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Who's right? Kind of long. Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
1st Feb '13

My husband or I?



Story: So, our friends are having problems with their relationship. I don't tend to ask many questions so I don't really now the whole situation. Only thing I know is that they were having a lot of problems. The guy hit the girl, the girl cheated on the guy and well they are not together any more. The girl is now dating someone new, I think the guy she cheated with. So here is where we come in. I run a daycare business. I have different daycares alall 24 hours. She's always been a sahm and well she's never enrolled her child in any daycare facility. Yet, for the last two weeks she's been enrolling her child in daycare everyday so I guess she can go out with her bf because she doesn't feel comfortable with them meting yet. IDK. She pays me thirty dollars extra than what I charge so I mean, it's good business.



However, my DH who's friends with the guy tells me I shouldn't be getting involved, taking care of her child so she can run along with her new guy (since it's pretty obvious that's what's she's doing) It'd be a shame if her husband came talking shit to us.



Hello. You're the one who taught me not to mix business with personal life. It's not like I ask her where she's going, or who she's going with. If decided which children I'd take in based on their parent's relationship status I'd have little, to no children.



DH is just worried that the guy may come in here trying to take the kid (which he can't since she didn't list him as a person authorized for pick-up) and start a whole ordeal. I tell him that if that's the case I'll just contact the police and that'll be that.



WWYD?

MILF !! 2 kids; Connecticut 3946 posts
1st Feb '13

yikes thats kind of sticky.



I say you're right for not mixing business & personal issues.

sara- 1 child; British Columbia 455 posts
1st Feb '13
Quoting MILF !!:" yikes thats kind of sticky. I say you're right for not mixing business & personal issues."


Agreed

Mama♥Breezy 2 kids; Los Angeles, California 34986 posts
1st Feb '13
Quoting MILF !!:" yikes thats kind of sticky. I say you're right for not mixing business & personal issues."


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Layla-and-Faith 2 kids; Nova Scotia 656 posts
1st Feb '13

What would I do? .. hmm, well first of all, it is not my bussiness, they broke up and she is free to date whoever she pleases. If I was running a daycare, I would take the well paying parent's child. It's none of my bussiness what she does with her day while her child is in childcare.



What would you even say to her lol.. "Sorry, I can't watch baby anymore because I know you are going out on dates" lol, as long as she's paying who really cares what she does.

Juliette 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Olive Branch, MS, United States 3015 posts
1st Feb '13

I think y'all are both right. You can't miss business with personal though... hopefully hubby's friend doesn't try to come pick her up.

Ivana, VBA2C success! 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 6834 posts
1st Feb '13

Honestly, as a mom who babysits for extra money, I am on your side. She is paying for your services and honestly even though you know of her past situation it is not any of your busincess why she needs you, right? You just watch her kids and that's that. If thefather tries to come and get them and he is not on the list and won't leave you call her to deal with the situation or call the cops. It can happen with any of the kids you watch. No point in losing money due to someone else's drama.

Layla-and-Faith 2 kids; Nova Scotia 656 posts
1st Feb '13

so I think you are right in this situation.

Cecily's Mama 1 child; 3778 posts
1st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Layla-and-Faith:</b>" What would I do? .. hmm, well first of all, it is not my bussiness, they broke up and she is free to ... [snip!] ... watch baby anymore because I know you are going out on dates" lol, as long as she's paying who really cares what she does."</blockquote>




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Derpy Hooves Due November 8; 1 child; Virginia 21373 posts
status 1st Feb '13

You are right. As long as she's paying, from a business perspective it does not matter to you what she does with her days.

Kimber's Mommy 1 child; South Carolina 4272 posts
1st Feb '13

i agree with you.



i hope the guy doesn't do anything stupid and crazy, but if he does, like you said just call the police.



you're running a business and the woman is free to do whatever the hell she wants. at least she's making sure her kid is in a nice safe place while she's with this guy she may not want her child to meet yet... which i think is the responsible thing to do. you're making money. you're not mixing anything and you shouldn't.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
1st Feb '13

If only I could get him to understand. He has his own business so I don't see why he can't see my side. I mean it's not like he tells me "you're not allowed to take care of her kid."



It just gets annoying when he asks me everyday if I'm taking care of her kid. I think he's just worried about our friendship.



We've been friends for eight years.

JustMe&MyThree 3 kids; Chicago, Illinois 515 posts
1st Feb '13

You're right. Your husband is wrong. You cannot turn away someone's child because of assumptions of what she's doing while the child is there. If anything... I think she's doing the responsible thing and I'd be happy to help. Far too many mothers take their children around man after man and confuse the poor baby. She's leaving the baby in a professional's hands and paying for it with her own money. I don't see the problem. And if the father did come in there and try to take the child I would call the authorities too. He can't do that just because of his feelings toward the mom. I would do everything I could within the law to not allow him to take that child while he is in such an upset state... not thinking clearly and running on pure emotions not logic.

Mama♥Breezy 2 kids; Los Angeles, California 34986 posts
1st Feb '13

Plus, she would just leave the child with someone else if you said no. Wouldn't he rather his child be with someone he knows and trusts?

Liam's Mama 1 child; North Carolina 5474 posts
1st Feb '13

You're right IMO