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When Dh doesn't want to TTC & you do justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
2nd Feb '13

Is there a thread for that??? I know it's common....

LumpySpacePrincess 2 kids; New Zealand 17060 posts
2nd Feb '13

I think it's the "oops I'm pregnant, how did that happen?" thread around here somewhere.



Lol joking aside maybe in the TTC and Adoption section?

Norah&Ellie's Momma 2 kids; Kentucky 4156 posts
2nd Feb '13

I don't know if there's a thread, but my DH didn't want anymore kids a few months ago and he's 100% on board now. I would just give it time.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
2nd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LumpySpacePrincess:</b>" I think it's the "oops I'm pregnant, how did that happen?" thread around here somewhere. Lol joking aside maybe in the TTC and Adoption section?"</blockquote>



:lol: ahaha

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
2nd Feb '13

SO and I were both on the fence. I knew once one of us finaly said yay or nay the other would be completely on board
I told him in November I wanted to TTC..Dec 20th I ran up to him with my BFP and he is so excited for our newbie.




A strong couple will talk this out, sort it out, and go for it together, whether it be to TTC or to be done with babies. Respect his choice like you want him to respect yours. Talk to him about what you feel/want.
Best of luck to you

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
2nd Feb '13
Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:" SO and I were both on the fence. I knew once one of us finaly said yay or nay the other would be completely ... [snip!] ... with babies. Respect his choice like you want him to respect yours. Talk to him about what you feel/want. Best of luck to you"

I have been doing exactly what you said...for 2 years. :( I have maybe a year or two before i feel like I will be pushing into "too old" territory for my own liking.



It is just hard because I am starting to think that there isn't much hope for either of us to feel differently than we do. I don't resent him or anything, but I feel sad about it. Really sad. I can't even explain it - as I am super happy with the two we have...I just want more because I do.....if I could change that, I totally would. I don't know how to shut it off.

Juliette 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Olive Branch, MS, United States 3015 posts
2nd Feb '13

Dh and I had talked about it and wanted another baby but weren't sure when. Then he completely changed his mind after I went off my bc.I told him he could get fixed or wear a condom.



Eta: he changed his mind about a month after me being off bc and about 6 months later I got pregnant.

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60891 posts
2nd Feb '13
Quoting justanothamotha:" I have been doing exactly what you said...for 2 years. :( I have maybe a year or two before i feel like ... [snip!] ... the two we have...I just want more because I do.....if I could change that, I totally would. I don't know how to shut it off."


Your last paragraph is something I understand entirely. I want one more very very bad, DH just isn't on board. It's a tough spot to be. I just try to remember that he's trying to be logical, and level headed. I have to respect him for that.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
2nd Feb '13
Quoting sassy chef:" Your last paragraph is something I understand entirely. I want one more very very bad, DH just isn't ... [snip!] ... a tough spot to be. I just try to remember that he's trying to be logical, and level headed. I have to respect him for that. "

I try too but Dh doesn't have any better reason than me. He just doesn't want to & I just want to. LOL Sure it would save us money, but then it would have if we had 1 instead of two & we can afford 3. It's not like we will retire younger or more comfortably, really or that we won't be able to take vacations if we have another. So while he says stuff like, if we have another you'll be up at night with the baby for another year or so...that impacts him zero almost...seriously & even HE acknowledges that & laughs & says he is just using things to talk me out of it that might appeal to ME. LOL



I get it though - he can't change his feelings probably any easier than I change mine - EXCEPT I know he'd be in love with a new child once they were here & I am not falling in love with the idea of not having one....any time soon. I am trying.....really I am. I dont' like pregnancy & L&D was tough both times...so I keep trying to focus on that. It worked until recently & now a bunch of women around me are either prego or have new babies & I am seriously baby craving.

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
2nd Feb '13
Quoting justanothamotha:" I have been doing exactly what you said...for 2 years. :( I have maybe a year or two before i feel like ... [snip!] ... the two we have...I just want more because I do.....if I could change that, I totally would. I don't know how to shut it off."


aww hun Im sorry.



Do you think he really really really wont give you another ?



you two need to really talk this out. how this could effect you for a very very long time