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Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31297 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Destinite:</b>" If that happened in my house, then all little ... [snip!] ... then all little pets like that would be given to a new home."</blockquote> Yeah but it doesn't make a kid a murder."


I agree

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49254 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting Destinite:" I agree"


I honestly wouldn't have any kind of small pet for a child under about 8 really. My son has 2 cats and a dog. The cats are full grown as is the dog so when he mauls them, they can hold their own lol. And we've been teaching him since birth about "gentle pets". But he's a baby so he still is rough at times. He was sitting on his little car the other day and I hear a SMACK! then a squeal of joy and a yowl. I looked over and he had his cat (they're seriously best friends and pick on each other) by the scruff and had smashed him into the hood of the car he was on and cuddling him. Jack (the cat) was just looking at me like "MOOOOM HELP!" but didn't fight back or anything. And I just said "RORY! BE NICE TO YOUR KITTY!" and he let him go. Then I had to fight laughing hysterically.

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31297 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" I honestly wouldn't have any kind of small pet for a child under about 8 really. My son has 2 cats and ... [snip!] ... back or anything. And I just said "RORY! BE NICE TO YOUR KITTY!" and he let him go. Then I had to fight laughing hysterically."

Yes, we have hamsters and they were my husband's grand idea. Thankfully, after about a month my son got used to them and I can trust him with them now. At first he drove me nuts with them. I thought he was a little young for them (he's 4.5).

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49254 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting Destinite:" Yes, we have hamsters and they were my husband's grand idea. Thankfully, after about a month my son got ... [snip!] ... and I can trust him with them now. At first he drove me nuts with them. I thought he was a little young for them (he's 4.5)."


That's good, I'm glad he learned :) I had a friend that was "Playing" with his, and bowled it down the stairs in its ball at 5 and killed it. Oops :?

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31297 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" That's good, I'm glad he learned :) I had a friend that was "Playing" with his, and bowled it down the stairs in its ball at 5 and killed it. Oops :?"


Aww, poor thing. I think what helped him grasp that they're fragile is one of the two we got was sick. I think she was sickly when we bought her and we tried to nurse her to good health, but she ended up passing away. I took her back to the store and got another one. He was sad that Candice died. (Phineas and Ferb)



I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49254 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting Destinite:" Aww, poor thing. I think what helped him grasp that they're fragile is one of the two we got was sick. ... [snip!] ... ended up passing away. I took her back to the store and got another one. He was sad that Candice died. (Phineas and Ferb) "


Awh poor guy. I'm not looking forward to having to deal with telling ours one of his pets died. I am hoping that we'll make it to teen years. My cat from when I was a kid lived to 23. I'm hoping we will get that lucky.

EK91 1 child; Fort Worth, TX, United States 696 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting flip off:" Our turtle laid some eggs. I wasn't sure if they were viable or not because she laid them in water and ... [snip!] ... that? I'm at a complete loss. This child just does things he knows he isn't supposed to do just to piss me off and upset me. "


he's not a murderer. that's horrible to say. it was turtle eggs..... he's a kid. just get over it and if they have more eggs then move them into a different room where the kiddos can't get to them....

EK91 1 child; Fort Worth, TX, United States 696 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" I honestly wouldn't have any kind of small pet for a child under about 8 really. My son has 2 cats and ... [snip!] ... back or anything. And I just said "RORY! BE NICE TO YOUR KITTY!" and he let him go. Then I had to fight laughing hysterically."


we won't probably have any pets until our daughter can help take care of her own. around 7 or 8. we have a Chihuahua right now but she's fast enough to dodge ther grabbing little hands of my nephew. also she's great for cleaning up the crumbs haha!

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31297 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Awh poor guy. I'm not looking forward to having to deal with telling ours one of his pets died. I am ... [snip!] ... I am hoping that we'll make it to teen years. My cat from when I was a kid lived to 23. I'm hoping we will get that lucky."


We lost one of our dogs in Sept 2011 and it was so hard. He was still not old enough to really understand, but he is old enough now. He knows our dog isn't coming back and says he misses him periodically and that we need to get our other dog a new friend.



I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49254 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting EK91:" we won't probably have any pets until our daughter can help take care of her own. around 7 or 8. we ... [snip!] ... now but she's fast enough to dodge ther grabbing little hands of my nephew. also she's great for cleaning up the crumbs haha!"


We have a lab pointer mix and she's a great hoover too lol

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49254 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting Destinite:" We lost one of our dogs in Sept 2011 and it was so hard. He was still not old enough to really understand, ... [snip!] ... knows our dog isn't coming back and says he misses him periodically and that we need to get our other dog a new friend. "


awhhh that's sad and sweet at the same time. Shows great empathy on his part.

Tanya ;) 4 kids; New Hampshire 110 posts
15th Feb '13

Hi. I understand that it is upsetting but he doesn't completely understand. He knows he broke rules. You will have to probably have small discussions at times where he asks lots of questions. If you haven't yet. Do a burial for them. You will have to use this experience as a lost of trust. Next time or with any pet, he has to earn trust back. Remind him every time he wants to be involved that he lost your trust because he hurt the turtle babies so they are no longer here. Have him earn in baby steps. First he can only watch/look at them and talk to them. Then only touch when someone trustworthy isholding. Then he only helps with caring for their home orcleaning of. Then he can hold but only while being watched by someone trustworthy and then finally by then if all steps have been earned he will be considered a trustworthy person. It's time and patience. This will teach him that and how losing trust is easy but earning it back is harder. The understanding of the death part will take time. Maybe watch kid movies that show death andtalk about it. Like Lion King. It's a long movie so after the scene when it gets happy again. Pause it and talk about it. That's just one idea. I know this is upsetting but it will get better. Worry when he's olderlike 10 if he's doing such things. Good luck ;-)

Tanya ;) 4 kids; New Hampshire 110 posts
15th Feb '13

Also. She came on to get advice and mostly no one offered. Just bashed. It's sad. If she was an awful mother on this matter she wouldn't be seeking help. Oh and incase ppl decide to over think what I said. I don't mean only 10 and up to only worry. It was just an example.



Another note to mom asking for advice. Try getting or making a locked lid to cage/tank. I use to have one with that option. Another step for him to earn back. Not to have to lock it due to him anymore. Again. I wish you the best of luck that this is your last incident like this.