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A little advise please Man in stockings 1 child; Colorado 2766 posts
13th Feb '13

So once again we are trying to get my son to sleep in his crib like a big boy. He did good the first week but I didn't, and neither did my husband.



When he is in his crib he gets up every hour. He will actually start fussing and crying and won't go back to sleep until I either A) go feed him or B) just pick him up and rock him for about 3 mins. I don't want him thinking he needs me in there every hour bc he doesn't. In our room he will get up 2 times max in the night to feed, so I know it's not a hunger thing and needing 4 oz every hour. He doesn't even eat that much when he is awake.
He has a mobile that flashes a soft light in different colors, It also plays soothing noises (all of which he likes and is used too), plus his monitor is a nightlight so he has that constant soft light like in our room (again something he is used too).
Do I just keep going in there?? I just don't know what to do, if he is going to keep getting up every hour i'm just going to keep him in our room so both of us can actually get some sleep. BTW he is 4.5months

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21543 posts
13th Feb '13

4 months is still very young. I would answer all my child's cries at that age.

vagina. 3 kids; Titz, No, Germany 30924 posts
13th Feb '13

If he's eating all 4oz every hour and not spitting it up...just let him eat. Maybe he's going through a growth spurt.



He's only 4.5 months old. He's still a baby. Baby him.

PJ&C 2 kids; Arizona 18480 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting i made a vagina.:" If he's eating all 4oz every hour and not spitting it up...just let him eat. Maybe he's going through a growth spurt. He's only 4.5 months old. He's still a baby. Baby him."


:!:

kitermom 2 kids; Beaverton, Oregon 740 posts
13th Feb '13

He's a baby! NOT a big boy.

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21543 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting kitermom:" He's a baby! NOT a big boy."


This!!! There is no reason to make a baby CIO at that age. :( Poor baby.

SophieKay 2 kids; Ontario 313 posts
13th Feb '13

I agree, too early to worry about sleeping like a big boy. At this stage you just respond to needs in whatever way keeps you the most sane. If that means cosleeping go for it, if that means waking up more frequently that's cool too. Just a cautionary tale, I moved my daughter from bassinet to crib at your sons age and I wasn't very understanding about her change in night time needs. It ended up majorly spiraling into tons of anxiety at night for everyone, especially baby, and long story short now I'm typing this while my three year old loudly snores and uses my eight-months-pregnant tummy as a pillow. If I could go back in time I wouldn't worry about her being the perfect sleeper in the perfect crib with the perfect feeding schedule, I would have just stuck t whatever worked for all three of us.

LaTosha Commire Due August 19; 2 kids; Michigan 4 posts
13th Feb '13

My son went through the same thing, we just put the crib in our room. You should baby him, he's still a baby. It isn't easy getting a baby to adjust, my son is 15 months old and still fails to sleep throughout the night. All babies are different but by 6 months he should be sleeping through the night, or waking up rarely (according to my doctor). It is possible to spoil them too which is why my son still wakes up wanting to be held until he goes back to sleep. Right now he is watching TV with daddy until he falls back to sleep. It's up to you how you handle things but if you're worried I would talk to the doctor about it and see what they suggest, I'm sure they can give you good ideas to try. Baby is still young though so you shouldn't worry about spoiling at his age. Best of luck!

PJ&C 2 kids; Arizona 18480 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting SophieKay:" I agree, too early to worry about sleeping like a big boy. At this stage you just respond to needs in ... [snip!] ... sleeper in the perfect crib with the perfect feeding schedule, I would have just stuck t whatever worked for all three of us."


My 3year old only sleeps in his bed for a few hours then ends up in our bed.

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21543 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting SophieKay:" I agree, too early to worry about sleeping like a big boy. At this stage you just respond to needs in ... [snip!] ... sleeper in the perfect crib with the perfect feeding schedule, I would have just stuck t whatever worked for all three of us."


Agreed! By 5 or 6 months I realized that crib sleeping just wasn't working for DD. She hardly slept in the crib. So I began cosleeping with her. She slept like a log ever since. She just needed mommy.
She's almost 4 now and we moved into a new house and I told her she should sleep in her big girl bed. (Bought her a pretty pink princess bed) She took right up in that bed and she rarely asks to sleep with me now.



So having a "perfect" sleep schedule and whatnot isn't really that important in the long run.

PJ&C 2 kids; Arizona 18480 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting Minion:" Agreed! By 5 or 6 months I realized that crib sleeping just wasn't working for DD. She hardly slept ... [snip!] ... asks to sleep with me now. So having a "perfect" sleep schedule and whatnot isn't really that important in the long run."


And its so much better when they agree and want to sleep in their own bed,instead of fighting with them to sleep in the crib.

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21543 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting PJ&C:" And its so much better when they agree and want to sleep in their own bed,instead of fighting with them to sleep in the crib."


It is!

SophieKay 2 kids; Ontario 313 posts
13th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" Agreed! By 5 or 6 months I realized that crib sleeping just wasn't working for DD. She hardly slept ... [snip!] ... asks to sleep with me now. So having a "perfect" sleep schedule and whatnot isn't really that important in the long run."</blockquote>




That's wonderful! That's how it went for us too, I realized this was the best option for our family 5-6 months in. She's just always had tremendous bed time anxiety since that move from her bassinet, at a certain point I just realized my baby is scared and there's no amount of getting little feet in my face all night that will make soothing her not worth it. We just moved to a new house too and had Santa bring her a whole new big girl bedroom. Unfortunately, like I said, I'm very much pregnant and everything has been a huge adjustment for her (new dog, new house, new baby, potty training all at once) and we haven't been able to get her to sleep in her room yet. She loves her space, we cuddle and read in her bed, but I see her slowly building in anxiety and eventually the excuses start. Too dark, too hot, monsters etc... Oh well, I kind of dig our nights together still. She talks to her brother before drifting off, which is very sweet, and always snuggles up to me the whole night. I'm less thrilled with her using her brother as a pillow now that I'm so huge haha, especially since he's not a fan either and spends all night trying to kick her off through my abdomen. Ouch!



Western culture puts way too much pressure on infants to "do it right". If a small child needs a snuggle from mom that's okay. When people criticize my cosleeping I always say "when she's grown and I'm looking back on motherhood, if my greatest complaint is that she loved me too much, wanted to be held too much, spent too many nights in my arms, I'm pretty sure I'll feel I was the luckiest parent alive.".

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21543 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting SophieKay:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" Agreed! By 5 or 6 months I realized that crib ... [snip!] ... wanted to be held too much, spent too many nights in my arms, I'm pretty sure I'll feel I was the luckiest parent alive."."


I think the same. I'd rather give too many hugs and kisses than not enough.

PJ&C 2 kids; Arizona 18480 posts
13th Feb '13
Quoting SophieKay:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" Agreed! By 5 or 6 months I realized that crib ... [snip!] ... wanted to be held too much, spent too many nights in my arms, I'm pretty sure I'll feel I was the luckiest parent alive."."


"when she's grown and I'm looking back on motherhood, if my greatest complaint is that she loved me too much, wanted to be held too much, spent too many nights in my arms, I'm pretty sure I'll feel I was the luckiest parent alive.".



:cry: So true i would never give that up..