Cast Your Vote:
- i spank. -- Votes: 16
- i don't spank. -- Votes: 20
- i do sometimes. -- Votes: 32
<blockquote><b>Quoting κατι:</b>" I didn't see the need for it either."</blockquote>
I really like your AVI btw.
I was never spanked on the ass. I got smacked in my mouth when I got overly mouthy with my mother as a teen and she'd slap my hands if I was touching things I shouldn't when I was younger. Her being mad and taking a tone was scary enough for me lol.
I don't WANT to spank but, I will if it comes to it. It would absolutely be my last resort. I'd rather try to teach him WHY he can't do things and know they're wrong instead of him being scared he'll get spanked if he does it. I have been tapping him on the hand once in awhile because he's grabbing the stove and things like that. I give him a little tap and say, "No. Its hot. Ouch!" And he goes, "ow, tssss" like a steam sound. Lol.
What is spanking to you?
Hitting a child.
Where you ever spanked as a child?
Do you spank your own children?
No, never. I even had it written into my custody order that no one is allowed to employ corporal punishments/physical discipline with my child.
i'm not against it, but i've only had to do it once. it wasn't my own... there were four kids i watched pretty regularly and had permission to from their parents. like i said, though, it only got to that point once.
We will spank if it is the last resort. Both DH and I were spanked growing up, but only when we had done something really wrong and our moms had tried other things and we still hadn't listened. And it worked for us, I know when my mom spanked me I knew she meant business...her taking things away never really worked. Timeouts did nothing. I don't have any resentment or hate towards my mom, nor do I feel that it emotionally traumatized me. I know I was wrong, I still did it..I got punished....I learned.
My husband was never spanked, my siblings and I were spanked but it wasn't base on the severity of the offense, it was based on how mad my parents were about it. It was unpredictable and it came whenever they would get particularly frustrated with us. I think that's wrong. It's no longer discipline in that case, it's an angry reaction by the parents and it's to make them feel better.
I won't spank my kids, i dont think violence is the answer to ANY problem. My lack of willingness to hit my children does not mean that I don't discipline them or that they are allowed to do whatever they want. They are aware of our rules and why the exist. I think understanding why we have the rules we have and why they need to follow them helps a child behave better than any discipline ever will. Prevention of bad or dangerous behavior works better than punishment of bad or dangerous behavior. They are very well behaved and respectful kids. Time outs and loss of privelidges works well for us when we do need to discipline them.
Quoting Venus p***s Trap.
<blockquote><b>Quoting A is Me:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Venus p***s Trap.
Personally, I was spanked as a child and turned out fine -so was every one else I know around me and they're all good normal people too, lol.
Yes, there's a line you never cross but it's a pretty obvious line.
Most think when you spank they get this image in their head of a dramatic beating scene that's so far from the real truth it's pathetic!
My husband and I spank our daughter as needed. With that said, everytime she misbehaves she doesn't get a spanking. Most of the time a "spanking" used in our house is a simple pop on the bottom or a slight slap on the hand -nothing strong enough to even turn her skin red but just enough to get her full attention when nothing else will. I don't use the same techniques my parents used either -no belts, paddles or hickories -to me a bare hand is the best way. And no my daughter does not believe hitting is ok -she has never had problems being physical toward other children.
I use other forms of punishment as well, it's a case by case basis.
And every child is different, as is every parent! And if a child doesn't respond well to the spanking then don't do it, or if the parent is afraid of going over the line DO NOT do it!
If this ^ is what your child's father is afraid of because of how he was raised, then let him leave the spanking to you. Usually the fathers are more intimidating anyways.
You have to find what works for you and your spouse and mostly your child.
I don't look down on others for how they believe personally -I understand people have different views and this can be a touchy subject for some.
Quoting Venus p***s Trap.
<blockquote><b>Quoting iLL-Legal Alien:</b>" We will spank if it is the last resort. Both DH and I were spanked growing up, but only when we had done ... [snip!] ... my mom, nor do I feel that it emotionally traumatized me. I know I was wrong, I still did it..I got punished....I learned."</blockquote>
<blockquote><b>Quoting Venus p***s Trap.
If you define spanking as one or two swats on the hiney, I have done it and will do it again. I wouldn't do more than 2.
It's been a few months since I have and when I did do it, the frequency was probably about every 6weeks (if I were to track it).
My LO did NOT respond to it well when she was 2. T/o was much more effective.
At 3, the shock value of the swat made a huge difference and got my point across quicky.
At 4, she is really good. I'm keeping it as a useful tool for later, if I think the situation warrants it.
And yes, I was spanked as a kid. I have to fight my urge to hit quite often.
But, my brother and I turned out great.
Quoting InkDMomma:" My step-dad's thing he ALWAYS used to say was " kids are like dogs, if you beat sense into 'em they will learn""
that's f**king terrible :(
I think there's a well define line between spanking and beating a child. Both are not the same thing.
I was spanked as a kid, I tend to "swat" my daughter from time to time, but it's not our primary approach to discipline.
Unless a child is obviously being abused, I dont care a bit if a parent chooses to spank.