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user banned 19 kids; Japan 4077 posts
6th Feb '13

When he hooked it up, were you guys allowed to see your baby in that time?? Or was it like if he didnt hook it up you guys were still going to be stuck in the hotel anyways until you were allowed to visit him?? Because I mean if you were already going to have to stay there then it only makes sense to just find a way to distract yourself.



I don't know. It does seem like there are more underlying issues. I truly hope it works out though. Hopefully you guys can talk about it and somehow understand eachother's reasoning more.

user banned 19 kids; Japan 4077 posts
6th Feb '13

If be angry too if I had just given birth and my husband didnt want to stay in The hospital with me too. :(



Maybe he's afraid to confront fatherhood??

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
6th Feb '13

I think you're making a HUGE unnecessary deal about this PS3. So the guy can't live without his PS3. Did you not know this when you guys were together and got pregnant?

Rebecca(Adam'sMommy) 1 child; Beaufort, South Carolina 3251 posts
6th Feb '13

I dont think that would bother me at all.. i mean im sure hes not on it during important times.. i MADE SO bring ours when we had DS so we could play COD lol.

user banned 19 kids; Japan 4077 posts
7th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):</b>" I think you're making a HUGE unnecessary deal about this PS3. So the guy can't live without his PS3. Did you not know this when you guys were together and got pregnant? "</blockquote>




That's what I was thinking. Lol don't get with a gamer if you are anti-video games. Me on the other hand, well I need to make special arrangements on when I can play because my husband is always wanting to play lol



But I think there is a way more underlying issue here. Because I can't imagine just the PS3 being such a problem.



I do agree with her being mad for him not wanting to be there with her after she gave birth. That would hurt my feelings if I just gave birth and my husband didnt want to spend time there with me. :/

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
7th Feb '13
Quoting ℳizz ℊiz. :" <blockquote><b>Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):</b>" I think you're making a HUGE unnecessary ... [snip!] ... she gave birth. That would hurt my feelings if I just gave birth and my husband didnt want to spend time there with me. :/"


I understand this too but the baby was already at the hospital when he brought the PS3 to the room so it's like I see where he's coming from you know. I mean, I probably would had brought my laptop, or something to pass time faster.

I am not a gamer, DH is thought. I knew this when we got toguether and I didn't expect for it to change which is why I ask.

He rather work and make money than spend 24/7 on a video games. On his day off though, he is online if not all then most of the day. I don't complain though. I'd join him but he plays Black Ops 2 or games like that. I am horrible so don't bother lol.



Mrs.Sherwood ☮ 21 Weeks Due January 12 (girl); Mesa, AZ, United States 4071 posts
7th Feb '13
Quoting BrandiReed:" I want to stab him in the face. All these boys overly attached to their game systems? Our son was ... [snip!] ... not ever around more than an hour or two. And now this. I'm sorry. You can live without the f**king thing for a minute."


Honestly OP, he doesn't sounds like a very good guy. The fact that he wasn't there for you when you were induced, and now his son is sick and all he can think is "I need to be sure and pack the PS3"? Kinda pathetic, IMO. I'm so thankful DH isn't into video games. His thing is his Harley V-Rod, and at least we get to enjoy that together. Plus, his V-Rod isn't an obsession and it would be the last thing on his mind if I was ill or in the hospital. You deserve better. OP, and so does your son.

user banned 19 kids; Japan 4077 posts
7th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Sherwood:</b>" Honestly OP, he doesn't sounds like a very good guy. The fact that he wasn't there for you when you ... [snip!] ... and it would be the last thing on his mind if I was ill or in the hospital. You deserve better. OP, and so does your son."</blockquote>




But how do you know that's "all he could think about". He probably already knew they would be in the hotel waiting for the oppurtunity to see their son. So he brought it to kill time and get his mind off things. Not everyone enjoys sitting in a hotel room full of worry doing NOTHING but thinking of things that could go wrong. some people distract themselves in all sorts of ways. this was obviously his. Not to mention he brought it for both of them to watch Netflix. I dunno.... I honestly would not decipher him bringing his ps3 as "he's a crappy husband and father who does not care."

Mrs.Sherwood ☮ 21 Weeks Due January 12 (girl); Mesa, AZ, United States 4071 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting ℳizz ℊiz. :" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Sherwood:</b>" Honestly OP, he doesn't sounds like a very ... [snip!] ... I dunno.... I honestly would not decipher him bringing his ps3 as "he's a crappy husband and father who does not care.""


Well, obviously it was on his mind (and not in a small way) since he thought to bring it while his son was in the NICU. My husband would never think to bring a gaming console to a hotel room if our child was sick. He'd be at the hospital, or we'd be at the hotel TOGETHER. The way OP stated it, it doesn't sound like he ACTUALLY wanted to use the PS3 for Netflix. Maybe you have lower standards for your relationship, but in my marriage - we are there for each other. I was in the hospital for months and you can bet my husband was by my side every moment that he wasn't at work. We don't sit around and play video games when one of us is in need. This is an open forum for opinions, sorry you don't agree with mine. Sounds like maybe you need to reevaluate your priorities in your marriage - or maybe you're angry because your SO needs to reevaluate his.

user banned 19 kids; Japan 4077 posts
8th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Sherwood:</b>" Well, obviously it was on his mind (and not in a small way) since he thought to bring it while his son ... [snip!] ... maybe you need to reevaluate your priorities in your marriage - or maybe you're angry because your SO needs to reevaluate his."</blockquote>




Haha lower standards?? No Hun. Lol. My husband and I are there for eachother all the time. We never fight or argue and are very happy. And OP and her guy WERE at the hotel TOGETHER. if he knew they would be sitting in a hotel waiting forever to see their kid then I don't see the big deal in bringing something to distract you from the stress and worry. She clearly stated that she knows he CARES. So him caring isn't even an issue on her mind apparently.



