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*B & D Mommy* Due January 19; 2 kids; Illinois 16111 posts
6th Feb '13

Honestly? Just take the kids car seats and use his car. And tell him to get the hell over it.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
6th Feb '13

Im so glad I dont have that problem ... my car is manual and SO only has his auto license.

Just a Mama of 2 34 kids; Eaton, Ohio 1507 posts
6th Feb '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" Even though it irritated the shit out of me, SO has driven both my cars like that when he had his own. ... [snip!] ... of your car & use his. You aren't planning to go many places anyways. Its more gas efficient for him to take yours isn't it?"


I suppose for his whole ONE MILE drive!!!! lol

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56009 posts
6th Feb '13
Quoting Just a Mama of 2:" Yeah my friends tell me he is. Seeing as how he is the only one and his money goes into HIS BANK ACCOUNT... ... [snip!] ... And He's particular about my cellphone, Who I text, when I text them, and If I text them MORE or BEFORE him he gets mad at me."


That is essed up hun. Controlling and isolating behavior.



I would think long and hard if you want to continue this relationship. And please, recognize the signs before it turns into something more

Addi&Aria'smama Due January 23 (girl); 1 child; 1 angel baby; Florissant, Missouri 5710 posts
status 6th Feb '13

It sounds like he is using the car as a means to control you. Especially, telling you that he will take you to the store on his lunch or you can go at 12:30am. The whole situation seems weird. I understand if it was a blizzard or something that he would want to use your car but why can't he drive his when the roads are fine? I think there is more to the story.

Aiden,Jared&Olivia's momm 35 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 686 posts
6th Feb '13

I say fuck that it's YOUR car make him take his.

Nicola =) 1 child; Huntsville, Alabama 2783 posts
6th Feb '13
Quoting Just a Mama of 2:" Yeah my friends tell me he is. Seeing as how he is the only one and his money goes into HIS BANK ACCOUNT... ... [snip!] ... And He's particular about my cellphone, Who I text, when I text them, and If I text them MORE or BEFORE him he gets mad at me."


Sounds like a bad situation to me. I wouldn't put up with it. I would sit him down and have a list ready of the things, like listed above, that need to change and go from there.



Everyone's marriage is different but for us car, bank accounts, everything is "ours" not just his or mine.

Just a Mama of 2 34 kids; Eaton, Ohio 1507 posts
6th Feb '13
Quoting Captain Obvious:" Take the car seats out of your car, put them in his and use his gas guzzling bitch of a car to drive all the fuck over town...that's what I would do :D"


I HATE driving his car.... but i'd be willing to ignore the hate of driving his "boat" just to do that lol

Roo & Sophie's mama 2 kids; Denton, Texas 9318 posts
6th Feb '13
Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:" Is he controlling in any other way? Or abusive at all?"

That was my first thought.

*B & D Mommy* Due January 19; 2 kids; Illinois 16111 posts
6th Feb '13
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" That is essed up hun. Controlling and isolating behavior. I would think long and hard if you want to continue this relationship. And please, recognize the signs before it turns into something more"


I have to agree with you.

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
6th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just a Mama of 2:</b>" I suppose for his whole ONE MILE drive!!!! lol"</blockquote>




Lmfao! I must have missed that part. Take your keys & tell him to drive his own & that if he doesn't & keeps you trapped at home that your leaving

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18075 posts
6th Feb '13
Quoting Just a Mama of 2:" Yeah my friends tell me he is. Seeing as how he is the only one and his money goes into HIS BANK ACCOUNT... ... [snip!] ... And He's particular about my cellphone, Who I text, when I text them, and If I text them MORE or BEFORE him he gets mad at me."


I think he might be cheating on you. . . :/

Just a Mama of 2 34 kids; Eaton, Ohio 1507 posts
6th Feb '13
Quoting Addi's Momma:" It sounds like he is using the car as a means to control you. Especially, telling you that he will take ... [snip!] ... that he would want to use your car but why can't he drive his when the roads are fine? I think there is more to the story."


THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT I HAVE BEEN ASKING HIM!!! He then switches from "OH I WANT TO DRIVE IT WHEN THE ROADS ARE BAD." to.. "MY CAR USES TOO MUCH GAS." I told him, YOU KNEW THAT WHEN YOU BOUGHT THE CAR 3 YEARS AGO!!!! TOO DAMN BAD! SELL THE POS AND GET YOUR OWN HONDA!!!

LevinOnJetPlaneDntKnoWenI Pennsylvania 1590 posts
6th Feb '13

Ok now I get it. Either take your keys off his keyring so he has no key to drive your car (and hide your keys) so he has no choice but to take his or just start driving his car and then tell him the tank is empty and he needs to fill it. It is ridiculous that you have no car for emergencies or to go anywhere. I'd be pissed if I couldnt go visit my grandmother or my kids cousins during the day. And techincally hes financially abusing you by not letting you have any money. Not to mention him watching you do everything sounds to me like some red flags

Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
6th Feb '13
Quoting Just a Mama of 2:" I HATE driving his car.... but i'd be willing to ignore the hate of driving his "boat" just to do that lol"


I mean, you said he just bought the car a few months ago..have you asked him why the fuck he picked that one if he doesn't feel it's safe and doesn't wanna fucking drive it??