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the BEAST Wisconsin 15638 posts
Feb 2nd '13

We usually spend most of the day together on weekends but it's b/c we're running errands or something like that.



Our apartment is small so the only other room to spend time in to relax other than te living room is a bedroom. And if I go in the bedroom, the spawn follow me (but they NEVER follow him). Tonight he did take the boychild with him to a friend's house to play cards, but that's a rare occurrence.

Good Queen Bess Due December 27; 2 kids; Ontario 49484 posts
Feb 2nd '13
Quoting KNZ.:" mine almost never "goes out" (going out is like, going to a hockey game, or going to practice, etc) ... [snip!] ... i'm cleaning the floor he's on, and sometimes we'll all watch a movie together. the kids just go to whatever floor i'm on. "


We have a back-split, so technically we have 4 floors....my office is on the top floor and his is in the basement....sometimes when we are both working on stuff, we are completely separate. Normally we all hang out in the living room.

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59255 posts
Feb 2nd '13
Quoting clay matthews:" We usually spend most of the day together on weekends but it's b/c we're running errands or something ... [snip!] ... NEVER follow him). Tonight he did take the boychild with him to a friend's house to play cards, but that's a rare occurrence."


that's the example i'm meaning too for the 'smaller houses' for people who didn't understand why that would make a difference.
like, before we moved back in with dude, we had a large living room/kitchen space then just our bedrooms, so whenever we were having someone over- you kinda just had to be in the same space :D

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59255 posts
Feb 2nd '13
Quoting Sarah Bare-ah♡:" Yes we do. We dont ask permission we just give each other a heads up and say "got anything going on Sat, I want to do this""


i'm jealous of this :)

UhmAmber 1 child; Texas 2415 posts
Feb 2nd '13
Quoting eKnuckles:" We always spend time with the family on his day off, and at the same time he is usually working on some ... [snip!] ... from like 8pm until we pass out a little bit later. He works from 10:30am to midnight or 1 every day except the weekends."


:shock:

the BEAST Wisconsin 15638 posts
Feb 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" that's the example i'm meaning too for the 'smaller houses' for people who didn't understand why that ... [snip!] ... space then just our bedrooms, so whenever we were having someone over- you kinda just had to be in the same space :D "</blockquote>




Exactly. If we had more space, we wouldn't be on top of each other all the time. And the kids would have more space to play. Someday...

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Feb 2nd '13

I dunno.
We're not really the "spend time" couple. We can be perfectly happy reading or playing on the computer in the same room. We both enjoy companionable silence.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18567 posts
Feb 2nd '13
Quoting KNZ.:" On the weekends. Assuming he has the weekends off. (so if he works on the weekends, or isn't there ... [snip!] ... they share, or just a single living room/bedroom set up (you get the idea) how much time do you (by choice) spend together? "


48 hours, lol...

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59255 posts
Feb 2nd '13
Quoting clay matthews:" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" that's the example i'm meaning too for the 'smaller ... [snip!] ... If we had more space, we wouldn't be on top of each other all the time. And the kids would have more space to play. Someday..."


:)
and my dude tends to drive me crazy a bit :oops: so i can't imagine sharing my old place with him! i don't mind the time not spent together haha i'm just curious about others :D

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59255 posts
Feb 2nd '13
Quoting SAFFY
KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59255 posts
Feb 2nd '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" We have a back-split, so technically we have 4 floors....my office is on the top floor and his is in ... [snip!] ... when we are both working on stuff, we are completely separate. Normally we all hang out in the living room."


do you having a living room type space on each floor?

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
Feb 2nd '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Sometimes I feel like we spend too much time together. We spend several hours a day (either just the ... [snip!] ... (long story that some of you may have heard before).....so, I'm in my pjs, eating popcorn and watching the Hunger Games."


....interesting.....

E.P. Mom Due March 14; 1 child; Texas 2668 posts
Feb 2nd '13

Granted, our house is small, BUT even if we were to live in a larger place, we would still spend the vast majority of our time off together. I married him because I like spending time with him ;) We have one couch and spend most of our time laying up together watching something on tv. I'm glad we have a smaller place, I think it helps us stay closer and more intimate :)

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59255 posts
Feb 2nd '13
Quoting E.P. Mom:" Granted, our house is small, BUT even if we were to live in a larger place, we would still spend the ... [snip!] ... up together watching something on tv. I'm glad we have a smaller place, I think it helps us stay closer and more intimate :) "


see, he had lived in my old place for awhile, and we had to be in the same space all the time, so we were. but now with the 3 stories, and everything being spread out, i don't know how it'd be possible to be doing the kid's stuff our own stuff all together when nothing is in the same room. unless we decided to just watch TV on the couch all the time. or he followed me while i cleaned.
i mean, he could spend more time with us doing kid stuff when at home, but choose to be doing his man-crap.

Laventure_Adventure 2 kids; Pennsylvania 675 posts
Feb 2nd '13

I will say probably 2 hours a day because DH is generally on his computer, BUT the kiddos play in the basement which is where DH's computer is. We have a two story house and I like to spend my time upstairs because of the sunlight and the kitchen is right there and I spend a lot of time in the kitchen. I work during the day and DH works at night so we really only see each other for like 20 mins when I get home and then about an hour and a half when he gets home at night. I love it outside so when it's warm out I am outside with the kiddos while DH is a hermit inside.