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Leaving DH & already have someone new.. BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
12th Feb '13

Yesterday morning, DH and I split up. He moved in with his ex-girlfriend/babymama.
I've liked this other guy for a while now, and last night we hooked up.
I don't feel bad at all, actually. I feel free... I really like this guy, and he says that he has strong feelings for me too.
I just don't know what to do, or think.
I mean, I know I want to be with this other guy. He's an amazing man, he's wonderful with my daughter, but I don't know how the whole divorce process works.
I don't know. I'm confused, and I'm so happy. I guess I just need someone to tell me it's okay.


And before anyone goes off saying "you JUST split up with your husband and you already slept with someone else, blah blahblah" I left my husband for the ridiculous amount of mental and emotional abuse I was getting from him.

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22298 posts
12th Feb '13

sounds like a rebound. Of course this guy is a great guy and blah blah blah, thats the way it feels when you get out of a relationship where you are treated like shit.



Don't jump too fast

bloopbloop♥ 1 child; Illinois 13700 posts
12th Feb '13

Just take is slow with this new dude...But it sounds like he has been part of your life for a while now since he is amazing with your child.

ElleBelle (37 weeks) Due September 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Rio Rancho, NM, United States 22468 posts
12th Feb '13

Honestly who the f**k cares what other people think. As long as your happy and healthy.

JΔS Georgia 74543 posts
12th Feb '13

If I had just left my husband, I wouldn't be jumping into a relationship. Having sex, etc etc etc is one thing but I wouldn't be ready to give myself (emotionally) to someone else. I think its better to be alone for awhile. JMO. You also have to think about your daughter..she's more "in the know" than you think she may be.

A&J. ♥ 1 child; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 5613 posts
12th Feb '13

Don't feel guilty at all.. But don't rush. Give your heart and mind time to heal from the abuse. If its meant to be he won't care how long it takes you to be fully ready.

*KatteyBug* Due November 18 (boy); 1 child; Madison, AL, United States 2234 posts
12th Feb '13
Quoting A&J. ♥:" Don't feel guilty at all.. But don't rush. Give your heart and mind time to heal from the abuse. If its meant to be he won't care how long it takes you to be fully ready."


:!: This for sure!

BαtMαɳ Gotham, __, United States 65618 posts
12th Feb '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" If I had just left my husband, I wouldn't be jumping into a relationship. Having sex, etc etc etc is ... [snip!] ... to be alone for awhile. JMO. You also have to think about your daughter..she's more "in the know" than you think she may be."


:!:

Mama Charli Due August 8; 6 kids; Texas 6387 posts
12th Feb '13

Take is slow. Its something new and exciting but who knows if that'll last?! You don't have to feel guilty about being happy, just don't rush anything with someone new. KWIM?

JKBC♡ 2 kids; Windsor, PA, United States 9328 posts
12th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:</b>" If I had just left my husband, I wouldn't be jumping into a relationship. Having sex, etc etc etc is ... [snip!] ... to be alone for awhile. JMO. You also have to think about your daughter..she's more "in the know" than you think she may be."</blockquote>




This!!!

user banned Due December 20; Georgia 1823 posts
12th Feb '13

You always meet the worst guys when you're on the rebound...

Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1802 posts
12th Feb '13

as long as you think your ready and happy then why not go for it. Just take it slow and don't let him and your daughter get to close just in case it doesn't work out.

HappinessInMisery 3 kids; Ohio 30396 posts
12th Feb '13

I started seeing someome the same month i left dh...



Weve been together nearly a year