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Melissa 1 child; Michigan 1411 posts
Feb 11th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Aw, I'm sorry that happened and I understand why it still bothers you. I never had an issue with wetting ... [snip!] ... high fever, the nurse threatened to call DYFS[CPS in NJ] if I didn't go home so I called my brother to come get me instead. :?"

ugh. I don't understand the things people do. My mom just called me. I was like, "Oh shit. She knows I'm talking about her!" lol

The Dandelion Rapist 18 kids; New Mexico 6885 posts
Feb 11th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" That's the thing - she just wanted me and the school to deal with it. My mom and I have a decent relationship ... [snip!] ... so she would have to take care of me as little as possible for as short as possible. It worked - I left home at 16. "


While I was a teenager, my mom couldn't stress enough how I could always go to her to talk to if I needed anything etc.. The sad thing about that is she would always jump to the worse of conclusions and then spread my business all around our family.



Her relationships seemed to be more important than being a parent. I left as soon as I hit 18. I am actually more close with my dad then I am my mom.

Melissa 1 child; Michigan 1411 posts
Feb 11th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" That's the thing - she just wanted me and the school to deal with it. My mom and I have a decent relationship ... [snip!] ... so she would have to take care of me as little as possible for as short as possible. It worked - I left home at 16. "

My mom wasn't very maternal either. No hugs, kisses, cuddles. We just recently started saying "love you" before get off the phone. She will admit she wasn't a good mom but I wish things would have been different. I was always jealous of my friends relationships with their mothers. I don't tell my mom anything, we don't talk about my relationship with SO ever, it just feels weird. My dad and I were pretty close when I was growing up, he took me shopping, helped pick out my prom dress, discussed boys with me... etc. I'm glad I'm closer with her now though.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
Feb 11th '13

Wow I would feel so bad for my kid. If another kid is sleeping, they're just going to have to wake their butt up! My child sitting in pee at school would definantly be the priority before another kid being a bit cranky from an interrupted nap.

The Dandelion Rapist 18 kids; New Mexico 6885 posts
Feb 11th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" My mom's boyfriends were more important too. She told me to move out so her boyfriend could move in. ... [snip!] ... going to try and stop me lol. My father hasn't been in the picture since I was 10. He, too, left us for a significant other. "



I always felt like I was in my mom's way. Still do from time to time even though I don't live anywhere near her.



It was weird the way my parents worked when I was a teenager. They started having their problems when I was 14 but they didn't finally split until I was close to 17. I was there for it all. The cheating, the fighting, the boyfriends and the girlfriends.



When they were apart it was a popularity contest so I could do whatever I wanted as long as I loved one parent more than the other. :roll: When they would get back together they were suddenly responsible. I wasn't allowed to party, smoke, drink.. nothing.

The Dandelion Rapist 18 kids; New Mexico 6885 posts
Feb 11th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Ugh, that totally sucks! My parents' divorce was messy - my father cheated on my mother with her brother's ... [snip!] ... over the phone from their SOs' houses and I would just press the END button, get on the bus and go party, problem solved lol. "


OMG, it's like Deja vu (Sp?)



My dad I guess ALWAYS cheated on my mom. But, when he was finally caught, it was my 2 older sisters who walked in on him and my mom's sister. I can't even remember how old I was but I had to be around 13 years old.



It was during my other Aunts wedding. We had gotten 2 hotel rooms so we could watch my newly married aunt's children while her and her husband did there own thing.



They were adjoining rooms, and my sister walked in on my butt naked (Other Aunt) on top of my dad. The guy she was with I guess was in the bathroom getting ready or something like that... Not sure where my mom was. I repressed a lot of those memories.



I finally didn't start talking to my Aunt again until like 2 years ago.

The Dandelion Rapist 18 kids; New Mexico 6885 posts
Feb 11th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Holy shit! I'm glad I'm not the only one with soap opera/Jerry Springer type memories lol. That's horrible, ... [snip!] ... best man, refused to go if I wasn't going. I just got wasted with my cousin and stole the fancy candles off the tables lol. "



No we have a very Jerry Springer like family as well.. Read my thread titled "My family Tree." If you haven't already read it, you'll get a kick out of it. :lol:



I probably would have refused to go to the wedding. Though had I gone, I probably would have done the same thing you did.

The Dandelion Rapist 18 kids; New Mexico 6885 posts
Feb 11th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" I read it and I think I commented on it too with some wacky tidbit about my family lol. My family ... [snip!] ... with me. I knew my grandma was going to be there and I didn't want to cause drama for her - my step-witch did enough of that."


