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October2011 2 kids; Pennsylvania 6883 posts
14th Feb '13
Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:" Yes Im so very ungrateful yet Im the one who is always going out of my way for him and his family. Im ... [snip!] ... that Im wrong when you have no idea why I feel the way I do or the things that have happened that have made me feel this way. "


i wouldnt post your v-day issue on a public forum for hundreds of people who don't know you to read then.
Theres always things i want to vent about..but i dont because i;d get shit for it because like you said, nobody know the underlying reasons for your complaint. All they have to go by is what you wrote. You seem angry though...i'd talk to him..and not make it about the gift.

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50791 posts
14th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:</b>" Yes Im so very ungrateful yet Im the one who is always going out of my way for him and his family. Im ... [snip!] ... that Im wrong when you have no idea why I feel the way I do or the things that have happened that have made me feel this way. "</blockquote>




Sounds like you're throwing a pity party now. If you're that unhappy and that put out do something about it.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8499 posts
14th Feb '13
Quoting ~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~:" At least he tried....personally, I think you shouldn't have said anything....that really kills a guys ... [snip!] ... then upon closer inspection, they're bruised or dying....it all depends, he may not have even notice that they were dying. "


Im in no way upset about what his mom got it was my idea to get her flowers to begin with. Im upset because the only reason he even bothered to try to get me something was to avoid being yelled at by his mother. I love the fact that he does so much for his mom and even though there are times when I cant stand her Im glad that he is there for her. More often then not when we argue over his mother its because I dont think he is doing enough for her because she is so sick and we honestly dont know if she will even live to see another day the way her health is right now. Im upset because he doesnt make the effort to do anything nice for me on his own ever when I do so much for him.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8499 posts
14th Feb '13
Quoting October2011:" wow..okay then. You have to learn that guys don't think like women do. They just don't. Their thought ... [snip!] ... is a gift. But If you are that unhappy then A. go to counceling B. let him know whats actually bothering you C. leave him."

I do let him know whats bothering me and why its bothering me but he doesnt seem to get it. And I feel that after all this time I shouldnt have to tell him to do these things and his mom shouldnt have to tell him either he should do them on his own. I dont see how thats asking for so much.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8499 posts
14th Feb '13
Quoting Brink:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:</b>" Yes Im so very ungrateful yet ... [snip!] ... Sounds like you're throwing a pity party now. If you're that unhappy and that put out do something about it."


:roll:
Yes Im throwing such a huge pity party just because I want to feel appreciated and cared about. Remember your comments to me next time your having a bad day because you feel under appreciated. Honestly I would love for you to come live one day in my life and tell me I have no right to feel the way I do.

October2011 2 kids; Pennsylvania 6883 posts
14th Feb '13
Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:" I do let him know whats bothering me and why its bothering me but he doesnt seem to get it. And I feel ... [snip!] ... things and his mom shouldnt have to tell him either he should do them on his own. I dont see how thats asking for so much."


It's not. But expecting things will only lead to disappointment. And if you talk to him about it and then he goes out and gets you flowers..you'll probably just feel like its a pity gift. So theres really no winning here. It's nice to get surprised or pampered from time to time, I understand that.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8499 posts
14th Feb '13
Quoting October2011:" It's not. But expecting things will only lead to disappointment. And if you talk to him about it and ... [snip!] ... its a pity gift. So theres really no winning here. It's nice to get surprised or pampered from time to time, I understand that."

See our relationship has never been about gifts or anything like that. Ive always done everything I can for him and he does somethings for me as well. It just pisses me off that I do so much for him and in the process Ive put off my goals and dreams to make sure his mom is taken care of and that he is happy and all I want is a little appreciation for all the things I do. Im not asking for gifts or to be pampered because honestly Im not into all of that. I would just like him to for once acknowledge the things I do for him and for him to show me that he appreciates what I do.

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50791 posts
14th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:</b>" :roll: Yes Im throwing such a huge pity party just because I want to feel appreciated and cared about. ... [snip!] ... appreciated. Honestly I would love for you to come live one day in my life and tell me I have no right to feel the way I do. "</blockquote>




If its so bad leave. You have free will.




You're an adult. Your life is your choice. I'm sorry you're not getting a bunch of people going that ass picking out bruised roses.



It is humorous you act like you're the only person ever that's been in a lousy situation. The thing is you are choosing to be miserable.