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Mara Due September 27; 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38964 posts
7th Feb '13

regarding bottle propping... it's a little telling that you don't have the time to attend to your helpless baby's needs.



i'd set up the time and focus on my child.



*glances at mothers of multiple kids*



I WOULD.



besides, it's not really your fault you're trying to take care of three kids alone. no one should be constantly in that state w/ a helpless infant.



that's the modern world, though. mothers w/ babies too young to feed themselves NEED SUPPORT... especially if they have other children.



the breakdown of breastfeeding in modern society is really indicative of how very disconnected we've become. how the structure is set up to create mental issues like depression go WAAAAAY out of whack.



don't bottle prop if you can sit down and focus on your child.



your house cleaning can wait.



your other children can't. try and do the dance carefully if you're at home w/ more than one child. avoid bottle-propping if you can.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
7th Feb '13
Quoting Mara:" regarding bottle propping... it's a little telling that you don't have the time to attend to your helpless ... [snip!] ... children can't. try and do the dance carefully if you're at home w/ more than one child. avoid bottle-propping if you can."


I did it when I was bathing and needed to get out and dried etc or I was pumping.



She always got hungry when I was pumping. :roll: :x Eventually, I got good at feeding her while holding onto the pump horns. She wasn't cuddled but lying in the crook of my knees while i sat cross legged on the cold floor.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5828 posts
7th Feb '13
Quoting Mara:" regarding bottle propping... it's a little telling that you don't have the time to attend to your helpless ... [snip!] ... children can't. try and do the dance carefully if you're at home w/ more than one child. avoid bottle-propping if you can."


I've got 4 month old along with a 2 year old and a 4 year. It's not too difficult to sit down and feed her for 10-15 minutes.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
7th Feb '13

And I'm sure there were moments when I propped to attend the other kiddos; specifically when Eva was a newb because Misa was barely over a year old.



It wasn't the norm for me but I did utilize it if I had to.

Cakes. 1 child; Michigan 2429 posts
7th Feb '13
Quoting Mara:" regarding bottle propping... it's a little telling that you don't have the time to attend to your helpless ... [snip!] ... children can't. try and do the dance carefully if you're at home w/ more than one child. avoid bottle-propping if you can."


As a mother who wasn't able to BF, it's VERY important to me to hold my baby while she eats. I feel like I'm missing out on such a special bond, but as long as I'm holding her close to me when I'm feeding her I don't feel so bad. If she's hungry, everything else can wait. I do only have one child though..so far.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting κατι:" Oh I understand what you mean now. You know I do need to get use to leaving the house with him alone,Because ... [snip!] ... my SO goes out of town for work alot he just hasn't had to since LO was born. ETA: Thanks for pointing that out. :D"


IDK how old your LO is, but the person I responded to had a 10 month old. By that age, yes, you should in fact be able to manage to go somewhere without anyone but you & babe. That is life. I think it is AWESOME to have lots & lots of support. Take it if you can get it. There is a difference though between having someone there as a crutch versus as help. My sister used to grocery shop with us a lot because she needed a ride & I enjoyed the company in crappy weather so that I could take our groceries, load the car, get it at least a little warmed, while she waited inside with baby, etc, BUT it wasn't every single time nor did I feel at all intimidated to go without her. It was nice if she could go & fine if she couldn't. That was my only point - you need to get used to doing it yourself. Take help if you can use it, but don't rely on it to be able to get by. When I had my 2nd I was out doing the shopping alone within 2 week s(and feeling totally fine to do it). I had a great recovery (that makes an ENORMOUS DIFFERENCE - I would not have been out if I was hurting) & I wanted to get my stuff done while Dh was at work so we could have family time when he was home.

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 5487 posts
8th Feb '13

I propped my babies bottle only when I was doing something like folding laundry next to them. I would never do it unsupervised.

KatiRose1 Japan 4 posts
8th Feb '13

I did prop my 3 kids bottles, from day one. Of course not all the time but when it was supper feeding and I was cooking, but they were always in hearing range. I don't think it has an effect on the children emotionally, but I do think that if they are laying with a bottle propped and it is just sitting in their mouths, that it definately has an affect on them physically, as it may cause teeth decay. I was not concerned with this with my children as they were all very good eaters. There was no lingering milk.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
8th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" Never have, never would with any child, I find it incredibly lazy to do so."</blockquote>




It's not always lazy.



For example, baby's eating and your other child wants a snack. You don't want them to get hurt by trying to cut up a piece of fruit or something so you prop it to get their snack. Or say the other is on the potty and needs help wiping. You need your hands and a baby doesn't like to wait, neither does a toddler. I'd rather prop it for a minute than have poop everywhere. <<<---- real situations.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
8th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting justanothamotha:</b>" I breastfed....so there was no point. I have a thing about propping. I figure if we were meant to prop ... [snip!] ... it was my 3 yr old & that was not often nor for long. Plus he could reason fairly well & was easy to appease often."</blockquote>




That's part of why I quit breast feeding early than I would have liked. My 2 year old didn't get as much time with me as he needed. DD was a cluster feeder.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
8th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~Raylan's Mama~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting S*its ... [snip!] ... late. At 10 that's when I'd pick up my phone, call and tell them I'm on my way, something just came up, had to feed baby, etc."</blockquote>




You're only allowed to be 15 minutes late at my doc or they cancel it. No excuses.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
8th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Ice Princess~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... to feed baby, etc."</blockquote> You're only allowed to be 15 minutes late at my doc or they cancel it. No excuses."</blockquote>




But I would never prop in a car..or a bed. I have missed appointments because of the kids eating, or puking, pooping, peeing on themselves, etc. right before we leave...

~Raylan's Mama~ 1 child; Tennessee 2114 posts
8th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Ice Princess~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~Ice Princess~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" ... [snip!] ... I have missed appointments because of the kids eating, or puking, pooping, peeing on themselves, etc. right before we leave..."</blockquote>



I wouldn't mind having to cancel in certain situations but here it takes at least 6 weeks to get another appointment and I usually am going for a good reason considering I have to pay put of pocket to see them.

Mama♥Breezy 2 kids; Los Angeles, California 34986 posts
9th Feb '13

I propped a few times with my daughter. I had a 2 year old when Ezzy was a newb. At times he would cry or need me, so I would take her into whatever room he was in, and laid her in the bouncer with her bottle. Lucky for me, she was holding it on her own by 4 months though. I always held her when I could, and I understand not all moms can do that every single time.

Subtle As A Hurricane 2 kids; Texas 4126 posts
9th Feb '13

I never did it when DD was tiny. When she was a few months old, I did it on occasion, but only when I was right next to her. Usually when I was on a time crunch trying to get homework done, and everyone else who would normally help with DD couldn't.