Please refrain from comparing your marriage to mine lol. I mean seriously?? Do I even know you?? Obviously if you feel the need to be comparing your marriage to other people's in the first place (when NEITHER marriages were even what was on topic for discussion) there is something up.



And lmao oh yes!! We need to re evaluate our priorities and I'm SOOO ANGRY about it. Lmao dude. Chill out. I'm sorry that it bothers you for some strange reason that my husband and I are a happy gaming couple. Do we let gaming get in the way of what is important?? Noooo.... Lol. So mind your own business haha!!



Lol. Angry. I married my best friend of almost 9 years. Yes I must be a very angry woman.



I find it strange that by me asking "how do u know that was all that was on OP's mans mind" that you go crazy defensive about your own marriage and try to bring mine down. Sounds like you got your own personal marriage issues there. Lol good luck with that one!!

Bye. 19 kids; Japan 62 posts
8th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Sherwood:</b>" Well, obviously it was on his mind (and not in a small way) since he thought to bring it while his son ... [snip!] ... maybe you need to reevaluate your priorities in your marriage - or maybe you're angry because your SO needs to reevaluate his."</blockquote>




lol it does sound like she is on major defense. no body even brought up our marriage or hers. everyone was talking about the first person's post. sorry but me and my wife are incredibly happy. and both our standards are set where they should be. my family always comes first. nice try though! =)

Mrs.Sherwood ☮ 21 Weeks Due January 12 (girl); Mesa, AZ, United States 4071 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting ℳizz ℊiz. :" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Sherwood:</b>" Well, obviously it was on his mind (and ... [snip!] ... marriage and try to bring mine down. Sounds like you got your own personal marriage issues there. Lol good luck with that one!!"


How exactly were you not comparing your marriage to hers? "Id be angry too if I had just given birth and my husband didnt want to stay in The hospital with me too." This entire post is about how OP was upset at her SO for not being there for her and her son. I'm not sure if you're being intentionally obtuse, but clearly this post is about relationships (hence it being in the "Sex and Relationships" category. Try reading sometime, you might catch on quicker). Trust me, my husband and I have been through more than you can possibly imagine and we've done it with amazing love and respect. I have nothing to be 'defensive' about in my marriage - we have been blissfully married for over 3 years and we always put each other FIRST (as it should be). We don't argue, we don't yell, and we certainly don't play video games when one of us is in the hospital. If you think it's acceptable for your husband to bring a video game console while your child is in the NICU, then terrific. Go ahead and play games while you spouse needs you. We have spent months living in a hospital dealing with surgeries and procedures, and you can bet my husband was there, holding my hand the entire time.
And by the way, nice job bringing in your SO to fight your battles. You and your SO need to get your priorities straight if either of you think it's ok for OP's spouse to play video games while her child is in the hospital, possibly dying. And by the way, you say I'm defensive, and yet you have to bring in your SO to fight your battles for you. That's about as defensive as it gets hun. Have a nice day and enjoy your 'marriage'. :lol:

user banned 19 kids; Japan 4077 posts
8th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Sherwood:</b>" How exactly were you not comparing your marriage to hers? "Id be angry too if I had just given birth ... [snip!] ... SO to fight your battles for you. That's about as defensive as it gets hun. Have a nice day and enjoy your 'marriage'. :lol:"</blockquote>




Lady you need to get a grip and chill out. Lol



Lol don't know why marriage was in quotes but ya. We enjoy our marriage. Thanks. :) lol and actually my husband thinks you're ridiculous as well. It was his choice to say what he wants on here. Lol calm yourself woman and stop with the essays.

Mrs.Sherwood ☮ 21 Weeks Due January 12 (girl); Mesa, AZ, United States 4071 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting ℳizz ℊiz. :" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Sherwood:</b>" How exactly were you not comparing your ... [snip!] ... you're ridiculous as well. It was his choice to say what he wants on here. Lol calm yourself woman and stop with the essays."


"Essay's"? Lmao! :lol: I'm sorry, I'll try to keep it short so you can keep up. You addressed me first, remember? So if anyone needs to "chill", it's you. I literally could not care less what your immature husband thinks of me and my marriage. You don't even want to know what my educated, intelligent husband thinks of you or your SO. He's far too concerned with spending time with his wife and working on his successful career to have a profile on a site intended for women and pregnancy. So once again, have a great day.

user banned 19 kids; Japan 4077 posts
8th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Sherwood:</b>" "Essay's"? Lmao! :lol: I'm sorry, I'll try to keep it short so you can keep up. You addressed me first, ... [snip!] ... working on his successful career to have a profile on a site intended for women and pregnancy. So once again, have a great day."</blockquote>




Dude haha I don't care what you have to say. Lol you're wasting your time writing me.