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kjhdfskj jessies mum 1 child; London, United Kingdom 109 posts
8th Feb '13

jyujghjbghjgjb, bb

Efflorescence 1 child; California 776 posts
status 8th Feb '13

I wouldn't, it just seems that your looking for something there because of the rough patch with your current bf.

Oya. 81 kids; Hollywood, Florida 25195 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting jessies mum:" ok, i've got to start by saying i would NEVER cheat on my boyfriend. we have been together for 4 years ... [snip!] ... has anyone else ever been through something like this? what did you do? i need advice. my current boyfriend has never met him"


you are not over him. i think u should delete his family off your FB and put in the effort to move on!!!! how would you feel if your SO contacted his ex that you had to help him get over, and was resentful or her current happiness????




i dont know why you and SO are having issues but you should probably focus more on you and his relationship than your ex's.

gilly+2 <3 Due April 30; 2 kids; Hamilton, ON, Canada 3673 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting jessies mum:" ok, i've got to start by saying i would NEVER cheat on my boyfriend. we have been together for 4 years ... [snip!] ... has anyone else ever been through something like this? what did you do? i need advice. my current boyfriend has never met him"


if you're contacting him just because you are fighting with your SO then yes, this is a bad idea.



if you are contacting him just to say congratulations, then theres nothing wrong with that.

ღ Diana ღ Michigan 15726 posts
8th Feb '13

I don't think contacting him is a good idea especially because you and your BF are having a difficult time in your relationship right now.

jessies mum 1 child; London, United Kingdom 109 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting gilly&hailz ♥:" if you're contacting him just because you are fighting with your SO then yes, this is a bad idea. if you are contacting him just to say congratulations, then theres nothing wrong with that."


i dont think i would be contacting him because we are having issues. i do want to see how he is and tell him im happy that hes found happyness. i think its partly just to see if he would reply

Ellie Goulding 1 child; London, --, United Kingdom 4742 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting gilly&hailz ♥:" if you're contacting him just because you are fighting with your SO then yes, this is a bad idea. if you are contacting him just to say congratulations, then theres nothing wrong with that."

I agree. Don't send him anything you wouldn't want your current boyfriend or his fiance' to see. I'd stick with a cordial congrats, and refrain from bringing up the past. It could potentially make things difficult for you both, or even just plain weird him out.

κατι 1 child; Memphis, Tennessee 3143 posts
8th Feb '13

Lol I have about 6 of my ex's or guys I briefly dated on my FB, My SO doesn't have a problem with it,Because There are no feelings for the guys. I don't think you should contact your ex if you still have feelings for him,That is a terrible move for you and your relationship.

jessies mum 1 child; London, United Kingdom 109 posts
8th Feb '13

its difficult because we have the same mutual friend and she seems to constantly tell me about what is happening in their relationship. me & so are having issues because hes finding it hard to adjust to having a baby around. we are struggling to find any time alone due to being constantly let down by family members. i would never get back together with my ex. im just curious to see what hes like now...

ERMAGHERD BEEDS! 17 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4099 posts
8th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Efflorescence:</b>" I wouldn't, it just seems that your looking for something there because of the rough patch with your current bf."</blockquote>




This. I would wait til things are better with your current SO to worry about making amends with your ex.

κατι 1 child; Memphis, Tennessee 3143 posts
8th Feb '13

You sure do know alot about his current relationship already without talking to him. Yup you are still hung up on him.

jessies mum 1 child; London, United Kingdom 109 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting κατι:" You sure do know alot about his current relationship already without talking to him. Yup you are still hung up on him."

i know things as my friend feels the need to tell me all about his relationship. im not hung up on him as i dont know him anymore

ERMAGHERD BEEDS! 17 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4099 posts
8th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting jessies mum:</b>" its difficult because we have the same mutual friend and she seems to constantly tell me about what is ... [snip!] ... constantly let down by family members. i would never get back together with my ex. im just curious to see what hes like now..."</blockquote>




Why are you curious? Ask your friend to stop talking about your ex to you

Ellie Goulding 1 child; London, --, United Kingdom 4742 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting jessies mum:" its difficult because we have the same mutual friend and she seems to constantly tell me about what is ... [snip!] ... constantly let down by family members. i would never get back together with my ex. im just curious to see what hes like now..."

It sounds like things are still pretty raw where he is concerned. And as far as his bitchy girlfriend? Some guys need/like that. I had an ex who ended up with a girl who was the complete opposite of me- she was the jealous type, somewhat dramatic, and knew exactly what she wanted from him. At first I was confused, until I saw them together. Then I realized why it would have never worked out between us. I was too agreeable for him, lol.

MommyToWesley 1 child; Delaware 3847 posts
8th Feb '13

Contacting an ex when you're having a hard time with your current SO is never a good idea. The fact that you still haven't "closed the book" after 5 years shows that you aren't over him. Messaging him will only bring trouble.