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Seriously, so angry... Levis Mommy 1 child; New York 144 posts
6th Feb '13

OK! SOOO, my boyfriend lived with his grandmother since he was about 17 (he's now 26), just recently she passed leaving the house to her 3 daughters (my boyfriends mom and two aunts). However, the aunts just walk right into the house unannounced at any given time! They're extremely rude to me while I'm there but they only do it when my boyfriends not looking. They accused me of stealing, and changing the house locks on several different occasions! (Like I seriously want that stuff!) It makes me feel so uncomfortable and frustrated, I get so much stress and anxiety about it! I told my boyfriend to please ask them if they could avoid going to the home while he was gone (so I wasn't alone there with them, I become their personal target when I'm alone) He told me NO. there was nothing he could do about it. WHAT THE HELL. I found out that since it was his place of residency for so long they couldn't kick him out, that it was his home (even though he doesn't pay rent, and doesn't own it...yet. <--he's in the process of buying it now). Is it even legal for the aunt to come and go as they please? They walked in the house one day while he was at work and took the microwave right off the kitchen counter, he wasn't upset until he realized that's how we heat my sons food! It seriously makes me so peeved!

Juggernog-aholic 4 kids; 2 angel babies; P, AR, United States 20113 posts
6th Feb '13

Why can't you heat your son's food in/on the stove?

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
6th Feb '13

It's their house so they can do what they please. Once the title is in your boyfriend's name, they lose all rights to the house.



You'll have to just suck it up until then.

LevinOnJetPlaneDntKnoWenI Pennsylvania 1590 posts
6th Feb '13

A lease of some sort would fix that but all parties have to agree and sign it and maybe notarize (sp?) it.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Golden Coast, CA, United States 116766 posts
6th Feb '13

They own the home, they can come in whenever they want.

Levis Mommy 1 child; New York 144 posts
6th Feb '13

An officer told us that they had no right coming into the home as they do, it's to be treated as if we were renting the home. A landlord wouldn't just walk into the tenants place, just because they felt like it. That how it was described to me, but since my boyfriend is trying to buy the home from the aunts, he doesn't want to make any trouble because it'd make purchasing the home harder.

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
6th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Levis Mommy:</b>" An officer told us that they had no right coming into the home as they do, it's to be treated as if we ... [snip!] ... is trying to buy the home from the aunts, he doesn't want to make any trouble because it'd make purchasing the home harder. "</blockquote>




Yeah well he's not paying rent.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Golden Coast, CA, United States 116766 posts
6th Feb '13
Quoting Levis Mommy:" An officer told us that they had no right coming into the home as they do, it's to be treated as if we ... [snip!] ... is trying to buy the home from the aunts, he doesn't want to make any trouble because it'd make purchasing the home harder. "


There isnt a lease...so its not the same.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
6th Feb '13
Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Levis Mommy:</b>" An officer told us that they had no right ... [snip!] ... want to make any trouble because it'd make purchasing the home harder. "</blockquote> Yeah well he's not paying rent."

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There's no written agreement anywhere. If he's living there for free (essentially) it's really no different than living under their roof. Just like they have every right to come into the room you're staying in for free, they have every right to come into the house your staying in for free.

3 little monsters 3 kids; Olathe, Colorado 50990 posts
6th Feb '13
Quoting Levis Mommy:" An officer told us that they had no right coming into the home as they do, it's to be treated as if we ... [snip!] ... is trying to buy the home from the aunts, he doesn't want to make any trouble because it'd make purchasing the home harder. "


But he's not a tenant if he's not paying rent right? Was the microwave yours? I'd be mad about the microwave if so and probably about the rest too but I really don't think there is much you can do about it. They own the house and he's not renting it from them. They do sound rude and intrusive though.

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22020 posts
6th Feb '13
Quoting Levis Mommy:" An officer told us that they had no right coming into the home as they do, it's to be treated as if we ... [snip!] ... is trying to buy the home from the aunts, he doesn't want to make any trouble because it'd make purchasing the home harder. "


but they aren't renting the home out to him. Are they going to sell it to him?

Levis Mommy 1 child; New York 144 posts
6th Feb '13

I guess it just really frustrates me that they use me as a target, and he does nothing about it. Even after I've talked to him about it. I've been nothing but nice to them, and they've just treated me so poorly, you know?

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
6th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Levis Mommy:</b>" I guess it just really frustrates me that they use me as a target, and he does nothing about it. Even ... [snip!] ... Even after I've talked to him about it. I've been nothing but nice to them, and they've just treated me so poorly, you know? "</blockquote>




Maybe because you two are free loaders? I wouldn't like you either to be honest.

Levis Mommy 1 child; New York 144 posts
6th Feb '13
Quoting 3 little monsters:" But he's not a tenant if he's not paying rent right? Was the microwave yours? I'd be mad about the ... [snip!] ... is much you can do about it. They own the house and he's not renting it from them. They do sound rude and intrusive though. "


They are rude and intrusive, I think that's where a lot of my problem sits with them. It's how they go about doing things. They're very inconsiderate.

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22020 posts
6th Feb '13
Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Levis Mommy:</b>" I guess it just really frustrates me that ... [snip!] ... so poorly, you know? "</blockquote> Maybe because you two are free loaders? I wouldn't like you either to be honest."


right. Who is paying the bills if you guys don't pay for anything?