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Need Advice Deanasoar Due March 7 (girl); 17 kids; New Mexico 193 posts
3rd Feb '13

So I'm thinking about changing my number but I'm not sure if i should. I'm 8 months pregnant and I haven't heard from my baby's father since August. (Refer to previous post for details) In the past months I would txt his sister just to talk and honestly because it made me feel better talking to someone from his family, I guess I felt closer to him (lame I know) Anyways, I stopped txting her and hadn't heard from her in a month until today. During this time I have stopped stressing and have felt better about my situation. She txted today and it brought back all these emotions and I've been sad ever since. I want to change my number because hearing from her does nothing but hurt me, but she is the only contact I have with his family, and I would like for my daughter to know at least someone from her dad's family. But as of right now, hearing from her does nothing but upset me. I'm confused right now and I'm emotional and dont wanna do something i'll regret...Should I change it or say something to her or maybe just not txt her back when she txts?

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
3rd Feb '13

honestly having a relationship with you for the baby is better than non but i hate to say it he can give 2 pisses about you and still want to hear about his baby or want to be in its life. id find out where he stands first

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
3rd Feb '13

Changing your number won't change your situation.

Skitti 17 kids; Grand Haven Charter Township, Michigan 1508 posts
3rd Feb '13

If you feel like it might make you feel better not having contact, then do it. But how does his sister treat you? I guess I'd be conflicted too, I'd like to keep the good relationship.

Deanasoar Due March 7 (girl); 17 kids; New Mexico 193 posts
3rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I love Kenzi:</b>" honestly having a relationship with you for the baby is better than non but i hate to say it he can give ... [snip!] ... can give 2 pisses about you and still want to hear about his baby or want to be in its life. id find out where he stands first"</blockquote>



Yea I get that but from what she tells me he never mentions our baby to them and he has another baby due 3 weeks after ours, and hes pretty excited for him. I don't wanna be the bitch and cut off all contact but like i said hearing from her does nothing but upset me...

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
3rd Feb '13
Quoting Deanasoar:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I love Kenzi:</b>" honestly having a relationship with you for ... [snip!] ... for him. I don't wanna be the bitch and cut off all contact but like i said hearing from her does nothing but upset me..."


men can be jerks

Deanasoar Due March 7 (girl); 17 kids; New Mexico 193 posts
3rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Changing your number won't change your situation."</blockquote>



Never once did I say it would. However, it would be easier to control my emotions in this situation if I did.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
3rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Deanasoar:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Changing your number won't change your situation."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... Never once did I say it would. However, it would be easier to control my emotions in this situation if I did."</blockquote>




You need to learn to control your emotions. Not set up speed bumps for them.

Deanasoar Due March 7 (girl); 17 kids; New Mexico 193 posts
3rd Feb '13

C<blockquote><b>Quoting Missie93:</b>" If you feel like it might make you feel better not having contact, then do it. But how does his sister treat you? I guess I'd be conflicted too, I'd like to keep the good relationship."</blockquote>



His sister has been good to me. We only txt though, and even though i know that our relationship isn't about me, its about my baby, I haven't gained anything by talking to her. Like I said it does nothing but make me sad. I'm trying to do the right thing for my daughter though... its just hard

Deanasoar Due March 7 (girl); 17 kids; New Mexico 193 posts
4th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Deanasoar:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" ... [snip!] ... in this situation if I did."</blockquote> You need to learn to control your emotions. Not set up speed bumps for them."</blockquote>



If only it were that easy...

Deanasoar Due March 7 (girl); 17 kids; New Mexico 193 posts
4th Feb '13

Another thing to think about is how this will affect my daughter... right now, everything is pointing to the fact that he wont be involved at all. He changed his number already. So would it hurt my daughter more to know her aunt, but not her dad. I don't want her to feel rejected, and im tying to guard her from that.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
4th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Deanasoar:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Deanasoar:</b>" ... [snip!] ... You need to learn to control your emotions. Not set up speed bumps for them."</blockquote> If only it were that easy..."</blockquote>




Emotions will never be easy. But facing them and learning how to handle them will prepare you better, in the future.

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