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Baby wont sleep unless in my arms B♥Z 2 kids; Williamsport, Maryland 14245 posts
4th Feb '13

DS is two months old and will not sleep unless he's being held. We can wait for him to fall into a deep sleep and within two minutes of laying him down, he wakes back up screaming to be held again.



I know newborns like to be held, but I don't think this is normal. I am holding him almost 24-7 and it's getting hard because I have a 3 year old and normal household stuff to get done.



He does have reflux so that might have something to do with it. He's not happy in his swing, bouncer, crib (elevated for reflux), my bed, in a baby carrier, etc. The only way he's happy is if I am sitting still and he's laying in my arms.



Did anyone go through this? What did you do? I am getting exhausted/

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Oceanside, CA, United States 112422 posts
status 4th Feb '13

Have you tried swaddling? It might be that squished up feeling LO is looking for.

B♥Z 2 kids; Williamsport, Maryland 14245 posts
4th Feb '13
Quoting Sarah Bare-ah♡:" Have you tried swaddling? It might be that squished up feeling LO is looking for."


Yeah, we have multiple swaddle sacks and he still screams.

Bob Wehadababyitsaboy Due September 10; 2 kids; 4 angel babies; California 29988 posts
4th Feb '13

I went through this with my son it was horrible my arms always hurt and my neck and back from holding him all the time, not to mention how exhausted i was. We started swaddling him at like 3 months to see if it would help and finally he was able to sleep a little bit in his crib but he was still fussy all the time. That whole year was really a blur, i think he grew out of wanting to be held to sleep by the time he was like 6 months?

✰ Mrs. B ✰ 2 kids; Texas 2640 posts
4th Feb '13

Went through it with DD due to her reflux. It lasted until she was nearly 10 months old. I was going to school too, but I'd just wear her in the Moby or Ergo & sleep in glider in her room with her or on the couch. Did that for the 10 months until she kinda outgrew it & I had to retake a class, but it's literally the only thing that gave her comfort & allowed any of us to get sleep since she would cry all the time (colic) if I didn't.

motherofboys 3 kids; Milton-Freewater, Oregon 2263 posts
4th Feb '13

My boys were like that too, I don't think that's abnormal. I ended up putting them in a sling to keep them close so that I could still get stuff done. Some babies just need more cuddling than others. You would never know that my 4 year old used to cling to me considering now he can't even be coaxed into giving mom a hug most of the time, lol. Enjoy the cuddling while you can.

willoughfam Due May 26; 3 kids; Burlington, North Carolina 331 posts
4th Feb '13

IT sounds awful, but I've had to do it and my mom is the one that told me to and she's raised 4 kids and I'm pregnant with her 19th grandbaby (only 4 are mine LOL) but lay him down mama and let him cry it out. I know it's hard, but they need to learn to self-soothe. Otherwise you will never break it. :/ My oldest had severe reflux and was on zantac and reglan(sp?) and slept in my bed, on my arm, cuddled up next to me. I almost never broke that behavior. I listened to him cry many many night and I cried with him. I would suggest swaddle, lay him on an angle (put something under his mattress so he is not flat, no pillows in the crib) and let him cry. :(

B♥Z 2 kids; Williamsport, Maryland 14245 posts
4th Feb '13
Quoting willoughfam:" IT sounds awful, but I've had to do it and my mom is the one that told me to and she's raised 4 kids ... [snip!] ... swaddle, lay him on an angle (put something under his mattress so he is not flat, no pillows in the crib) and let him cry. :("


I refuse to let a 2 month old just cry it out. IMO, that's way too young.

Brown Eyed Girl! Due December 7; 18 kids; North Dakota 12704 posts
4th Feb '13

We have one of these and it was the only place he would sleep(if I wasn't holding him) until I had to let him CIO a few nights in his crib. He's 10 months old and still naps in it. He was sleeping through the night at 2 months old.
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B♥Z 2 kids; Williamsport, Maryland 14245 posts
4th Feb '13
Quoting Brown Eyed Girl!:" We have one of these and it was the only place he would sleep(if I wasn't holding him) until I had to ... [snip!] ... him CIO a few nights in his crib. He's 10 months old and still naps in it. He was sleeping through the night at 2 months old. "


I was just thinking about these. Ill look into it, thanks!

Trace1886 66 kids; Dayton, Ohio 552 posts
4th Feb '13

I use a moby wrap and wear dd during day and.at night after eating(has reflux) prop myself with pillows and she falls asleep on chest. Then after aehile slowly lay her down(shes a side sleeper) and she sleeps 6-7hrs...ds was same way and he goes to sleep fine no (ds is 18months)...i also do not cio

raptor mommy saves 1 child; Berlin, Germany 698 posts
4th Feb '13
Quoting willoughfam:" IT sounds awful, but I've had to do it and my mom is the one that told me to and she's raised 4 kids ... [snip!] ... swaddle, lay him on an angle (put something under his mattress so he is not flat, no pillows in the crib) and let him cry. :("


I thought even CIO advocates recommend not using it untill the baby is atleast 6 months old?!

B♥Z 2 kids; Williamsport, Maryland 14245 posts
4th Feb '13
Quoting raptor mommy saves:" I thought even CIO advocates recommend not using it untill the baby is atleast 6 months old?! "


That's what I've always heard too. I think people are nuts if they let a newborn CIO.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Oceanside, CA, United States 112422 posts
status 4th Feb '13
Quoting raptor mommy saves:" I thought even CIO advocates recommend not using it untill the baby is atleast 6 months old?! "


4-6 months but everything I've read says do not just let your baby cry. More like a fuss.