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WWYD?? Tay L 1 child; St Paul, Minnesota 719 posts
3rd Feb '13

This girl and her bf are into threesomes. They are having one on Monday with her bf's coworker who said she was down cause her bf cheated on her and she wants to get back at him.



The guy tells his gf, she's ok with it. He tells her things about why its on Monday, why only for an hour. (Girl has like strict parents and all this stuff. Everyone's of age.) The girl told him she wasn't gonna eat the coworker out cause she doesn't like it, he said fine but he'll probably eat her out cause that's the only way the coworker will give him head.



The girlfriend saw they were messaging on fb through his phone and when ever she would ask what about he wouldn't tell her and when she tried to look he closed out of it.



He has his fb up on the computer so she looked at the messages. Well he practiacally lied to her by not telling the whole truth.



She said she was down for sex, he asked threesome or one on one, she said didn't matter. She asked if they were gonna do it in the car. He said no, not during daylight and he's going to bring her home to his girlfriend cause that would be cheating otherwise. He then tells her that he didn't tell his girlfriend that he is going to pick her up alone cause she would consider it cheating and that he is going to kiss/makeout with the coworker on the way back home. She says ok cool He then asks if she would give him road head and she said only if he returns the favor. He said ok he will. He then asked if they were in a car together at night, if she would give him road head. And he said he wants to do this more than once cause there's more he wants to do to her than what can be squeezed into one hour. She said ok and that mondays would have to do cause they figured most other days won't work with school and work. He said she should call in sick one day, then her parents will think she's at work, and she can come here for a threesome.



What should the girlfriend do?

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
3rd Feb '13

bbbhahahahah....what should she do?????




hes taking advantage of her LETTING him be with other girls!!!! What do you mean what should she do? He obviously doesnt love or respect her.

Mama MacGyver* Peds RN TTC since Jul 2014; 1 child; Tulsa, Oklahoma 12374 posts
3rd Feb '13

This relationship clearly can not handle more people involved. All I saw was drama drama drama.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
3rd Feb '13

I'd leave. 0 tolerance for cheating.

user banned 2 kids; Washington 17453 posts
3rd Feb '13

Obviously she needs to get the hell out of that relationship.

Mak&Row 18 kids; Portland, Oregon 763 posts
3rd Feb '13

What the hell????

nursemaya mom to 3! 3 kids; 5 angel babies; Minnesota 16003 posts
3rd Feb '13

wow the "girlfriend" needs to get the hell away from that. I mean really what makes her the girlfriend in this senario? sounds like more of a fuck buddy situation but with too many strings on her end. she needs to get out

Tay L 1 child; St Paul, Minnesota 719 posts
3rd Feb '13

The girlfriend said that her boyfriend has never done that before. Like he's shown her the messages to prove it, (you can tell when a message has been deleted cause the rest just seem out of place) she said especially the way he messages people, it would be obvious if a message was missing.



She said she's wondering if its cause he might be feeling sex deprived. Cause they haven't had sex in awhile. They are busy with school, work, a kid, and he likes to play video games then go to bed right after. She said that there's night where he'll tell her they are going to do it and then they don't.



So she's thinking that maybe he thinks he can get some from someone else this way and it won't be cheating. (Yet him doing anything with out her, even just getting head, is clearly cheating!) She even agrees! She said this isn't normal behavior, so she doesn't understand why he is being like this.



They have been together for years and have even been talking about getting married.

Idlehands 2 kids; Perth, Australia 6121 posts
3rd Feb '13

I don't think this relationship is equal. He clearly wants an open relationship and she doesn't. She needs to talk to him and either they re- define the boundaries of their relationship and she accepts that or they break up because at the moment it's only going to end in heart break for your friend. IMO at any rate.

Derp Due January 10; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11610 posts
3rd Feb '13

Is this for real?



