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Daniee 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Lynnwood, Washington 3756 posts
status 3rd Feb '13

Well tell him he's the boring one making your sex life boring. An not to ask to spice things up when he isn't into absolutely anything!!!
He needs to get out of his comfort zone, and needs to tell you what he wants! He knows he's a guy, he probably doesn't feel comfortable. If he truly doesn't know then he's boring as hell considering you've tried so much and nothing you've done works. I mea what the hell is he expection you to come up with?
He's frustrating me and I'm not even apart of your life hahaha
I'd be so pissed if my SO was like that and told me he was bored if laugh at him and tell him he's the boring part of it hahahahaha

Miss. Tiff Due November 20; 33 kids; Odessa, Missouri 2874 posts
3rd Feb '13

My dh loves to be woken up for sex. Lol

Alexander'sMomma! TTC since Aug 2012; 1 child; Arkansas 1817 posts
3rd Feb '13
Quoting Daniee:" Well tell him he's the boring one making your sex life boring. An not to ask to spice things up when ... [snip!] ... be so pissed if my SO was like that and told me he was bored if laugh at him and tell him he's the boring part of it hahahahaha"

He pretty much just told me that he doesn't know anything else except for what we have done.. Considering I did take his virginity... So maybe thats why..

Daniee 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Lynnwood, Washington 3756 posts
status 3rd Feb '13
Quoting TTCAirForcewifey:" He pretty much just told me that he doesn't know anything else except for what we have done.. Considering I did take his virginity... So maybe thats why.."



that doesn't stop him from having fantasies..

Alexander'sMomma! TTC since Aug 2012; 1 child; Arkansas 1817 posts
3rd Feb '13
Quoting Daniee:" that doesn't stop him from having fantasies.."


I've asked him if he's had fantasies.. but he says no. He now says that our sex life is amazing and he was over thinking it..

Daniee 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Lynnwood, Washington 3756 posts
status 3rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting TTCAirForcewifey:</b>" I've asked him if he's had fantasies.. but he says no. He now says that our sex life is amazing and he was over thinking it.."</blockquote>




Ha, he's strange lol :p

Alexander'sMomma! TTC since Aug 2012; 1 child; Arkansas 1817 posts
3rd Feb '13
Quoting Daniee:" <blockquote><b>Quoting TTCAirForcewifey:</b>" I've asked him if he's had fantasies.. ... [snip!] ... says no. He now says that our sex life is amazing and he was over thinking it.."</blockquote> Ha, he's strange lol :p"

He is something else.. but i love him! haha

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3314 posts
3rd Feb '13

My husband got me one of the Edible Arrangements for my birthday one year... OMG, the most sensual, sexual time I've ever had with fruit, lol... it was crazy hot to say the least. Whip cream? We tried alcoholic whip cream once, it was nasty. Despite everything your parents told you, play with your food. lol
Jump him right when he walks in front work one night. My hubby came home one night and I was cooking... in my birthday suit. Supper was cold by the time we got to it. ;) Have you tried b*****e? It's not for me, personally, but your husband may find it appealing. Or even just a blindfold so he can only feel what you're doing to him, that really enhances things.

thisunrest India 10364 posts
4th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting TTCAirForcewifey:</b>" He pretty much just told me that he doesn't know anything else except for what we have done.. Considering I did take his virginity... So maybe thats why.."</blockquote>




You and he need to go to Borders or Barnes and Noble and camp out in the Relationships and Sexuality section for a few hours. It sounds like he just isn't aware of how deep sex goes ( no pun intended.)



Once he reads up on it for a while, he'll see something that sparks his curiosity. And it's not just sexual intercourse, there's about a million sexy ways to interact with each other that will get you both horny and make you feel closer to each other.



One book is "365 Questions for Couples." That one's fun. Question-books about sex are a great way to learn about each other.

~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~ 17 kids; Connecticut 15826 posts
4th Feb '13
Quoting TTCAirForcewifey:" Well i'm always the one trying to have sex with him! he used to be crazy about me... wanted me ALLLLL ... [snip!] ... by the things he said, I cried all day yesterday. He told me he was going to change... So I hope he does because I love him.. "


Personally, with all that bad stuff going on, sex should be the LAST thing on your mind to change lol. If he is acting like a jerk, he doesn't deserve spicier sex. It just sounds like he's trying to find reasons to leave, in my opinion....You sound like a lovely woman, so don't take his shit. YOU are obviously putting the effort in, and it sounds like he isn't at all. My ex husband did the same to me, it was ridiculous. Good luck!!

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Alexander'sMomma! TTC since Aug 2012; 1 child; Arkansas 1817 posts
4th Feb '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" My husband got me one of the Edible Arrangements for my birthday one year... OMG, the most sensual, sexual ... [snip!] ... may find it appealing. Or even just a blindfold so he can only feel what you're doing to him, that really enhances things."

I don't even like b*****e so thats out.. I think blind folding and hand cuffing is enough for me! haha

Alexander'sMomma! TTC since Aug 2012; 1 child; Arkansas 1817 posts
4th Feb '13
Quoting thisunrest:" <blockquote><b>Quoting TTCAirForcewifey:</b>" He pretty much just told me that he doesn't ... [snip!] ... One book is "365 Questions for Couples." That one's fun. Question-books about sex are a great way to learn about each other."

Thank you very much :)

Alexander'sMomma! TTC since Aug 2012; 1 child; Arkansas 1817 posts
4th Feb '13
Quoting ~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~:" Personally, with all that bad stuff going on, sex should be the LAST thing on your mind to change lol. ... [snip!] ... putting the effort in, and it sounds like he isn't at all. My ex husband did the same to me, it was ridiculous. Good luck!!"

Thank you, Some of it was my fault for nagging, but all in all it was his fault for not trying.. we are working on things though, I'm still a bit hurt though.

Naturally Alternative 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Lafayette, Louisiana 6796 posts
4th Feb '13

Y'all should watch p**n together. Something he sees may spark his interest. We did that before and mimicked the stuff they were doing.



Something else that may work is going on dates and role playing... Like pretend to be different people and "hook up" at a bar and "have a one night stand". Haven't done that yet but I really want to.



I have the same problem, my Hubby is super vanilla... I want to try all sorts of things but he only likes missionary, doggie, and bjs. X.x