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Saying a name in his sleep S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 3759 posts
14th Feb '13

I just got off the phone with my best friend who was hysterically angry over her SO saying his ex's name in his sleep a few times. They've been together now for almost 2 years (off and on).



I really didn't know what to say since idk my reaction until I would be in that situation. I just tried to go along with her and make her feel better.



So my question is..... What would YOU do if your SO or DH said an ex's name in his sleep? Would you think it's nothing, unconscious talk, or think there is something going on either in his mind, or in reality?

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
14th Feb '13

He can't help it. I wouldn't be pissed

Juggernog-aholic 4 kids; 2 angel babies; P, AR, United States 20068 posts
14th Feb '13

If he wasn't acting weird and there were no other signs of him cheating, I wouldn't think anything about it. It's not like he can help what or who he dreams about.



But. If he was doing things to already make her suspect cheating, I would probably be a little more suspicious.

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 3759 posts
14th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's Mummy:</b>" He can't help it. I wouldn't be pissed"</blockquote>




That's what I wanted to say but I could see her point. He does have a history if cheating that I should have thrown into the post.

Cαtwomαn 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Gotham, DC, United States 11533 posts
status 14th Feb '13

You can't help it... How could you be mad about that?

Redneck Mamma North Carolina 8746 posts
14th Feb '13

I would give him shit for months same as he would do me. Ive called out guys names in my sleep before, it hurt DH's feeling for a while but now he just picks on me about it.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18554 posts
14th Feb '13

I would make up some crazy dream story and then ask him if he had a weird dream last night because he woke me up mumbling, but I couldn't understand what he was saying...

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50789 posts
14th Feb '13

Eh it's the subconscious. I've had dreams with ex's in it. Just how the brain works not a reason to be mad at the poor guy.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
14th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting S U Z I E:</b>" I would make up some crazy dream story and then ask him if he had a weird dream last night because he woke me up mumbling, but I couldn't understand what he was saying..."</blockquote>




You don't always remember dreams though

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 3759 posts
14th Feb '13

I think I'll tell her most of the stuff you guys said. I can understand her being angry since the guy has cheated in her with the girl. But it really isn't his fault.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
14th Feb '13

Maybe it was a nightmare and he yelled out her name then pushed her over and ran away... It is not necessarily romantic

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15526 posts
14th Feb '13

My husband has done It before. It didn't bother me and I wasn't mad about it. I just asked him in the morning what his dream was about he said he didn't remember and laughed when I told him about it. They had a past it's normal to think/dream about it from time to time.

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 5666 posts
status 15th Feb '13

You can't control what you dream. If your friend is so upset about it then I would wonder if she is having trust issues already. I don't think someone in a secure stable relationship would feel threatened by a dream.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
15th Feb '13

I wouldn't like it. But I wouldn't fuss over it. I've had a few dreams about being head over heels for my POS ex again. Not my true feelings at all. So if I said his name in my sleep I would just feel bad if DH heard and got upset.



I would joke about it for sure though when he wakes up. :lol:

lovinthem04 Due June 26 (boy); 19 kids; Fort Leonard Wood, Missouri 1999 posts
15th Feb '13
Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:" I just got off the phone with my best friend who was hysterically angry over her SO saying his ex's name ... [snip!] ... sleep? Would you think it's nothing, unconscious talk, or think there is something going on either in his mind, or in reality?"


To be honest, Idk. I think I would be mad. Mainly because we have been together 8 years (this spring) and we have only been with each other sexually. Yes I know that saying someone's name doesn't mean it could have been in a sexual way, but he isn't around women that often, so it would be really weird. I'm sure I would get over it though lol