The girlfriend should dump this guy because he sounds like an idiot. I'm all for couples engaging in threesomes when everyone is on board with it but don't bring in a third party who is currently involved in a monogamous relationship with someone else. That's just asking for drama. In addition to this you said this coworker's parents are strict even though she's of age... Gee, that sounds like even more drama.



This isn't even including the fact that he lied, by the way. Before you even get to the part where he's lying there's already potential drama galore. This girlfriend is an idiot for engaging in any sort of relationship with a guy who's capable of such stupid decisions and wanton behavior.



My conclusion? They're all idiots. They probably deserve each other in all honesty. If they want to copulate like a bunch of fools then have at it. Just be sure to tell the girlfriend and the coworker to double up on birth control or else they'll end up pregnant with Dipshit's baby.

~Raylan's Mama~ 1 child; Tennessee 2116 posts
3rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Derp:</b>" Is this for real? The girlfriend should dump this guy because he sounds like an idiot. I'm all for couples ... [snip!] ... sure to tell the girlfriend and the coworker to double up on birth control or else they'll end up pregnant with Dipshit's baby."</blockquote>




You seem to always have a "bitchy" tone when I read something you wrote(like the way I say it in my head)...but I always end up laughing at what you write lol! You're always blunt and to the point.



OP I agree with everything written here!

Derp Due January 10; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11610 posts
3rd Feb '13
Quoting ~Raylan's Mama~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Derp:</b>" Is this for real? The girlfriend should dump this ... [snip!] ... always end up laughing at what you write lol! You're always blunt and to the point. OP I agree with everything written here!"

Lol, I swear I don't mean to. I'm actually a really nice person and find it hard to be downright mean. I rarely engage in arguments or anything of the sort, especially on BG.



However, I can get pretty darn blunt and to-the-point when people post things that make me ask, "Did you really just say that?" This post just reads like an episode from Maury and if I were to scale my response down to three words it would be, "What the eff?"

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
3rd Feb '13
Quoting Tay L:" The girlfriend said that her boyfriend has never done that before. Like he's shown her the messages ... [snip!] ... understand why he is being like this. They have been together for years and have even been talking about getting married."


If he has time to meet up with next girl....he's got time for his women.



This is cheating, not an open relationship.

~Raylan's Mama~ 1 child; Tennessee 2116 posts
3rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Derp:</b>" Lol, I swear I don't mean to. I'm actually a really nice person and find it hard to be downright mean. ... [snip!] ... post just reads like an episode from Maury and if I were to scale my response down to three words it would be, "What the eff?" "</blockquote>



I can tell you're not really trying to be bitchy! I laugh every time cause I just read it with this attitude. Funnier yet, it's almost always pretty much what I was thinking! Maury? I was thinking Jerry Springer waiting to happen!!! LMAO

Tay L 1 child; St Paul, Minnesota 719 posts
3rd Feb '13

So I guess he told her that sometimes he says things and he doesn't really mean it or plan on doing it. I told her to tell him that makes no sense! Cause why would you tell someone you are going to do something with them, if you aren't really going to do it? That's just stupid!! He used an example of he tells her they are going to do things, like sexual things, but then he never does it. Just stupid! He said she should trust him and at this point he doesn't care if she doesn't cause he isn't going to cheat on her. He didn't mean what he said. (Again stupid! Don't tell someone you are going to do something when you aren't.) He said he isn't going to cheat on her. He just asked that girl those things and told her that but has no intention of actually doing it.



Maybe he was just seeing what he could get from her (the coworker)? Seeing how far she'd be willing to go, thinking if she's willing to do those things, maybe she'd be more open to doing weird things in a threesome? (The ways men think are strange.)



As for meeting up with her, he'd be picking her up from a college that isn't far away from where they live. And taking her to their apt and then taking her home by 3. Gf said the coworker has to be home by 3 or the parents will be suspicious that something is going on and that they are being lied to. (Maybe they pay for her college and that's why they are strict.) I actually used to drive my friend to that very same college that the guys coworker goes to. Its not even far from their apt. Like maybe 10min by car. I drove past their apt to get to the college.