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SaucyPoppet Due July 10 (girl); 1 child; Colorado Springs, Colorado 1172 posts
15th Feb '13

lol I've seen the Richard one hitting fb a lot ^.^ Been a few jokes about the poor guy and his car park lol

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59698 posts
15th Feb '13
Quoting SaucyPoppet:" lol I've seen the Richard one hitting fb a lot ^.^ Been a few jokes about the poor guy and his car park lol"


I can't believe I missed that one. If I didn't have a loathing for Facebook, I'd be posting that shit right now. haha



Richard III is mah faaaavorite Shakespeare "villain". :lol:

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 5945 posts
status 15th Feb '13

I think it depends on how he treats you every other day of the year. My husband treats me wonderfully so if he got busy and forgot what day it was, then I wouldn't be hurt, because I would know that it didn't say anything about our relationship. He simply forgot. However, if my husband was a jerk to me on a regular basis and his lack of gift was simply another sign that I wasn't a concern or priority to him then yes, I would be hurt.

Pretty Mama' 3 kids; Kitchener, Ontario 580 posts
15th Feb '13

I realize valentines day just one day. and we should sow love eeryday, but as such a busy society I like the idea that we do have a day dedicated to love. simply love. and he never got me anything for mothers day I guess I'm not that socked ..

kr.r 1 child; Dallas, TX, United States 8737 posts
15th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Pretty Mama':</b>" I realize valentines day just one day. and we should sow love eeryday, but as such a busy society I like ... [snip!] ... we do have a day dedicated to love. simply love. and he never got me anything for mothers day I guess I'm not that socked .."</blockquote>




Should he have? I always thought it was more about just spending time with your own mother, letting them know how grateful you are for having raised ya. Reminding your mum you love her.

Pretty Mama' 3 kids; Kitchener, Ontario 580 posts
15th Feb '13

So me birthing two of his children should mean nothing? Fathers day I always help the kids make a card for him, and I buy/or make him a card and make breakfast in bed.. I am a stay at home mom, I do all the cooking, cleaning and take care of the kids 24/7 I don't think expecting a card make from the girls and him is a lot to ask.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
15th Feb '13
Quoting Pretty Mama':" So me birthing two of his children should mean nothing? Fathers day I always help the kids make a card ... [snip!] ... cooking, cleaning and take care of the kids 24/7 I don't think expecting a card make from the girls and him is a lot to ask. "


IMO, the problem might be that you seem to expect things from him.



Why not decide WHAT you want exactly, and ask him for exactly that? You want him to help the girls make a card? Tell him that. Get the craft stuff out. Leave him and the girls to make the card. If you want breakfast in bed, tell him. "I would like breakfast on Mothers day." If in bed is too much, compromise and ask him if you guys can go out to breakfast?



I think too many woman expect things and would rather be mad about not getting them then just telling the guy exactly what they want and getting to be happy. Is it a surprise? No. But wouldn't you rather get waht you want, even if it isn't a surprise, then be upset and hurt for a whole day?

Pretty Mama' 3 kids; Kitchener, Ontario 580 posts
15th Feb '13

I jusy grew up seeing my dad treat my mom like gold (all the time) and on special occasions - as does my mom, so just figured men should have the sense to know these things, I also think I was a little hurt because I got out of my way often to show that I was thinking of him .. I'm not sure why people need to be told .. to me it just seems as though I'm not very appreciated all- that's how I felt I mean I'm over it now but last night I was pretty hurt.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
15th Feb '13
Quoting Pretty Mama':" I jusy grew up seeing my dad treat my mom like gold (all the time) and on special occasions - as does ... [snip!] ... just seems as though I'm not very appreciated all- that's how I felt I mean I'm over it now but last night I was pretty hurt."


Thats the point.



You're hurt. You know that what you're doing "assuming he should know" isn't working. Doing the same thing and expecting different results is insane. That means you have to try something new.



Or, you can keep doing what you're doing and being hurt and upset. I mean, it's up to you. You're hoping he will change, but you can't control him. You can only control YOU. So you can choose to be more clear about what you want, or you can keep getting your feelings hurt and hoping he does what you want, even though he's proven that won't be what happens.

Brock Obama 1 child; Spain 6372 posts
15th Feb '13

Idk, it wouldn't bother me I guess just for the sole fact that I really don't celebrate that shit.



Most guys are like that, so if I expect someting from that special one, I'd just let him know.



There's nothing wrong with that upsetting you if it meant something for you.



Just, next time, let him know. Most guys are just... guys? lol

κατι 1 child; Memphis, Tennessee 3143 posts
15th Feb '13

Nope. Does one day out of the year really matter? It's a day, Just like any other day. If he treats you good all of the time then I think it's silly to be upset.

*Mommy to four little Mon Due May 28; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Kitchener, Ontario 8590 posts
16th Feb '13

I am also a stay at home mom. I have birthed three of his children and I got nothin for Valentines day from him. A card I probably would throw out or stash away somewhere and forget about it. Flowers die and chocolates get eaten and make you gain weight lol. He said Happy Valentines day to me and that was good enough. He tells me he loves me every day and shows me and that means more to me than some hallmark card he bought for 4.50.



It's just a money making holiday. Try not to let it bother you. He obviously loves you he gave you two beautiful children. That speaks louder than a piece of card stock. :)

kr.r 1 child; Dallas, TX, United States 8737 posts
16th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Mac and Keagan's Momma*:</b>" I am also a stay at home mom. I have birthed three of his children and I got nothin for Valentines day ... [snip!] ... let it bother you. He obviously loves you he gave you two beautiful children. That speaks louder than a piece of card stock. :)"</blockquote>



*claps*

Pretty Mama' 3 kids; Kitchener, Ontario 580 posts
16th Feb '13

This post was pointless, I did feel upset - I can't help that I did, I'm over it though. I'm not a materialistic person at all .. asking compleate strangers who don't know me, or my husband etc was pointless. End of thread.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
16th Feb '13

I don't think you're being a baby. I know how you feel. Despite that my husband takes care of me, a little romance is nice once in a while. I didn't get anything for Christmas or Mother's Day. He hands me money for birthdays and anniversaries. Jewelry? I was with him and picked it out. I'm thankful he buys me stuff but I like to be surprised. I like to know that he's put thought into it. I talked to him and told him he didn't have to buy anything. I'd be happy with a handmade card.
He apologized.
Last night he bought me some pre-seed and truffles...lol
Today, he came home with a plastic, pretty flower. Better late than never...



He just got back from the store and bought me a zero bar. (I'm on a chocolate kick...lol)



You have to tell him how you feel. Some men are clueless.