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♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ &#98 Mama Bird [+2] ♥ 2 kids; Michigan 2647 posts
Feb 17th '13

Just because she gave birth, doesn't mean she is a mother......




This was posted on my friends status the other day. SO commented on it from my facebook, saying being a mother or father is raising living enjoying and crying for your child. just giving birth does not make you a mom, and all that jazz.
but this other girl kept on saying that You cant sit here and tell me that someone pushed out a baby that they grew in there body and they arent a mother. A mother can be a mom mommy mama whatever but a mom cant be a mother to someone she didnt push out. Period



What do ya'll think?

Kali'sMommy♥ 1 child; California 13723 posts
Feb 17th '13

Thats a bunch of bull. Any female can give birth to a child but that does not necessarily mean she is a mother. A woman can adopt and be 10x better mother then one that gave birth it all depends on if you are willing to be selfless and take care and put someone before yourself.

Kali'sMommy♥ 1 child; California 13723 posts
Feb 17th '13
Quoting Sarah Bare-ah♡:" Well what about women who adopt out their children, they arent raising or caring for them but they made ... [snip!] ... to be a father. If you dont care for, and provide for the child you arent a father you're a sperm donor. Double standards?"


Yes it is a double standard. I believe it takes more for a man to get a woman pregnant to make him a father.

Rebecca(Adam'sMommy) 1 child; Beaufort, South Carolina 3251 posts
Feb 17th '13

I think there is no wrong answer.. It's mostly what YOU believe.



I.e. I think the mother and father are the one's who pushed out(made) the baby, and the mommy and daddy are the one's who raised it.

Bri + 1.5 <3 Due October 20 (girl); 1 child; Florida 4350 posts
Feb 17th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rebecca(Adam'sMommy):</b>" I think there is no wrong answer.. It's mostly what YOU believe. I.e. I think the mother and father are the one's who pushed out(made) the baby, and the mommy and daddy are the one's who raised it. "</blockquote>




This is exactly how I feel about it.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
Feb 17th '13

You aren't anything if you aren't raising/providing for that child.

Mama Bird [+2] ♥ 2 kids; Michigan 2647 posts
Feb 17th '13

I do agree with all of you ladies. but its the fact she sat their and was saying there is a difference between father & dad. I see it as they are the same person.
My father is my dad, daddy etc. ya know?



And like in my situation with LO (fiances daughter) his ex is not a mother to his daughter. Where has he says I stepped in and now is the mother figure in his daughters life, ya know? For the fact I take of her when she is here, and provide her with food, toys, clothes etc etc. get what i mean?

LittleBear's mama 3 kids; Ontario 480 posts
Feb 17th '13

Being a mother or father is more than just biology. Yes the person, man or woman, may biologically be the childs mother or father, but its who raises the child who is truly the childs parents. In my opinion step parents deserve just as much praise because they choose to raise a child that is not biologically theirs. In many households now a days there are more than just one set of parents. My children have a mommy, me, a step father, my SO, and they also have a father. Someday when their father finds someone they will also have a step mother. I came from a family with alot of parents, all of whom i consider my parents and whom i refer to as mom and dad...both sets. Yes you can push out a baby and be a sperm donor, but it doesnt make you a parent until you raise that child.

MrsWoodstock Zanesville, Ohio 98 posts
Feb 17th '13

parenting is far more than biology. PERIOD. i was a foster mom for years (teenaged boys) and (thier words not mine) i was more of a mom to them in two years than thier bio moms were for 14 years. and they LIVED with thier mothers.



you really have to see bad parenting to get the full grasp of how just bc you give birth doesnt make you mom. and yes people get offended by it, and its usually bc deep down they dont want to admit it.

I♥RYLEIGH Due March 3; 1 child; 5 angel babies; Windsor, Ontario 10504 posts
Feb 17th '13
Quoting Sarah Bare-ah♡:" What if your child dies? Are you no longer a mother then. I'm not talking about a miscarriage. I'm talking ... [snip!] ... by a disease are we really going to say that since you're no longer providing for or caring for that child you're not a mother?"


I was thinking this to. Also, what does it make you if you give birth to a child but don't care for them?

Mama Bird [+2] ♥ 2 kids; Michigan 2647 posts
Feb 17th '13
Quoting Sarah Bare-ah♡:" What if your child dies? Are you no longer a mother then. I'm not talking about a miscarriage. I'm talking ... [snip!] ... by a disease are we really going to say that since you're no longer providing for or caring for that child you're not a mother?"


If you child dies who still a parent no matter what the situation.

Kali'sMommy♥ 1 child; California 13723 posts
Feb 17th '13
Quoting S+K=R [34 WEEKS!]:" I was thinking this to. Also, what does it make you if you give birth to a child but don't care for them?"


A deadbeat :P

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
Feb 17th '13
Quoting Sarah Bare-ah♡:" What if your child dies? Are you no longer a mother then. I'm not talking about a miscarriage. I'm talking ... [snip!] ... by a disease are we really going to say that since you're no longer providing for or caring for that child you're not a mother?"

As cold as it sounds, technically you were a mother.

LittleBear's mama 3 kids; Ontario 480 posts
Feb 17th '13
Quoting Rd.:" As cold as it sounds, technically you were a mother."

You are right, it does sound cold. IMO you are always a mother, even if your child dies. You are simply a mother who had a child die, doesn't mean you aren't a mother anymore, because in your heart you will always be that childs mother, alive or angel.

MrsWoodstock Zanesville, Ohio 98 posts
Feb 18th '13

you are STILL A MOTHER IF YOUR CHILD DIES! my cousins-in-laws daughter died of a brain tumore at age six last year. and every day she still thinks about her daughter. that love NEVER goes away, that worry never goes away, that dream of your baby NEVER goes away. she has since had a baby boy, but she is STILL AVA's mother.