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killingbird 5evr 2 kids; 1 angel baby; North Carolina 10126 posts
status 15th Feb '13

I literally feel upset for you. That is just not ok. I'm not sure I could marry someone like that.

Mamita Sarita 3 kids; Texas 132 posts
15th Feb '13

Agree what a prick. it's so immature he needs to do half cleaning if y'all both work. I'd go bang a pot over his snoring ass

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
15th Feb '13

That's so wrong. Why can't he clean? OP I hope you rethink you choice to spend the rest of your life with that.

Minion Due September 30; 2 kids; Toccoa, GA, United States 19993 posts
15th Feb '13
Quoting Kallee's Momma!:" I wouldnt touch it. I would be out before he could blink. I am very sorry this happened but I would be ... [snip!] ... before getting married. He is an ass. Has he ever done or said anything like this before or is he starting this outta the blue?"


He's done and said some rude and hateful things before, but never anything like this. Not even close.

flossy (21wks with #4) Due August 27; 35 kids; New Zealand 139 posts
15th Feb '13

I would have flipped out and left that is not the way someone should treat someone they loved I would have walked out with my kids and said I wont be back till HES cleaned that shit up.

ßlack Rose ♥ 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Sharon, Oklahoma 5335 posts
15th Feb '13

This made me so sad :( My husband was reading over my shoulder apparently and is now upset because "That's not how you treat a woman, no matter what happened." -His words. You deserve better than that. Personally, I just want to slap your SO for doing that to you.

user banned 1 child; Portland, Maine 20613 posts
15th Feb '13

I'd be tipping the goddamn mattress over and not letting him sleep until he cleans that shit up. Or taking the kids elsewhere for a couple of days until he decides to be an adult and not some spoiled a*****e teenager.

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
15th Feb '13

It's time to go, love. That was BEYOND disrespectful and rude and abusive and completely uncalled for. There is NO way in hell that that behavior is EVER acceptable. ESPECIALLY with you being sick. And it's a partnership. If you both work, then you both need to clean the house. Nu uh. He's wrong here. 100%.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
15th Feb '13

Out ... get out now ... this is only going to get worse and you know it.

Minion Due September 30; 2 kids; Toccoa, GA, United States 19993 posts
15th Feb '13

I've started crying again over all your responses. I was so worried I was upset over nothing. I had started to think that maybe I SHOULD have cleaned more this week.



Thank you for your support. It means so much to me right now. I'm seriously rethinking our relationship. I left him one time already for shit like this, but nothing this extreme. I thought he was going to change. :(

izzy+Ethan 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 4056 posts
15th Feb '13

He sounds controlling like he treats you like a kid but then acts like a kid too ... My I would of slapped him in the face and chopped his nuts of if I came home to that.... You both work so you both should contribute to house cleaning too! What a dick!!

Mama Rachael♥ 17 kids; Asheville, North Carolina 15828 posts
15th Feb '13

This makes me so sad for you and mad at him. What a f**king dick. You could do SOOO much better. You both work full time yet it's only your job to clean?? Tell his lazy ass to do some damn house work too!!



You were a lot more calm than I would of been.

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11903 posts
15th Feb '13
Quoting Minion:" I've started crying again over all your responses. I was so worried I was upset over nothing. I had started ... [snip!] ... relationship. I left him one time already for shit like this, but nothing this extreme. I thought he was going to change. :("

Seriously girl just leave. do it for you and baby girl. You don't deserve that and no child deserves to see that and think it is okay. It may not be physical abuse but it surely is emotional abuse!

killingbird 5evr 2 kids; 1 angel baby; North Carolina 10126 posts
status 15th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" I've started crying again over all your responses. I was so worried I was upset over nothing. I had started ... [snip!] ... relationship. I left him one time already for shit like this, but nothing this extreme. I thought he was going to change. :("</blockquote>




Even if you DIDN'T clean, YOU are not the reason he did that. He's got something serious going on in that head of his. This is NOT your fault.

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
15th Feb '13

Please... PLEASE, do not clean that up. What he did was abusive. You don't treat people like that. I understand losing your temper and saying/doing something you regret, but he was at it ALL DAY and hasn't let up... That's like he's trying to manipulate and control you, and that is emotional abuse, IMO.



In a marriage, when one person has slacked a little due to being sick or otherwise indisposed, you help because you LOVE them. Because you WANT to make their life a little easier. What he did is not love, I'm sorry, but it was hateful to the core. You REALLY don't deserve that at all.