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please help me vincents momma! 1 child; Pennsylvania 998 posts
16th Feb '13

my fiance and i have been together for almost three years now, and we have a son together who is almost two. we constantly fight and argue about stupid things, and it's ridiculous. we have fought.every night this week except for valentines day. im at a loss for words..i feel like my whole relationship is just falling apart. im always crying or upset and i just don't even feel in love anymore. i really do love him so much, but i just don't know what to do. i try so hard to make him happy, but it seems like it's never good enough.we barely have sex anymore, like once every two weeks, sometimes not either that, we barely kiss and it didn't used to be like this. please help me, i done know what to do, and i really don't want to lose him :(

skomula 2 kids; Muskegon, Michigan 259 posts
16th Feb '13

My husband and I were going through something similar....We sat down and talked about everything that was irritating us, and how to handle it. We still argue, but we're not blowing up on each other all the time now, and when I feel I'm not getting enough kisses or anything, I mention it. Communication *without screaming* was key for us....

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
16th Feb '13

I think this is normal to any relationship. You get in a slump and forget that relationships take time and energy no matter how long you have been together. Try sitting down and talking. If you can't talk with out arguing then maybe you should consider counselling it has helped my marriage a lot. GL

vincents momma! 1 child; Pennsylvania 998 posts
16th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting skomula:</b>" My husband and I were going through something similar....We sat down and talked about everything that ... [snip!] ... and when I feel I'm not getting enough kisses or anything, I mention it. Communication *without screaming* was key for us...."</blockquote>



we sometimes talk but it doesn't seem to work, it's like sometimes we can go weekends without arguing and then other times we fight all the time. im glad that helped you though, that's really great.



i wish it would help for us :/

KTSKDR Due March 20 (boy); 1 child; Indiana 246 posts
17th Feb '13

Just try to realize the little issues arent a big deal. Everyone nit picks when they live together. Just like when you were with your parents or whoever you lived with previously. It didnt mean you didnt love each other anymore it just meant you were bugging each other. Whats important is that you both try to find a way to compromise for the other ones feelings. And sometimes you just gotta meet half way. Remember that you guys are a team in everything you do (important things) There isnt a relationship alive that hasnt gone through this exact thing. And to me it sounds like your SO has something weighing on his mind. Maybe if you open up to him he will too. Tell him exactly what you just wrote on here and see what happens. Good luck. And dont worry