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Online Dating Red Flag? Megarielle 1 child; 2 angel babies; Moline, IL, United States 1713 posts
16th Feb '13

So I've been doing a little online dating... it's a paid site, so identities are more verifiable. Anyway, I've been talking to this seemingly nice man, Dean. The only problem is that his bio really bugs me. Every single time I read his profile, I automatically go on alert, but I don't know why! Can you see something here that might be off?



Wait, don't delete, I'm actually a nice attorney! LOL. I am 6' 3" tall, 210 lbs, muscular, fit, with a full head of black hair. I earned a law degree and an MBA and am now involved in real estate. Having no children of my own, I would treat my companion's as my own as I love children. I'm a gentleman who is genuinely interested in seeking a great woman for potential, meaningful relationship. I am educated, successful, attractive, athletic, humorous, romantic, and playful seeking a great woman of like qualities for a potential long-term relationship. I volunteer by tutoring disabled children. I love to go out on the town for a romantic night of dining and dancing. I am secure professionally, financially, emotionally, and otherwise. However, I am also warm, forgiving, and rather easy-going. Since perfection is not exactly realistic for any of us, I am more concerned with a big heart and a willingness to work at making a deep, lasting relationship. Superficiality, arrogance, and cruelty are not part of my nature. Great companionship and feeling connected are truly as good as it gets! If you desire a warm, meaningful relationship, I would love to hear from you-I promise you might just be glad you did! Who knows what may come! Common interests loom larger than perfection in terms of finding Ms. Right. I love music, movies, motorcycles, dining, and travel, especially to California and Hawaii! I sincerely hope to hear from any interested eligible women regardless of children, age, or size. One more thing-What do you call 1000 lawyers at the bottom of the sea? A great start! LOL.

~mama~ 4 kids; Susanville, CA, United States 1556 posts
16th Feb '13

He seems to really like kids... The way he keeps throwing it out there is odd to me

Commander Shepard 18 kids; Jacksonville, Florida 6447 posts
16th Feb '13

I don't trust anyone. So, personally, I think the whole thing is a lie. He sounds too good to be true. But I'm paranoid. Lol.

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
16th Feb '13

Sounds too good to be true, that's the problem. lol

Megarielle 1 child; 2 angel babies; Moline, IL, United States 1713 posts
16th Feb '13

See, that's what I kept thinking, but I verified with online business listings and he is actually a lawyer and does volunteer with kids... I really, really don't trust this... but there is no evidence he's not real. He's definitely not meeting Alex until I'm positive he's not a psycho or something!

Commander Shepard 18 kids; Jacksonville, Florida 6447 posts
16th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Megarielle:</b>" See, that's what I kept thinking, but I verified with online business listings and he is actually a lawyer ... [snip!] ... but there is no evidence he's not real. He's definitely not meeting Alex until I'm positive he's not a psycho or something!"</blockquote>



Eh. Still, I'd go with my gut feeling if I were you.

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
16th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Megarielle:</b>" See, that's what I kept thinking, but I verified with online business listings and he is actually a lawyer ... [snip!] ... but there is no evidence he's not real. He's definitely not meeting Alex until I'm positive he's not a psycho or something!"</blockquote>




If you already verified it there is no harm in exchanging a couple messages back and forth.

Megarielle 1 child; 2 angel babies; Moline, IL, United States 1713 posts
16th Feb '13

See his messages are little better than his profile, but he's still very proper and I'm not sure if it's just me being paranoid and he's just an elitist, or if I should put on the black list. lol

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
16th Feb '13

Meh, Idk. I'd probably go with my gut feeling.



I get so nervous when I think about if DH and I ever split because I already had commitment issues prior to him and I feel like a divorce and having DS would make it worse. Actually, I know it would simply because I have my son now.

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
16th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Megarielle:</b>" See his messages are little better than his profile, but he's still very proper and I'm not sure if it's just me being paranoid and he's just an elitist, or if I should put on the black list. lol"</blockquote>




It's a copy and paste message he sends everyone. Of course he's going to put a lot of thought and sugar coating into it :)

Megarielle 1 child; 2 angel babies; Moline, IL, United States 1713 posts
16th Feb '13
Quoting 624582:" Meh, Idk. I'd probably go with my gut feeling. I get so nervous when I think about if DH and I ever ... [snip!] ... to him and I feel like a divorce and having DS would make it worse. Actually, I know it would simply because I have my son now."

See, I have the same thing. My ex and I were together for three years and had a wedding date and everything... I even had my dress. After our relationship I was single and fine for a year and a half before my family and friends started bugging the crap outta me about "getting back out there". I had to work through a whole bunch of issues to just go have drinks with someone. Ugh... intimacy was even worse, but at least there's no chance of me becoming a slut! lol

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
16th Feb '13

IMO it sounds like maybe he is searching out a less than wealthy single mom.. And volunteers with disabled children. He could genuinely like children. Or he could be a creep. Honestly, my creep radar was going off a little.

Megarielle 1 child; 2 angel babies; Moline, IL, United States 1713 posts
16th Feb '13

Here's a picture, too. He's on the far right.
dean.jpeg

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
16th Feb '13
Quoting Megarielle:" Here's a picture, too. He's on the far right. "


He's not bad looking. But looks aren't really a judge of character KWIM. Looking at his surroundings a clothes- he probably has a decent income.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
16th Feb '13

Have you googled the picture? He makes himself sound way too good to be true.