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getting back on the saddle, help! Rayne Simpson 65 kids; Fort Saskatchewan, Alberta 36 posts
4th Feb '13

I haven't had sex since i got pregnant, just over a year ago. I had a big baby, and my scare tissue still hurts every now and then. I am in a new relationship, and I want to try getting back on the saddle.
I'm really nervous, because, well you know the landscape just isn't the same anymore. I don't feel sexy. I bought some lace bras and panties, and I'm hoping that helps make me feel a little more confident. I'm nervous about my boyfriend seeing me naked, seeings how I have stretch marks in places you shouldn't, and it's very ... unappealing. at least in my mind.
I want to talk to him about having sex, but I don't know how to bring it about.
I want to make things interesting in the bedroom, and I want to feel sexy. Does anyone have some good tips to go about that? Please help

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
4th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rayne Simpson:</b>" I haven't had sex since i got pregnant, just over a year ago. I had a big baby, and my scare tissue still ... [snip!] ... make things interesting in the bedroom, and I want to feel sexy. Does anyone have some good tips to go about that? Please help "</blockquote>



I like teddies to cover up anything that makes me feel insecure. It's just a you thing, I'm sure though. I'd talk to your boyfriend about it. I bet he'd reassure you that he thinks you're gorgeous.

~*~*~*~ ; 1 child; Biteme, ca, United States 1716 posts
4th Feb '13

I like to have interesting lighting choices... Like lava lamps,colored candle holders, lights from Spencers . Have you thought about some solo time to get a feel for your body and what feels.good? If you talk to him maybe the best time is not right before you plan on going at it, so you can.get in the mood better later, and he can help you. My bezt friend was in the same boat (it'd been even longer for her though) and this was a run down of some of the things she told me. He is a good guy so he knew to take his time and compliment the parts of her body he loved to make her comfortable.

user banned 1 child; Boston, Massachusetts 30985 posts
4th Feb '13

he definitely thinks you're sexy. he wouldnt be with you if he thought you were ugly and fat. unless he's completely retarded he knows women get stretch marks when they're pregnant. just go with it!

Rayne Simpson 65 kids; Fort Saskatchewan, Alberta 36 posts
4th Feb '13

having a lava lamp sounds interesting.
it's hard to find time for myself, i have thought about solo time though. but it's kinda weird to me.

melindapple 1 child; Michigan 5425 posts
4th Feb '13

do it in a low-dim/dark area for the first couple of times. That's probably what I would do, just to get comfortable. Or wear teddies, like someone else said.