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.Enigma. clusterfuck, LA, Sri Lanka 107102 posts
5th Feb '13
Quoting I love Auburn:" My friend isn't a bad mother by any means. I just feel that she's always working and barley is at home ... [snip!] ... she should wait awhile longer. I'm not constantly telling her that either, we talked about it once and never spoke of it again"


Maybe she prefers not being home 24/7

It's really not your place to judge.

PJ&C 2 kids; Arizona 18480 posts
5th Feb '13
Quoting I love Auburn:" My friend isn't a bad mother by any means. I just feel that she's always working and barley is at home for the first child .. I'm usually the one babysitting .. maybe she should wait awhile longer."


But that is her choice, it might not be the right choice for you life.

Soon 2B Mom of 2 2 kids; North Highlands, California 3785 posts
5th Feb '13
Quoting I love Auburn:" My friend isn't a bad mother by any means. I just feel that she's always working and barley is at home ... [snip!] ... she should wait awhile longer. I'm not constantly telling her that either, we talked about it once and never spoke of it again"


I know how hard it can be when you see someone you love doing something you think is wrong, or stupid. I go through the same thing with my brother constantly, but in the end, it isnt worth your relationship. People are going to do what they want. The key is to support them even when you really feel like it is a mistake. You said your bit, now let it go.

I love Auburn 1 child; Illinois 22 posts
5th Feb '13
Quoting Soon 2B Mom of 2:" I know how hard it can be when you see someone you love doing something you think is wrong, or stupid. ... [snip!] ... do what they want. The key is to support them even when you really feel like it is a mistake. You said your bit, now let it go."



This. You're right.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
5th Feb '13

When I was pregnant with DS and DD1 was just over a year old, my ex-best friend came at me like "I was thinking you should get a job too, it would be better if you were both working because you're going to have two kids now and you need the money" blah blah blah. She would have been better to keep her mouth shut and let me decide if I wanted to get a job while pregnant. :roll: You should let it go for sure. She'll only take it as you judging her, which isn't what a real friend should do IMO.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
5th Feb '13
Quoting I love Auburn:" My friend isn't a bad mother by any means. I just feel that she's always working and barley is at home ... [snip!] ... she should wait awhile longer. I'm not constantly telling her that either, we talked about it once and never spoke of it again"


mabe your friend wants to have kids that start school close together???? when my oldest went to kindergarten, i had to wait 4 yrs for #2 to go to school but #3 was only 11mo younger than #2 so they went to kindergarten only a year apart. It was nice for them to go to school together :)

Man in stockings 1 child; Colorado 2766 posts
5th Feb '13

I understand where you are coming from in thinking she SHOULDN'T be doing something. Believe me, my husband and I have conversations about things like this all time, and how our friends and family members aren't financially responsible and are always broke, yet they seem to go out all the time, or buy new cars all the time, but when it comes to paying back owed debt to other people they never have it. But do we tell our friends and family they are being stupid with their money?
No, bc it's their money and their life. There is nothing we can say or do to make them think other wise.



Just support her. For all you know it could take a year or longer to get pregnant, plus the 9 months baking time.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
5th Feb '13
Quoting He's my Momma's boy:" I understand where you are coming from in thinking she SHOULDN'T be doing something. Believe me, my husband ... [snip!] ... other wise. Just support her. For all you know it could take a year or longer to get pregnant, plus the 9 months baking time."

We do this also. We have friends who we ask if they want to go out or whatever, and they're all "No I spent all my paycheck already on bills" and literally the next day they post on FB how they are both going to get new tattoos. You would think they would remember blowing us off the night before and realize if they want to pull off their lie not to post how they obviously lied. We don't talk to them much anymore. :/