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Cast Your Vote:

    • Terminate -- Votes: 7
    • Keep it -- Votes: 22
Jane.Doe. Fukushima, Japan 2805 posts
6th Feb '13
Quoting Marlee*TTC*:" <blockquote> I hope it's just stress too <3 I would eat your burnt dinner :)"


<3 Don't worry when I cook for you it won't be burnt!!

user banned 17 kids; Boston, MA, United States 9473 posts
6th Feb '13

this really isnt a question to be taken with a poll. i think i would abort personally, because the mental illness background and concern of the OD, idk if that would play into any issues with development....



but i mean...im kinda...cold in my decision making process.
you have been trying for five years, so many losses....no one here can say what you can handle. how likely you are to regret one way or the other, place blame, question what might have been, etc. some people drive themselves nuts with that.



i do hope its just stress but if it comes to be more than that, be firm with whichever decision you choose.

Marlee*TTC* Colorado Springs, Colorado 374 posts
6th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Reynolds:</b>" <3 Don't worry when I cook for you it won't be burnt!!"</blockquote>




Lol well just sayin if it is I will choke it down.

-BLT- Due May 20; 1 child; St Louis, Missouri 2572 posts
6th Feb '13

What does your husband think? He's been trying for 5 years to have a healthy child too.

Marlee*TTC* Colorado Springs, Colorado 374 posts
6th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting -BLT-:</b>" What does your husband think? He's been trying for 5 years to have a healthy child too."</blockquote>




He is leaving it up to me. I grew up in a very unhealthy home and don't want to bring a baby into one, even tho I am doing much better. I don't think I will stress it too much until I know for sure. Even still I started taking my prenatals and am being cautious

user banned 17 kids; Boston, MA, United States 9473 posts
6th Feb '13
Quoting Marlee*TTC*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting -BLT-:</b>" What does your husband think? He's been trying for ... [snip!] ... I don't think I will stress it too much until I know for sure. Even still I started taking my prenatals and am being cautious"


it sounds like you really want to keep it, especially after your ectopic loss.
to be honest, i dont think i would set my decision on mental health alone. a perfectly okay person can get severe PPD, and people with serious issues can overcome them for the child....or maybe its a hormone thing.



this happened to me, i was severely depressed and seeing a counselor and psychiatrist about to be put on mood stabilizers. i found out i was pregnant and stopped going, didnt take the meds. i was fine throughout pregnancy and well ive had a couple stints of mindfuck since then but nothing to make me regret having logan, and certainly nothing to make our family less stable.



i dont recommend stop seeing help, i think if you are pregnant and keep it you should continue to be monitored, and have a good support system.
i think from what you are saying, it would do more harm to you to terminate than to keep, and having a baby may help you overcome some things.



idk i wish you the best of luck though!