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Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Jax in the Tardis:" Face in the corner. Hands at is side or behind his back. Four minutes."


That's not working, and this is the second thread I've heard of this not working, tonight.



Make him list off his favorite toys.



Sit him in his room in the middle of his bed for time out. He cannot play with anything. Only think about what he's done. Check on him to make sure he's not goofing around.



After 15 minutes go in and talk to him about what he did wrong and don't let him get up unless he can tell you what he did wrong and that he wont be doing it again.



If he continues to act up throughout the day, back in time out on the bed, and take his favorite toy. He doesn't get it back unless he earns it with good behavior, and every time he does something bad, he loses something else he likes.



Show him that HE is in charge of his happiness. Good behavior = fun.

user banned 2 kids; North Pole, Alaska 12410 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" That's not working, and this is the second thread I've heard of this not working, tonight. Make him ... [snip!] ... does something bad, he loses something else he likes. Show him that HE is in charge of his happiness. Good behavior = fun. "


That won't work.



He has very little comprehension. He would be confused after two minutes. I have to keep telling why hes in timeout for just four minutes.



He only has attachments to this old lady hat and his blanket.

Nut ღ Meg Beverly Hills, CA, United States 40237 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Jax in the Tardis:" That won't work. He has very little comprehension. He would be confused after two minutes. I have ... [snip!] ... I have to keep telling why hes in timeout for just four minutes. He only has attachments to this old lady hat and his blanket."


Does he respond well to positive reinforcement?

user banned 2 kids; North Pole, Alaska 12410 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Meg ♥:" Does he respond well to positive reinforcement?"


I guess. When I catch him being good I give him a high five and tell him he made me so happy and I'm proud of him..he likes that.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Jax in the Tardis:" That won't work. He has very little comprehension. He would be confused after two minutes. I have ... [snip!] ... I have to keep telling why hes in timeout for just four minutes. He only has attachments to this old lady hat and his blanket."


It won't work? Because you've tried anything different?



What you're doing DOESN'T work. You need to start being more open to other suggestions or you can't expect anything to change.



It doesn't matter what he has attachments to. Make him earn them.

Nut ღ Meg Beverly Hills, CA, United States 40237 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Jax in the Tardis:" I guess. When I catch him being good I give him a high five and tell him he made me so happy and I'm proud of him..he likes that."


Would you be willing to try a behavior chart? There are some you can find online. Good behavior all day is a star, 5-7 stars (either mon - friday or mon - sun) will get a small prize at the end of the week...

user banned 2 kids; North Pole, Alaska 12410 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" It won't work? Because you've tried anything different? What you're doing DOESN'T work. You need to ... [snip!] ... other suggestions or you can't expect anything to change. It doesn't matter what he has attachments to. Make him earn them. "


We've tried other things.



No attachment=he doesnt care about it. It wouldnt phase him to lose toys.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Jax in the Tardis:" We've tried other things. No attachment=he doesnt care about it. It wouldnt phase him to lose toys. "



Again, no one said toys. Take what he cares about.



What you've tried is not working, so it's time to start listening to other people's suggestions.

user banned 2 kids; North Pole, Alaska 12410 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Meg ♥:" Would you be willing to try a behavior chart? There are some you can find online. Good behavior all ... [snip!] ... Good behavior all day is a star, 5-7 stars (either mon - friday or mon - sun) will get a small prize at the end of the week..."


Thats funny you mentioned that because Im filling out his hourly log and behavioral chart right now.

user banned 2 kids; North Pole, Alaska 12410 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" Again, no one said toys. Take what he cares about. What you've tried is not working, so it's time to start listening to other people's suggestions. "



I took away the tablet today. Im very open to suggestions. I just know 15 minutes is excessive and taking away doesnt bother him.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Jax in the Tardis:" I took away the tablet today. Im very open to suggestions. I just know 15 minutes is excessive and taking away doesnt bother him."


So if you know taking toys away doesn't work, why did you take a toy? Why not take the hat?



4 minutes isn't working. At all, how can you say 15 minutes is excessive? it's 15 minutes. Not the end of the world.

user banned 2 kids; North Pole, Alaska 12410 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" So if you know taking toys away doesn't work, why did you take a toy? Why not take the hat? 4 minutes ... [snip!] ... the hat? 4 minutes isn't working. At all, how can you say 15 minutes is excessive? it's 15 minutes. Not the end of the world. "


I didnt take it as punishment I took it so he'd pay attention to the talk I was going to give him before he bit me.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Jax in the Tardis:" I didnt take it as punishment I took it so he'd pay attention to the talk I was going to give him before he bit me."


Did that work?

user banned 2 kids; North Pole, Alaska 12410 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" Did that work?"



Ididn't get to the talking part. He bite me so he went to timeout.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Jax in the Tardis:" Ididn't get to the talking part. He bite me so he went to timeout. "


did time out work?