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user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting min.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" You can't get a new number. And, what's she gonna do with it, steal his identity? "</blockquote> They did it to my husband.."

Plus...won't she just need the new number for the bank account anyway? Might as well just tell her to rip it up because you don't want her to have it. And honestly, what's she gonna do with it? It's in a safe you said.



Clearly it's good she has it- you didn't know it and she did and it worked out in your favor.

ღ Diana ღ Michigan 15726 posts
13th Feb '13

No, you should not have given it to her if you didn't trust her. That's your mistake, you should have opened it up yourself instead. There are only a few circumstances where you can request a new one http://ssa-custhelp.ssa.gov/app/answers/detail/a_id/79/~/request-for-a-different-social-security-number

min. 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Lorain, Ohio 2488 posts
13th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting tay. ☮ 32wks!:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting min.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" ... [snip!] ... his identity? "</blockquote> They did it to my husband.."</blockquote> They stole your Husbands identity...?"</blockquote>




My FIL used my husbands identity to buy something-never paid for it and it went into collections and damaged his score for years.



Im not overreacting here people-thats my sons identity and you cant trust people. I wouldnt like my own mother having it.



Theyve done some shady, secretive things with money over the years and now that i know she still has his ssn-i dont understand why. I could get him a new card and itd take time to get. Its not like shes god and without her having written it down im forever doomed..

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting min.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting tay. ☮ 32wks!:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... get him a new card and itd take time to get. Its not like shes god and without her having written it down im forever doomed.."


Then why the fuck did you give it to them to begin with? Doiiiii.

ღ Diana ღ Michigan 15726 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" Plus...won't she just need the new number for the bank account anyway? Might as well just tell her to ... [snip!] ... it? It's in a safe you said. Clearly it's good she has it- you didn't know it and she did and it worked out in your favor."


Thank goodness right?

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
13th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting min.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting tay. ☮ 32wks!:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... get him a new card and itd take time to get. Its not like shes god and without her having written it down im forever doomed.."</blockquote>




Um. You shouldn't have given it to them in the first place, then...

min. 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Lorain, Ohio 2488 posts
13th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" Then why the fuck did you give it to them to begin with? Doiiiii. "</blockquote>




We were fixing our relationship and i had asked her to destroy it after she gave it to the bank. She was super nice and completely agreed. Now this. I thought we were turning over a new leaf.



I dont plan on giving it to her again-no matter what shed need it flr

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting min.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" Then why the fuck did you give it ... [snip!] ... Now this. I thought we were turning over a new leaf. I dont plan on giving it to her again-no matter what shed need it flr"



she already has it.....the "damage" is done

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting min.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" Then why the fuck did you give it ... [snip!] ... Now this. I thought we were turning over a new leaf. I dont plan on giving it to her again-no matter what shed need it flr"


Well I'm glad I don't have to have that conversation with her.

user banned 2 kids; Silly, Belgium 6539 posts
13th Feb '13

This whole post is confusing. I mean, you don't want her to have it because she used your husband's SSN to buy something in the past, but you gave it to her anyway? If you care so much about your kid's SSN, how'd you lose it? All of our cards along with passports and birth certificates and marriage registration are all locked in my filing cabinet.



I would be more worried about the fact that my kid's SSN is lost and lord knows who will find it than the fact that my MIL has it, locked in a safe, written down.

min. 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Lorain, Ohio 2488 posts
13th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Salad Fingers:</b>" This whole post is confusing. I mean, you don't want her to have it because she used your husband's SSN ... [snip!] ... that my kid's SSN is lost and lord knows who will find it than the fact that my MIL has it, locked in a safe, written down."</blockquote>



I have no access to our safe-and my husband keeps forgetting to put all of our important papers in there.




Sheesh-you guys can be so brutal

user banned 2 kids; Silly, Belgium 6539 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting min.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Salad Fingers:</b>" This whole post is confusing. I mean, you ... [snip!] ... to our safe-and my husband keeps forgetting to put all of our important papers in there. Sheesh-you guys can be so brutal"


I'm seriously not trying to be brutal, I'm sorry if I came across that way. I'm not one of those girls who picks on people. I just meant that I was confused and ultimately, I don't think you have anything to worry about. 10-15 years ago when you could get a credit card with nothing but a SSN and put any DOB, sure...but not these days.

Ꭶwan♥Nemo 1 child; Kansas City, Missouri 7416 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting min.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Salad Fingers:</b>" This whole post is confusing. I mean, you ... [snip!] ... to our safe-and my husband keeps forgetting to put all of our important papers in there. Sheesh-you guys can be so brutal"


Not really brutal. Why ask the question if you don't feel you were over reacting? Why give it to her if you had doubts about her honesty? Youre the person in the position of power, no one could force you to give his social. They wont give you a new SSN in this case, especially if there is no evidence it was misused.

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
13th Feb '13

Sigh....



No 1 listens to me...



Get a indentity security service... Its cheap... If ur husband already had his shit stolen and u went thru the drama of changing his ssn, i cant imagine they would not recomend that...

min. 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Lorain, Ohio 2488 posts
13th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Salad Fingers:</b>" I'm seriously not trying to be brutal, I'm sorry if I came across that way. I'm not one of those girls ... [snip!] ... about. 10-15 years ago when you could get a credit card with nothing but a SSN and put any DOB, sure...but not these days."</blockquote>



Thanks-i may have taken some of the comments to heart. Whacky hormonal day I guess. I dont know what all it takes to missuse someone identity. I guess it just made me uncomfortable that she didnt shred it like she said-and she still has it. I immediately went to ill intent.



I think ill just cool it with this-and next time just tell her im uncomfortble giving it out?



I know noone forced me-but i definitely felt pressured and my marriage was rocky as the time so he wouldnt share his opinion. I felt not giving it to her ment i was keeping her from doing something great for my son. If it came down to it she couldve opened it up without his ssn