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Breastfeeding and dad disagreeing Mommy2ChaseandAden :) 4 kids; Rock Hill, South Carolina 139 posts
8th Feb '13

I am BFing LO he is almost 9 mths and SO wants me to stop at a year. I do not want to stop, I want LO to self wean. SO says that if I do not stop BFing at a year I don't respect him :roll: . I do not want to cause a fight how do I tell him nicely to get the hell over it?

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
8th Feb '13

Just tell him that they are your b**bs and until your child together shows signs of being done, they you aren't doing it.



What is his beef with it anyway? Is he wanting them for himself? Was he like this with you other kids and how did you react then?

☠BryBry'sMuM☠ Due March 19 (girl); 1 child; Fullerton, California 15229 posts
8th Feb '13

sounds like hes trying to get the upper hand by useing you dont respect him. i could be wrong!

Mommy2ChaseandAden :) 4 kids; Rock Hill, South Carolina 139 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" Just tell him that they are your b**bs and until your child together shows signs of being done, they ... [snip!] ... is his beef with it anyway? Is he wanting them for himself? Was he like this with you other kids and how did you react then?"


We only have one child together and he wasnt around while BFing my other son. His mom stopped BFing at 1 and that is why he thinks I should.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
8th Feb '13

Tell him by trying to tell you what to do you with your body is disrespecting you. Why doesnt he want you to go past a year? I would try and address the true issue with him and show him how beneficial it is for babies to choose to self wean and toddlers breastfeeding.

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Mommy2ChaseandAden :):" We only have one child together and he wasnt around while BFing my other son. His mom stopped BFing at 1 and that is why he thinks I should."


Well tell him every family is different, and you are not his mother. :)

Mommy2ChaseandAden :) 4 kids; Rock Hill, South Carolina 139 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" Tell him by trying to tell you what to do you with your body is disrespecting you. Why doesnt he want ... [snip!] ... address the true issue with him and show him how beneficial it is for babies to choose to self wean and toddlers breastfeeding."


He thinks it's gross and he can get his nutrients by "regular food". I truly think it is because his mom stopping at 1.

Mommy2ChaseandAden :) 4 kids; Rock Hill, South Carolina 139 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" Well tell him every family is different, and you are not his mother. :)"


:)

☠BryBry'sMuM☠ Due March 19 (girl); 1 child; Fullerton, California 15229 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Mommy2ChaseandAden :):" We only have one child together and he wasnt around while BFing my other son. His mom stopped BFing at 1 and that is why he thinks I should."


well he needs to knwo just bc his mother stopped at a year with him doesnt mean you need to with your LO.
its as much as your desion as it was his moms.



Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Mommy2ChaseandAden :):" He thinks it's gross and he can get his nutrients by "regular food". I truly think it is because his mom stopping at 1."

Try to educate him. Its disrespectful for him to try and control what you do with your body.

☠BryBry'sMuM☠ Due March 19 (girl); 1 child; Fullerton, California 15229 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" Well tell him every family is different, and you are not his mother. :)"


:!:bamb!!!

melindapple 1 child; Michigan 5425 posts
8th Feb '13

I'm kind of in the same situation, not with my DH but with the rest of the family. DH is perfectly fine with it, it's everyone else. They think it's "weird" and they're pissed because they want my LO to stay the night and I don't pump, so she can't stay without me. I say do what YOU want to do. It's your body. However in this case it's not just your child though, so have you talked to him about benefits of extended breast feeding?