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done Vanilla MILFshake. 1 child; Georgia 5471 posts
4th Feb '13

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Think Bαby 17 kids; Nevada 3635 posts
4th Feb '13

We'd be having the sex talk and not the talk about how babies are made. The sex is a huge responsibility physically and emotionally. I'd encourage her to talk to me about anything and then I'd block his number :twisted:

Jane.Doe. Fukushima, Japan 2805 posts
4th Feb '13

YES. I would get in contact with the boys parents immediately, telling them what was sent and asking them to speak to their son about why it was not appropriate.
I would sit down and ask my daughter if she was encouraging or wanted that kind of thing to be sent to her, and explain to her why it isen't appropriate for her age and to knock it off. I would probably also threaten to take her phone away if it continued and tell her not to bother deleting messages or the phone would get taken quicker. Had to do this with mine and the damn xbox live messages crap.

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
4th Feb '13

No I wouldnt say anything to him at all . lol I would just remind my daughter about everything we have talked about sex wise and so on, and hope she makes the right decisions in life. Teens will be teens no matter what.

But if the msgs were something she did not wish to have sent to her, then I would do something more on it, kwim? If they were pressure or unwanted etc.....

wombie 4 kids; Zimbabwe 73281 posts
4th Feb '13

I'd start restricting the phone use and have a very long talk with my daughter about sex, as well as self respect and appropriate conversations with boys (even if she didn't respond inappropriately).



Depending on the nature of the boy's comments, I might talk to him and/or his parents.

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
4th Feb '13

I would talk to her about it and tell her what that leads to.. etc etc and that she should wait for the right person/marriage whatever your beliefs are.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46569 posts
4th Feb '13

Hopefully, by 13 you've already had the sex talk with your daughter.



I would just tell her that conversations like that are inappropriate, and that having a cell phone is a privilege and that you will take it away if she continues to act inappropriately.



I wouldn't say anything to the boy, but I would say something to his parents if it continues.

Vanilla MILFshake. 1 child; Georgia 5471 posts
4th Feb '13

It's actually my little sister, but DH and I have had custody of her since my dad passed away 3 years ago. I have had the sex talk with her. She's usually not afraid to be open with me about things, but I had no idea this little boy was sending her messages like this until this morning. From what I saw, she did not start the conversation and he sent her a message saying he was going to fuck her til she couldn't walk and her reply was something like 'lol, alrighty then'. So, it seemed that she wasn't really going along with it too much.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46569 posts
4th Feb '13
Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:" It's actually my little sister, but DH and I have had custody of her since my dad passed away 3 years ... [snip!] ... walk and her reply was something like 'lol, alrighty then'. So, it seemed that she wasn't really going along with it too much."


15 isn't a "little boy".



I would talk to his parents.

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
4th Feb '13
Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:" It's actually my little sister, but DH and I have had custody of her since my dad passed away 3 years ... [snip!] ... walk and her reply was something like 'lol, alrighty then'. So, it seemed that she wasn't really going along with it too much."


If it was my sister I would tell her to never do something she isn't comfortable with and that she doesn't need a baby at 13 and when she does meet the right guy she needs to get on birth control and have him use protection or if you believe in waiting for marriage tell her that would be best. I wouldnt just my sisters case, I would calmly talk to her about it so she knew I was there for her and that if she ever had any questions or concerns in the future she could talk to me without judgement or punishment.



sorry it's all run on ish

Vanilla MILFshake. 1 child; Georgia 5471 posts
4th Feb '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" 15 isn't a "little boy". I would talk to his parents."


Yeah, DH is friends with his dad and DH is pissed about the whole thing so he said he was going to say something about it. I just told him I wasn't sure if all that was a good idea or not just yet. I told him to at least wait til we heard Ally's side of it all when she gets home from school today.

wombie 4 kids; Zimbabwe 73281 posts
4th Feb '13
Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:" It's actually my little sister, but DH and I have had custody of her since my dad passed away 3 years ... [snip!] ... walk and her reply was something like 'lol, alrighty then'. So, it seemed that she wasn't really going along with it too much."


OMG :x



yeah that is so freakin inappropriate OMG! I don't think of myself as an "old" or naive person but the way kids talk to each other nowadays is absolutely mindblowing to me :x At 13, 14, or 15 I would have never talked like that to a boy and boys wouldn't have talked to me like that.......and it's not like I wasn't interested in sex. I was 14 when I lost my virginity but I would have been horrified to have a conversation like that with a boy.



Yeah, I'd be putting a stop to that immediately. I'm glad you guys have an open relationship that allows her to feel comfortable talking with you so I hope she can kind of understand where you're coming from when you tell her how obnoxiously inappropriate his comments are. I'd definitely be talking to his parents as well. As the mother of a 13 year old boy, I would absolutely want to know if he were sending out messages like that........he needs a lesson on responsible sexual behavior, as well as tact and class (at the VERY least).......

Jane.Doe. Fukushima, Japan 2805 posts
4th Feb '13

wooow yeh I would let DH talk to the dad, that is totally not okay. And let your sis know if she gets unwanted texts to tell them to stop, or let you know so you can handle the little shits >.>