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Donnaa 1 child; Nanaimo, BC, Canada 134 posts
10th Feb '13
Quoting Lilly'smommy5:" From what you've said about your family I would completely ignore their opinion here. If they can only ... [snip!] ... that a baby brings, then do what you think is best. Like you said, you're not 16. You are a legal adult. Do what works for you."


Thanks (:

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
10th Feb '13

No problem! I wanted to add that without knowing more about your doctor or personal situation, I have no idea what that means for you. Is he doubting you because he just sees you as young or because you have a medical condition that would make things difficult for you?

Donnaa 1 child; Nanaimo, BC, Canada 134 posts
10th Feb '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Well, good luck with things. I would really think about things in the long term before you go through ... [snip!] ... with a lot of growth. Why not wait until after you finish college or university? Why not wait until you have a better job?"

I have a job offering being a waitress, in a bar where i will be making 100-200 dollars in tips on a Friday night alone.



and I don't want to go to college or university.
Half the people at my work did, and they are in the same pay grade as me.



and as for long term, I have thought about school, i already have a baby sitter planned to live in.
I'm not just going into this with nothing..

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45869 posts
status 10th Feb '13
Quoting MilaaMischief:" I have a job offering being a waitress, in a bar where i will be making 100-200 dollars in tips on a ... [snip!] ... I have thought about school, i already have a baby sitter planned to live in. I'm not just going into this with nothing.."


How are you going to pay a live-in nanny on waitress wages?

Donnaa 1 child; Nanaimo, BC, Canada 134 posts
10th Feb '13
Quoting Lilly'smommy5:" No problem! I wanted to add that without knowing more about your doctor or personal situation, I have ... [snip!] ... you because he just sees you as young or because you have a medical condition that would make things difficult for you?"


No medical conditions.
I just assume he ask's those questions to any women TTC or having a baby.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
10th Feb '13
Quoting MilaaMischief:" No medical conditions. I just assume he ask's those questions to any women TTC or having a baby. "


Yes I believe they are required to ask if you are TTC if you ever go in for a pregnancy test etc. I always have been.

Donnaa 1 child; Nanaimo, BC, Canada 134 posts
10th Feb '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" How are you going to pay a live-in nanny on waitress wages?"


She is a close friend, she will be living with us free, buy her groceries, and the government pays her for babysitting.
do you really need to know everything?
I also like long walks on the beach, and watching Dexter with my spare time...

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45869 posts
status 10th Feb '13
Quoting MilaaMischief:" She is a close friend, she will be living with us free, buy her groceries, and the government pays her ... [snip!] ... do you really need to know everything? I also like long walks on the beach, and watching Dexter with my spare time..."


Yeah....I don't think that is really how is works.



But, again....good luck with everything.

Donnaa 1 child; Nanaimo, BC, Canada 134 posts
10th Feb '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Yeah....I don't think that is really how is works. But, again....good luck with everything."


It does here.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15247 posts
status 10th Feb '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Yeah....I don't think that is really how is works. But, again....good luck with everything."


Oh come now. Did you not see she is a teenager? She knows everything.

Donnaa 1 child; Nanaimo, BC, Canada 134 posts
10th Feb '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" Oh come now. Did you not see she is a teenager? She knows everything."



Oh my lord.
I did not claim i know everything.
I claim i have my shit planned out like she asked.
is it really good parenting to gang up on a ''teenager''

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45869 posts
status 10th Feb '13
Quoting MilaaMischief:" Oh my lord. I did not claim i know everything. I claim i have my shit planned out like she asked. is it really good parenting to gang up on a ''teenager''"


Relax....



She is just pointing out that you seemed to have a quick "know-it-all" come back for everything.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
10th Feb '13
Quoting MilaaMischief:" Oh my lord. I did not claim i know everything. I claim i have my shit planned out like she asked. is it really good parenting to gang up on a ''teenager''"


I'm honestly shocked you're getting this much flack. Other threads, there are 16 year olds still in high school with nothing to their names, TTCing, and are getting fully supported. Meh. From the sound of it you have your shit together for the most part.



Just keep in mind that no matter how fully you plan it all out, there will always be things that don't right. Just make sure you have a plan B for those situations. Ex. if you happen to get laid off, have a way to make sure your child's needs will be met. An emergency savings account is key. Does your SO have a stable job?

Donnaa 1 child; Nanaimo, BC, Canada 134 posts
10th Feb '13
Quoting Lilly'smommy5:" I'm honestly shocked you're getting this much flack. Other threads, there are 16 year olds still in ... [snip!] ... have a way to make sure your child's needs will be met. An emergency savings account is key. Does your SO have a stable job?"


I was thinking that the last couple posts i read, wondering if it is really necessary to pin point at me.
yea we have a few income back up plans, two savings accounts we are both working on and then one joint one, plus we have his credit cards.
we try not to touch those though, either way they are there.
he does have a stable job.
I have us an amazing family doctor now (:
i don't expect it to all go perfectly, i am trying my best to prepare for the worst with work or the babies needs. and so is my BF,

Donnaa 1 child; Nanaimo, BC, Canada 134 posts
10th Feb '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Relax.... She is just pointing out that you seemed to have a quick "know-it-all" come back for everything."


You are pretty quick to ask the questions.
and i am quick to answer them, because i'm not going into this clueless.
I'm not prancing around going BABIES ARE CUTE I WANT ONE.
lalala.