It's mainly my mom who is the crazy one. She has been through some shit in her life though so I try not to jump to conclusions with her judgement she passes on me. I just wish she didn't treat me so differently than she does my other siblings.



From Sexual abuse as a child (By her step father), to child abuse (again by her step father but also allowed by my grandma), and being gang raped at like 16. Not to mention everything my dad had put her though and what not. He actually use to hit her when us kids were young but, that stopped when his drinking stopped.



There is a long fucked up history to my mom, and I have only touched the tip of it.



She is much more tolerable now though since she is back with her first husband and she seems to be happy. I just hope she is a better mother to his 9 year old daughter than she was to us growing up. For my future step sister's sake anyways.

The Dandelion Rapist 18 kids; New Mexico 6885 posts
Feb 11th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Aw, that's so sad. I try to go easy on my mom because her childhood was okay but what my dad did to ... [snip!] ... Now she's much more involved with her stepkids' lives too than she is with my brother and I and that kind of ticks me off. "


Relationships like that can easily be mentally draining. Abuse and neglect are abuse and neglect whether it is mental, physical or both.



Perhaps she realized her mistakes with you and realized she doesn't want to make the same ones again? I am hoping that is what my mom is doing anyways. My future step sister has no idea what it is like to have a mother and I hope it is a positive experience for her.



Not to mention she will always have me regardless. I haven't met her yet but, I will sometime this year.

Melissa 1 child; Michigan 1411 posts
Feb 11th '13
Quoting Lady GooGoo
Sherri + 3 LLC 3 kids; Mesa, Arizona 3758 posts
Feb 11th '13

I didn't read all 3 pages of this thread so I don't know if this has been addressed, but I would be pissed off at all the staff at the school as well who let you sit like that all day. They could have ran to the store and got you some cheap sweatpants or something.
I am very sorry you had to go through that. I have a lot of traumatizing issue's from my childhood ( mother was a drug addict, dad was too busy dealing with her to care about me). I also think back a lot and get pissed off or sad. It is not healthy to do that at all.
I am now seeing a psychiatrist for the 3rd time to get to the bottom of my issues. I have GAD and Panic Disorder and i know it all stems from my childhood.
OP, I would seriously consider seeking a therapist to talk things through with. They do help wonders.

The Dandelion Rapist 18 kids; New Mexico 6885 posts
Feb 11th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" I hope that's what it is. My step-siblings have a real mother too so it's like they have 2 mothers ... [snip!] ... need one now lol. The only thing I can do is be the best mother I can for my own kids. And thank the lord for my grandmother. "


That's pretty much all you can do is learn from your parents mistakes by becoming a better mother to your children.



The only grandparent I have ever been close to was my great grandmother back East, and she passed away back in 07. I only have one grandparent left, and that is my mom's biological dad.

Melissa 1 child; Michigan 1411 posts
Feb 11th '13
Quoting Sherri + 3:" I didn't read all 3 pages of this thread so I don't know if this has been addressed, but I would be pissed ... [snip!] ... stems from my childhood. OP, I would seriously consider seeking a therapist to talk things through with. They do help wonders."

They could have done something. They should have at least called my mom for me and been like wtf?

The Dandelion Rapist 18 kids; New Mexico 6885 posts
Feb 11th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" I was super close to both my mom's parents. But my grandma also passed away in 2007 and my grandpa ... [snip!] ... husband so I try to make time to go see her as much as possible. I was blessed with 2 sweet good-hearted grandmothers. :)"


My Grandpa (On my dad's side) passed away when my dad was like 8 or 9... So I never met him. Though, my grandma did remarry and I got to know that Grandpa. My Grandma (On my dad's side) passed away a while ago. My Grandpa Passed away last year due to Bone Cancer.



On my mom's side, my Grandma passed away the day after Aaron and I got married. (September 2010). And my grandpa on my mom's side is still around. Then there was my great grandma (Whom I mentioned earlier) who passed away in 2007. She was the sweetest lady ever but goodness you did NOT want to get on that woman's bad side.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
Feb 12th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mel152009:</b>" My mom wasn't very maternal either. No hugs, kisses, cuddles. We just recently started saying "love you" ... [snip!] ... up, he took me shopping, helped pick out my prom dress, discussed boys with me... etc. I'm glad I'm closer with her now though."</blockquote>



My mom and I have a similar relationship. I don't ever remember a time being
Told ily, hugging or kissing me, etc. she finally hugged me and said ily right before I was hospitalized. That's about it. Basically when she's scared for my safety idk. I have a lot of issues with that. I constantly need SOs affection and constantly need him to reassure me he loves me. I feel so psycho.