Gone thank you.
First off, I am so sorry he is going through this on top of his other conditions. It must be hell
Secondly, perhaps he just needs some time to digest it all. I know when I am in the hospital, I don't want anyone around me. And there have been times I've gone to the hospital and not told my family.
I wouldn't be too hurt oover his choice not to tell you. I know you still care for him (cause of the kids) and I know that you must be hurt that he didn't involve you, but try not to take it personally.
He doesn't need you. And that is a GOOD thing. While feeling unneeded sucks, it is nice to think that he can stand on his own when he has to.
Do you know he doesn't want you there?
I mean if he didn't even tell his mom maybe he thinks he is going to die and didn't want to tell anyone because he doesn't want to worry them or scare them, and if he dies he doesn't he want anyone to see him in such a state?
A lot of people are like that....
If he truly just doesn't want or need you anymore you will just have to come to terms of that on your own. Im assuming you two split up for a reason. Maybe being apart has shown him his independence. Maybe he likes battling this alone.
Also,consider that men dont like being weak. They dont like needing to rely on someone. He is in a weak and fragile state. Maybe he just wants to be alone, with no offense personally to you. You know?
In all honesty, Time. Time makes the sting not feel as bad. If B tells me that C is in the hospital right now and it has something to do with his heart again, I will cry. It will hurt that Im not there helping him and being there. But.. yeah. Time is the biggest factor right now. You have to let yourself grieve and be angry and pissed at him. <3
Nothing makes it better. :/ feeling unwanted is the worth feeling.
Maybe he was scared to tell you. Maybe he was scared because he knows he hurt you. (I seen previous posts).
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" In all honesty, Time. Time makes the sting not feel as bad. If B tells me that C is in the hospital right ... [snip!] ... there. But.. yeah. Time is the biggest factor right now. You have to let yourself grieve and be angry and pissed at him. <3 "
Thank you :) <3
Quoting Vile Tramp:" I'm trying not to. But it was only his mom and I who didn't get a call. I don't care if he texted ... [snip!] ... week because I have stuff to do." " What's my Drs number?". I know it's a good thing, but it just.. hurts like you said. "
Perhaps he is just trying to "be tough" or something. Prove you wrong or whatever.
Whatever reasons he has, they are his and his alone and you should respect that.
maybe bring up that you'd like to know in the future instead of him lying. But keep it light and nonthreatening
<blockquote><b>Quoting Vile Tramp:</b>" Thank you. <3"</blockquote>
I hope it all works out for you. And you can find happiness. And I hope he is okay as well. If you ever need someone to talk to feel free to PM me. I've gone through a similar situation as you.
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" Perhaps he is just trying to "be tough" or something. Prove you wrong or whatever. Whatever reasons ... [snip!] ... that. maybe bring up that you'd like to know in the future instead of him lying. But keep it light and nonthreatening"
Yeah. I understand that those are his wishes and it's not so much that I don't respect them, because I know that there is NOTHING I can possibly do to change his mind or make him think differently.
The whole situation is upsetting, I seriously hope that he gets through this and is fine.