Quoting GiggleBellies:" My husband has gone lost his mind. He has been accusing me for the past 6 months of cheating on him. ... [snip!] ... course, he BLAMES ME. He has gone lost his mind!!! I think this is a boderline personality male. Anyone ever go through this?"
I'm not hearing anything about him being "normal" at times so that doesn't sound like BPD to me. Is he abusing any legal/illegal substances or alcohol?
Also, I wouldn't leave unless he wasn't willing to admit there was a problem or seek therapy. It sounds like there may have been a traumatic experience from his past that is creeping back and he's allowing those thoughts to control your relationship. Therapy may help if he's willing to try it. Good luck.
<blockquote><b>Quoting GiggleBellies:</b>" Ok. thanks for the clarification. I tried finding a word for this thing he has. Because he was also verbally abusive, but yes, controlling a*****e is the obvious, I just needed a medical term hehe."</blockquote>
Medical term is form of domestic abuse. He sounds just like my ex who verbally and physically abused me for 2 years.
I am going through something very similar to this. My wife has been accusing me of cheating, sleeping with wh**es, having girlfriends and having multiple online dating accounts.
She has gone out of her way to tell all her family and friends that I am a sexual predator. All of the above is not true.
This has been going on for years. I believe it is her Vyvanse that has caused these delusions. We were a typical married couple before she started taking it, slowly after her personality changed for the worse.
It started with just a few outburst or weird thoughts. Eventually these became more and more. Her anger was out of control. She became physical as well. After several years she transition full time into this raging monster who believed everything and everyone was against her. Her original personality has since disappeared.
I have reached out to the Doctors, family and friends over the years, no one believed me. She was good at getting others to believe I was the monster. I had no one to reach out to. It was a living hell.
She just left my son and I , and filed for divorce. She has had no contact with us and has not seen him since she left. I finally talked to Doctors and they said that she had an underlining issue that may have been enhanced by the vyvanse. One Doctor now believes it was just the vyvanse, the other believes she is manic, and may have a few personality disorders.
I feel your pain when it comes to being accused of stuff you do not do. It drove me crazy and still does. I had all sorts of stuff going thru my head. I could never fix it or discuss things with her. The sad part is we still love her but realize she is gone mentally and we need to move on.
I hope it works out for you.