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I can't believe him. *Mac and Keagan's Momma* Due May 28; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Kitchener, Ontario 8574 posts
status 7th Feb '13

So I fractured my foot. I have been on it still because I have to be. I am a mom and I have three kids. I went for more x rays yesterday and got the call from the doctor to stay off my foot or I will risk having to go for surgery. So I ask my husband if he could take tomorrow off as one of his vacation days to help me so I could have three days of no weight on it. My mom agreed to come help next week and so did his mom. My husband told me his boss said no. Well at the end of the day I guess his boss told him he could have it off and my husband said no he would come in.
He comes home and tells me this. I am hurt and upset. Then he tells me he is tired of taking time off to help me.
I don't ever ask him to. Once I was throwing up and on the toilet for two days and the one day I did it alone the other day I had no energy and asked him to stay and he said no. I am so hurt.

SaucyPoppet Due July 10; 1 child; Colorado Springs, Colorado 1172 posts
7th Feb '13

Ugh I'm sorry but your husband sounds like a dickhead. Casually say one of your exes offered to come over to help so you'll let him know to come on over LOL

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
7th Feb '13

I'd sit him down and talk to him. Try to do it calmly and not accuse him. There must be a reason he feels he's had to take time off a lot of times to help. If there haven't actually been times then he'll have to see that when talking.



The important thing is to do it calmly and not get mad or accuse him. Those will create a fight.

Ashley Sekavec 2 kids; Salina, Kansas 138 posts
7th Feb '13

Wow! :( I am sorry! Last month I slipped on ice with my daughter in my hands amd messed up my back pretty bad. Ended up staying home from work and my husband stayed home with me, and we even went into Labor and Delivery so they could check and make sure the baby was ok. Have you tried talking to him calmly?

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
7th Feb '13
Quoting SaucyPoppet:" Ugh I'm sorry but your husband sounds like a dickhead. Casually say one of your exes offered to come over to help so you'll let him know to come on over LOL"


UH-huh. Because the bedrock of any good relationship is passive-aggressiveness.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
7th Feb '13

Could he maybe be frustrated? Could his boss maybe tell him something like? Seems to me like he wanted to, since he asked his boss and might had gotten pissed when his boss said no. Took it out on you. I'd sit him down and talk to him.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
7th Feb '13
Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):" Could he maybe be frustrated? Could his boss maybe tell him something like? Seems to me like he wanted ... [snip!] ... he asked his boss and might had gotten pissed when his boss said no. Took it out on you. I'd sit him down and talk to him. "


This. Or maybe when his boss said he could, it was an annoyed "Fine, since you don't want to do your job, you can have it off" sort of thing? Maybe that made him embarrassed and upset and that's why he got mad at you?



Not excusing it OP, just trying to figure out WHY, that way you can figure out what to do.

*Mac and Keagan's Momma* Due May 28; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Kitchener, Ontario 8574 posts
status 7th Feb '13

I asked him why he was so mad and he told me to f**k off and I said well why didn't you call and ask me if I still wanted your help and needed it then he just went off on me and told me I barely take care of the kids as it is which is a lie. I watch them from 7 to 7 every day and I never go out.



He really hurt me and I don't get why he is so mad at me. I even tried hard to tidy up and make dinner for him. I'm hobbling around and he is being so mean.

SaucyPoppet Due July 10; 1 child; Colorado Springs, Colorado 1172 posts
7th Feb '13

He's acting like a dick to her when she has been injured and ill, it'll feel good to get some of it out. Ugh yeh, telling your wife to f**k off when she asks you a simple question is not ok.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Oceanside, CA, United States 112512 posts
status 7th Feb '13
Quoting *Mac and Keagan's Momma*:" I asked him why he was so mad and he told me to f**k off and I said well why didn't you call and ask ... [snip!] ... get why he is so mad at me. I even tried hard to tidy up and make dinner for him. I'm hobbling around and he is being so mean."


Tell him if hes so worried about the kids then he needs to come home and take care of them tomorrow because you cant do much for them while your foot is broken, and if you have to have surgery it will be even longer that you need help.



He sounds like a peach though

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Oceanside, CA, United States 112512 posts
status 7th Feb '13
Quoting SaucyPoppet:" He's acting like a dick to her when she has been injured and ill, it'll feel good to get some of it out. Ugh yeh, telling your wife to f**k off when she asks you a simple question is not ok."


I'm sorry but if hes already mad at her implying that an ex is going to come take care of her and HIS kids...that will not go over well.

*Mac and Keagan's Momma* Due May 28; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Kitchener, Ontario 8574 posts
status 7th Feb '13

Well I tried talking to him and he stormed out of the house with my seven month old and the weather is horrible. And I can't go after him. And before he left he said he thinks I just want him home for the company... Uh no. I hate asking for help and so me asking is because I need it and was told I have to.
What a crappy night.

SR ♥ 1 child; V, AR, United States 7830 posts
7th Feb '13
Quoting SaucyPoppet:" Ugh I'm sorry but your husband sounds like a dickhead. Casually say one of your exes offered to come over to help so you'll let him know to come on over LOL"


Hahah, this may be immature...But I would be tempted to say, "Well....I bet I could find someone who wouldn't mind missing work to help me.."

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
7th Feb '13

OP is this normal behavior or is this just a today thing?

*Mac and Keagan's Momma* Due May 28; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Kitchener, Ontario 8574 posts
status 7th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):</b>" OP is this normal behavior or is this just a today thing?"</blockquote>




Just a today thing. He normally helps a lot with the kids and this is why I am shocked at him. We got no sleep last night due to our baby being sick and I'm thinking maybe that has something to do with it but still. I think he felt stupid once he realized and he reacted negatively.