So my question is, what'll happen in the hospital when they ask?
Does it get discussed with them prior to delivery?



I'm having a repeat c-sec and they're tying my tubes during it.
When does the paperwork get done for that?
We have a thing called "stork express" at our hospital (does yours have something like that?)
Just a pre-visit for insurance paperwork 'n such.
Do you sign things for it there?
Do you have up until the day it's done to decide?



I think that's it.

HULK Mama [+4] 36 kids; Florida 2180 posts
1st Feb '13
Quoting KNZ.:" Some of these are aimed towards c-sec moms, but some anyone can answer. Circ-ing. My son isn't. ... [snip!] ... paperwork 'n such. Do you sign things for it there? Do you have up until the day it's done to decide? I think that's it. "


I'm doing my tour in 2 weeks where I'll fill out my insurance stuff and all that jazz.
Circ-ing wasn't address with my sons until after birth, but we did talk about it with my nurse at the beginning stages of labor.
You'll have to find out from your pedi about when they need a decision on it since they'll be the one performing it.
BUT neither of mine are circ'd so I dunno from experience : )

Irish Twins Mama ♥ 2 kids; Iowa 2147 posts
1st Feb '13

I think circumcision is ultimately up to you, I would tell him that you've made up your mind and someday when he's older, he can choose to change that if he wants. I feel so good that I stuck with my gut and didn't do it. My husband wanted to at first but he came around.

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59247 posts
1st Feb '13
Quoting HULK Mama [27w]:" I'm doing my tour in 2 weeks where I'll fill out my insurance stuff and all that jazz. Circ-ing wasn't ... [snip!] ... need a decision on it since they'll be the one performing it. BUT neither of mine are circ'd so I dunno from experience : )"


UGH i mean, we're coming out of this with our son intact- i just don't want it to become some big 'thing' while we're in the hospital because we can't agree :?

May♥ 1 child; Texas 9169 posts
status 1st Feb '13

I don't know. We don't even have a boy and I've already talked my SO into being anti-circ... Well I pretty much just told him the facts and he decided for his self. But before I talked to him he was so uneducated about it. Good luck! I hope he comes around.



I mean, you pushed the baby out of your vagina... I'm pretty sure the hospital won't circ him against your will just because that's what your SO wants. Hopefully he won't cause a scene.

Buffy♥ 2 kids; Japan 3741 posts
1st Feb '13

I'll answer the ones I can. They asked me at my 32 week appointment if I was circ'ing. They also told me that if I wanted to tie my tubes, I had to sign a form 30 days before my expected due date first. That way it can't just be a quick in the moment decision. I'm not sure if it's the same for everyone though

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59247 posts
1st Feb '13
Quoting ℳommy to Kai♥:" I think circumcision is ultimately up to you, I would tell him that you've made up your mind and someday ... [snip!] ... that if he wants. I feel so good that I stuck with my gut and didn't do it. My husband wanted to at first but he came around."


we haven't even revisited the conversation again in months cos i get so upset over it :?
my dude needs to come around cos there's no way i'm budging on this. like...no one's cutting anything off of our son :?

HULK Mama [+4] 36 kids; Florida 2180 posts
1st Feb '13
Quoting KNZ.:" UGH i mean, we're coming out of this with our son intact- i just don't want it to become some big 'thing' while we're in the hospital because we can't agree :? "


It was always left up to me to make the final decision...I'd pull your nurse aside and let her know a decision has already been made and ask her to please not ask after delivery.

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59247 posts
1st Feb '13
Quoting May ♥:" I don't know. We don't even have a boy and I've already talked my SO into being anti-circ... Well I pretty ... [snip!] ... sure the hospital won't circ him against your will just because that's what your SO wants. Hopefully he won't cause a scene."


ha, i've actually had all c-sections :P
but yeah, i thought it was probably one of those things where if one parent is saying no they don't do it? but i don't know.

Gir is a Slytherin TTC since May 2012; 3 kids; Iowa 3307 posts
1st Feb '13

From what I know from talking to various moms. The Mother has the only say in the procedures on the child, especially since you and dumbass aren't married

M walls 4 kids; Keenesburg, Colorado 7267 posts
1st Feb '13

My hospital didn't do his circ, I had to take him to my drs. My ob said that I needed to have my paper to get my tubes tied signed and filed @ least 30 days before delivery. I brought a copy of that plus insurance ect when I did my tour & registered

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59247 posts
1st Feb '13
Quoting Buffy♥:" I'll answer the ones I can. They asked me at my 32 week appointment if I was circ'ing. They also told ... [snip!] ... due date first. That way it can't just be a quick in the moment decision. I'm not sure if it's the same for everyone though"


that actually sounds familiar (the tube tying part)
my doc had explained it to me at my first visit but then i couldn't remember :oops:



dude doesn't come to my appointments with me anymore (they're all scheduled while he's at work) so i would just tell them that i'm not wanting to circ but dad still needs to come around to that? :?

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
1st Feb '13

When I delivered at <Same hospital> they checked several times in the OR loudly. Are we tying tubes. Response-No. I signed the tubal decline paperwork morning of. And the circumcision is something you have to set up with your ped. It is my understanding. I never did so I'm not 100%. It was never even offered.

May♥ 1 child; Texas 9169 posts
status 1st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" ha, i've actually had all c-sections :P but yeah, i thought it was probably one of those things where if one parent is saying no they don't do it? but i don't know. "</blockquote>




Well you know what I mean :D

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59247 posts
1st Feb '13
Quoting Gir is a Slytherin:" From what I know from talking to various moms. The Mother has the only say in the procedures on the child, especially since you and dumbass aren't married"


i wondered if that played a part in it.
like, obviously he's a parent who should have a say.
but when it comes to one parent wanting to cut something off a kid, and the other not- you'd think they'd go with the option that can be changed if need be.