For those who have cheated before, why did you do it? Did it just happen as most suggest? Did you come clean/get caught or keep quiet? Did/do you regret cheating?
I cheated because I wanted a way out of an abusive relationship. He knew but he didnt. He was cheating as well when I cheated. It wasnt a healthy relationship.
If you have a need to cheat, leave him...
I cheated because I had security problems and because I knew I could get away with it. I told the first time I cheated. I didn't tell the second time.
I cheated because I was immature. If I didn't get what I needed from one guy, I would just go find it from someone else. Plus I was really really into sex. It wasn't until the consequences of what I was doing caught up with me that I quit.
No I don't regret it because if I hadn't cheated when I was younger I may have no learned those lessons. Then I wouldn't have as strong and trusting of a relationship that I have now.
I'm actually in the middle of writing my story that details why I cheated. I think that I, like most women, had more complicated motives when I cheated. Or at least that's what I tell myself because it was very out of character.
I cheated (not on DH) because I just....was young. I was immature, and my relationship sucked, but I felt stuck in it. It was an escape, I guess.
Because he cheated on me. I was 15 and immature.
There's always a reason for cheating. It rarely happens "just because"
Oh also, no I don't regret it. Had I not cheated so many times ( :oops: ), we may have actually stayed together. Yikes.
And I learned a lot. I recognized the signs of cheating with my next relationship, and knew I was being cheated on.
Because I didn't want to be with them anymore.
Now however I just say I'm not happy and we either figure it out or break up.
I think I grew up lol.
No I don't regret it, It was a lesson I feel I needed to learn.
It didn't help me catch the signs of cheating with my DS's dad, though I wish it had.
I guess to get away from the crappy relationship that I was in. The relationship was emotionally draining but i was stupid and didn't realize it would be even more draining to cheat. I got caught the first time and I told the second time. I regretted it ATM because I felt guilty. I don't regret it now because I learned from it.
I cheated because I didn't want to be with him, but we lived together and I couldn't get out of the lease. I tried breaking up with him and he just begged me to stay and said he'd kill himself and stuff, so I just planned on staying until the lease was up. He found out a month before the lease ended and dumped me though. If I could go back, I wouldn't have cheated, although I am happily married to the man I cheated on my ex with.
Quoting Mayhem.:" Oh also, no I don't regret it. Had I not cheated so many times ( :oops: ), we may have actually stayed ... [snip!] ... Yikes. And I learned a lot. I recognized the signs of cheating with my next relationship, and knew I was being cheated on. "
I have to agree with this. It goes the same for me. If I didnt cheat, and if I didnt do all of the things that I had done, I would still be in a very toxic relationship. And from cheating and being cheated on by my oldest sons father, I learned how to spot if someone is cheating. And it has helped me, because I left another cheated after I found out that he had been cheating.
I was trying to push him away due to my own insecurities and commitment fears, plus I was drowning in a near-fatal addiction to oxycontin and just f**king up every good thing going on in my life at the time. I wound up admitting that I was cheating, going to rehab and we worked on our (*ahem* MY) issues. I regret doing it every single freaking day and I still can't believe he forgave me and stuck by me.
DH and I broke up a long time ago, and I dated another guy for a few months. I was madly in love with DH still, but tried to really fight it. He came home for a visit, showed up at my school, and ta-da. We didn't sleep together, but we were very close to that point. I immediately came clean to the other guy, apologized for my actions, and we broke up. I didn't really talk to DH after that for another month (yet again, long story.) But I couldn't take it anymore and called him up (another long story :lol:) and the rest is history. We were engaged a few months later.
I regret it terribly, although I know the other guy was totally wrong for me. I hate that someone will always think of me as an unfaithful woman, when that's not who I think I am at all.
Because I was a stupid, heartless b***h. I had a boyfriend that I'd been dating for a couple of months. Then my ex who I was still in love with came home from deployment and my knees went weak. So instead of just admitting my feelings to my boyfriend, I cheated. My ex was using me for ass and I didn't care. My ex usually hung out with my boyfriend and I and would let my boyfriend pay for shit. :? It was pretty horrible. Then, I got very smashed while on vacation and had sex with another ex. So, I had sex with three different guys in less than a month. I didn't come clean until I got pregnant with DD. I couldn't let my boyfriend raise a baby that might not be his.
This was a horrible low point in my life. I would apologize to that guy everyday if I could, but I don't know where he is.