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What do you think he is thinking? *You Are My Sunshine* 1 child; La Crosse, WI, United States 1991 posts
2nd Feb '13

Why did he have to even say anything? My BD came to pick up our DD this afternoon. I was still getting her ready and making chit chat with him about her. I could feel him staring at me the whole time. His eyes were soft and glazed over a bit teary eyed, his head down. I was kneeling down zipping up DD coat when all of the sudden he said, "I feel like I never knew you, I'm so sorry for everything." I was put off so I just replied, "well be both have made a lot of mistakes together." I didn't know what he was referring to... how I am now, self sufficient on my own? Did he really not know me? Am I reading into it? Then I call him to see how DD was doing and he answered, "speak of the devil, I was just talking about you to my brother." ..... I'm so confused.

Sue_Brown Due September 27; Alberta 120 posts
2nd Feb '13

Ask him! :) Don't expect rainbows and butterflies. It would seem he's trying to reach out, and it wouldn't hurt to ask him what's up.

Pey and Trista's mommy 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Houston, Texas 42502 posts
2nd Feb '13

That is a hard one! I don't know your back story but if he is confusing you and you have feelings for him then tell him he is confusing you. If you don't have feelings for him just ignore it I guess?

*You Are My Sunshine* 1 child; La Crosse, WI, United States 1991 posts
2nd Feb '13
Quoting Sue_Brown:" Ask him! :) Don't expect rainbows and butterflies. It would seem he's trying to reach out, and it wouldn't hurt to ask him what's up."


I plan on asking him, later. He is with others sledding right now and likely wont talk about it in front of them. The door might be closed by then also... emotionally. I would like to know what he is saying about me...

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
2nd Feb '13

Maybe he's just realized that he screwed up and he's having to accept that it's really over?

Crazyhazel89 1 child; Erie, Pennsylvania 3994 posts
2nd Feb '13

how long have you been apart? and how long where you together?

*You Are My Sunshine* 1 child; La Crosse, WI, United States 1991 posts
2nd Feb '13
Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" That is a hard one! I don't know your back story but if he is confusing you and you have feelings for him then tell him he is confusing you. If you don't have feelings for him just ignore it I guess?"

Its a love hate thing. I think we both still love each other, but our past is too damaged for it to work out with out counseling. At times I feel like I hate him but deep down, I know I will never love anyone as much as I did him.

*You Are My Sunshine* 1 child; La Crosse, WI, United States 1991 posts
2nd Feb '13
Quoting Crazyhazel89:" how long have you been apart? and how long where you together?"


Almost a year apart. Ten years together....

Sue_Brown Due September 27; Alberta 120 posts
2nd Feb '13

Perhaps you both need closure. For him it may be that needs to let you know how sorry, or how he didn't truly see you - that he does now. I do not think he means his actions or words in a bad way.
If anything, it would be puzzling but also reliving to know there is nothing more. To be free and move on as great friends?

*You Are My Sunshine* 1 child; La Crosse, WI, United States 1991 posts
2nd Feb '13
Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :" Maybe he's just realized that he screwed up and he's having to accept that it's really over? "


We have already discussed what went wrong and why. This is the first time he has brought up the past and apologized. I don't know why he would open up old wounds again.

Pey and Trista's mommy 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Houston, Texas 42502 posts
2nd Feb '13
Quoting *You Are My Sunshine*:" Its a love hate thing. I think we both still love each other, but our past is too damaged for it to work ... [snip!] ... out with out counseling. At times I feel like I hate him but deep down, I know I will never love anyone as much as I did him."


That is a really tough situation. I honestly can't say how I would even react to that.

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
2nd Feb '13
Quoting *You Are My Sunshine*:" We have already discussed what went wrong and why. This is the first time he has brought up the past and apologized. I don't know why he would open up old wounds again."


Because I don't think that some people really let themselves grieve over a loss if they still feel like there could MAYBE be something there in the future. Maybe he's finally letting it go, and he's starting to get it. I mean... even if you were there already, you can't really know that he was. Don't read too much into it. Take it as a sign of growth and let it go.

*You Are My Sunshine* 1 child; La Crosse, WI, United States 1991 posts
2nd Feb '13
Quoting Sue_Brown:" Perhaps you both need closure. For him it may be that needs to let you know how sorry, or how he didn't ... [snip!] ... If anything, it would be puzzling but also reliving to know there is nothing more. To be free and move on as great friends?"

I don't think great friends is possible... there is too much tension... sex wise. We have tried it. I know I still have feelings for him and I could not hang out with him and not expect anything. He is too stubborn to admit what I am willing to. It will be too late when and if that happens.

Pey and Trista's mommy 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Houston, Texas 42502 posts
2nd Feb '13
Quoting *You Are My Sunshine*:" We have already discussed what went wrong and why. This is the first time he has brought up the past and apologized. I don't know why he would open up old wounds again."


Sounds like it's not a very old wound for him....sounds like it was just festering and maybe he is trying to heal now.

Sue_Brown Due September 27; Alberta 120 posts
2nd Feb '13
Quoting *You Are My Sunshine*:" We have already discussed what went wrong and why. This is the first time he has brought up the past and apologized. I don't know why he would open up old wounds again."


...Cause maybe it's what he needs to help put closure on the past with you. To help him move on to the future as an ex/friend etc. To be the better person and let him say what he needs to say. Doesn't mean it'll change what happened, or that you now need to forget or move on (whatever may have occurred). It may be what you need also to keep going without those negative aspect always being a clear reminder.
Live life to it's fullest. Love to your hearts content. Forgive and repeat. Life with regret and anger/resentment isn't worth it.
Hard to see and interact with someone that you truly never said sorry too.
Try to not let it be so personal