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Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15185 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting S*its & giggles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" You two are not in a relationship you're in ... [snip!] ... All she did is talk to guys I assume are friends which is normal. Op get out now. Its going to get worse. He will not change."



She said she got on him about talking to girls because he gets on her for talking to guys. Thus, pissing contest.

user banned 2 kids; Bellingham, Washington 1616 posts
8th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" She said she got on him about talking to girls because he gets on her for talking to guys. Thus, pissing contest. "</blockquote>




I honestly would do the same thing. A relationship isn't a one way road. If he expects her to do something/not do something then its fair the same is expected of him.

Laventure_Adventure 2 kids; Pennsylvania 675 posts
8th Feb '13

If he flat out told you he had sex with that girl just to get back at you not matter if you are having a baby with him or not it isn't right at all for him to do that. Leave his ass and get some assistance with raising the baby (welfare, WIC, etc.) You SHOULD NOT have to deal with that especially if he is that insecure and then has to go f**k around behind your back.

user banned 2 kids; Bellingham, Washington 1616 posts
8th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" She said she got on him about talking to girls because he gets on her for talking to guys. Thus, pissing contest. "</blockquote>




But I see what you mean since she still talks to guys but then gets on him for talking to girls

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15185 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting S*its & giggles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" She said she got on him about talking to ... [snip!] ... isn't a one way road. If he expects her to do something/not do something then its fair the same is expected of him."


Then you too would be a part of a pissing contest.



She admits it's due to his insecurities. That doesn't mean you make them yours to mock his or prove a point. You address the insecurities and work through them.

Melissa_15 Due May 11; Iowa 190 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting S*its & giggles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" She said she got on him about talking to ... [snip!] ... "</blockquote> But I see what you mean since she still talks to guys but then gets on him for talking to girls"

I asked him about hanging out with another girl, not about talking to one. I wouldn't hang out alone with a guy, even if we were just friends. I dont think he has any right to b***h about me talking to other guys if he's going to go hang out with some girl.

user banned 2 kids; Bellingham, Washington 1616 posts
8th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Then you too would be a part of a pissing contest. She admits it's due to his insecurities. That doesn't ... [snip!] ... That doesn't mean you make them yours to mock his or prove a point. You address the insecurities and work through them."</blockquote>




Yeah I would be. I'm not going to be unfairly controlled. I stand my ground. If a guy tells me I cannot talk to a guy, meanwhile he is talking to girls? Uh no.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15185 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Melissa_15:" I asked him about hanging out with another girl, not about talking to one. I wouldn't hang out alone ... [snip!] ... friends. I dont think he has any right to b***h about me talking to other guys if he's going to go hang out with some girl."


Neither of you need to be trying to control one another, period.

user banned 2 kids; Bellingham, Washington 1616 posts
8th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Melissa_15:</b>" I asked him about hanging out with another girl, not about talking to one. I wouldn't hang out alone ... [snip!] ... friends. I dont think he has any right to b***h about me talking to other guys if he's going to go hang out with some girl."</blockquote>




Oh gotcha. Yeah that kind of raises the level there. He tells you not to talk to guys but takes his actions a step further and hangs out with females. I'm assuming if you were to do that he would flip shit about it

Melissa_15 Due May 11; Iowa 190 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting S*its & giggles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Melissa_15:</b>" I asked him about hanging out with another ... [snip!] ... takes his actions a step further and hangs out with females. I'm assuming if you were to do that he would flip shit about it"

Oh yeah. I mean, Im a wh**e because I have a conversation with a guy on Facebook... and of course he has my password so he can see exactly what I say. Its just not fair. I know I just need to get out of it, but its so hard. If it weren't for us having a baby together, I'd have no problem. But every time I tell him I'm not going to deal with all of this, he's like "Well have fun raising her by yourself wh**e. You're the reason she won't have a dad. Hope you're proud of yourself." And any other time he's so excited for her to be born. Its just hard.

user banned 2 kids; Bellingham, Washington 1616 posts
8th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Melissa_15:</b>" Oh yeah. I mean, Im a wh**e because I have a conversation with a guy on Facebook... and of course he ... [snip!] ... she won't have a dad. Hope you're proud of yourself." And any other time he's so excited for her to be born. Its just hard."</blockquote>



Its only going to get worse. Trust me. I have personal experience with your same situation x20. If you are financially able to, get out then, run. Every fight you get into he may escalate into physical harm and threaten to take your child which does a lot of emotional damage. Pm me if you want to talk, I can tell you what I have been going through for almost 4 years now so you know to run

Phf- ee bee;) Due January 26; 18 kids; Pennsylvania 5302 posts
8th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Melissa_15:</b>" Oh yeah. I mean, Im a wh**e because I have a conversation with a guy on Facebook... and of course he ... [snip!] ... she won't have a dad. Hope you're proud of yourself." And any other time he's so excited for her to be born. Its just hard."</blockquote>




So it's YOUR fault for him being a jerk and you leaving him for that?! Ha. He can't raise his kid if your not together !? Wow--what a winner he is.

Laventure_Adventure 2 kids; Pennsylvania 675 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Melissa_15:" Oh yeah. I mean, Im a wh**e because I have a conversation with a guy on Facebook... and of course he ... [snip!] ... she won't have a dad. Hope you're proud of yourself." And any other time he's so excited for her to be born. Its just hard."

He's just trying to belittle you and get under your skin so you won't leave. You need to be the strong one and understand that children CAN be raised soley by their mother (and in other cases just by their father). Don't let him gain that upperhand and control you or he will walk all over you the rest of your life and what kind of image will your daughter see with him acting like that? It sounds like he is the type to try and turn your daughter against you as she'll grows up and the only way to avoid that is to basically be like " I am done, have a nice life a*****e."

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15185 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting S*its & giggles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Then you too would be a part of a pissing ... [snip!] ... be unfairly controlled. I stand my ground. If a guy tells me I cannot talk to a guy, meanwhile he is talking to girls? Uh no."


So your solution would be to be just as stupid, back?

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15185 posts
8th Feb '13
Quoting Melissa_15:" Oh yeah. I mean, Im a wh**e because I have a conversation with a guy on Facebook... and of course he ... [snip!] ... she won't have a dad. Hope you're proud of yourself." And any other time he's so excited for her to be born. Its just hard."


Why are you entertaining stupidity?



What is the definition of wh**e? Are you one? Why even get pissed off about this. He's an idiot and he's trying to get a rise out of you. Don't let him.



Is a father defined by whether or not the father has the opportunity to control the mother? No. He can be her father whether he's with you or not. If he's looking for a way to get out of it by calling you a wh**e and blaming you, he's not going to be a good father whether you do what he says or not.



You're 16. You live at home with your parents. You have every option of getting out that adults don't have. Just kick him out and let him know that you'll keep him updated on the pregnancy and when you go into labor. File for custody as soon as the baby is born, and file for child support. If he wants to see his daughter, he can do it on his scheduled visitation dates.