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user banned 2 kids; North Pole, Alaska 12410 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" did time out work?"



Seemed so.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15185 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Jax in the Tardis:" Seemed so."


Then you clearly need no help and everything is going well.

user banned 2 kids; North Pole, Alaska 12410 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" Then you clearly need no help and everything is going well. "



We need no help because one timeout calmed him down?

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15185 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Jax in the Tardis:" We need no help because one timeout calmed him down? "


Okay so now you admit that you need help. Because so far all you've seemed to do is shoot down suggestions.

user banned 2 kids; North Pole, Alaska 12410 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" Okay so now you admit that you need help. Because so far all you've seemed to do is shoot down suggestions. "


I said from the beginning that we need help. I shot down 15 minute timeout because that's ridiculous for him.

Nut ღ Meg Beverly Hills, CA, United States 40235 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" Then you clearly need no help and everything is going well. "


Why are you giving her such a hard time?

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15185 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Jax in the Tardis:" I said from the beginning that we need help. I shot down 15 minute timeout because that's ridiculous for him. "


Okay, so have you heard any suggestions that you feel like are worth trying? Because people in this thread are just trying to help you....

user banned 2 kids; North Pole, Alaska 12410 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" Okay, so have you heard any suggestions that you feel like are worth trying? Because people in this thread are just trying to help you...."

Meg mentioned behavior chart. Wet just started that and a hourly log for his doctors.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15185 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Jax in the Tardis:" Meg mentioned behavior chart. Wet just started that and a hourly log for his doctors. "



well there you go. hopefully that helps.

Nut ღ Meg Beverly Hills, CA, United States 40235 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Jax in the Tardis:" Meg mentioned behavior chart. Wet just started that and a hourly log for his doctors. "


We also have a treasure chest. I made up <insert last name> bucks and made them different face values. $1, $5, $10.



You can simplify this if needed, but I made them different values to help teach DD the value of a dollar but also have it as a behavior system. So, every day we (DH and I) have the discretion to give DD a buck. If she brushed her teething willingly in the morning, she may get one, if she wore her glasses all day in school and didn't have any problems, she may get one, doing her homework, no negative reports at school, ect ect.



In the treasure chest I purchased different items. Some were from the dollar store, some were a bit higher from walmart/target and there was one in there that was $10 and it said "trip to get frozen yogurt".



She needed to EARN them and save them or spend depending on what she wanted in the treasure chest.



It works well for us. Don't get me wrong, we still have meltdowns, but they tend to be less frequent because all I have to do is remind her of this system..

user banned 2 kids; North Pole, Alaska 12410 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Meg ♥:" We also have a treasure chest. I made up <insert last name> bucks and made them different face ... [snip!] ... me wrong, we still have meltdowns, but they tend to be less frequent because all I have to do is remind her of this system.."


I could hug you! That sounds like a great idea. I could put a picnic at the zoo in there. He lives animals. Did she need frequent reminders in the beginning? Im worried with how little comprehension he has that he won't get it.

Nut ღ Meg Beverly Hills, CA, United States 40235 posts
9th Feb '13
Quoting Jax in the Tardis:" I could hug you! That sounds like a great idea. I could put a picnic at the zoo in there. He lives ... [snip!] ... Did she need frequent reminders in the beginning? Im worried with how little comprehension he has that he won't get it."


We started this when she was 4 yrs old. She needed constant reminders for the first two weeks or so. She was slightly delayed due to some issues, but it didn't take her long to remember.



If he has something to look forward to maybe that will help keep his behavior and attitude in check so to speak. It's worth a shot at least...



You're welcome. I've learned positive reinforcement works best for us. Time outs, toys taken away, privileges removed such as tv or computer time, made the situation much worse than it needed to be. She would melt down even further for a longer period of time.