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Wildflower 🌈 1 child; Oregon 7067 posts
18th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ThreeLittleBirds:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Silly Mily's Momma ♡:</b>" Hopefully I can post this without ... [snip!] ... I just kept getting older more mature and wiser. And there he was stuck and unable to rise above the mentality of a teenager."</blockquote>




That's sad :( but I understand why ou left. It is VERY hard to deal with.
Like in a lot of ways he is responsible. He used to work full time at a really hard job and never complained, he's an awesome dad, ect. But in a lot of ways he thinks like a 12 year old, or he just dosnt think before he acts at all. It's really frustrating but I love him and I 100% believe it is not his fault he is the way he is.

Wildflower 🌈 1 child; Oregon 7067 posts
18th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting IDGAF ❤:</b>" That kind of reminds me of my daughter's father. My daughter's father was also raised by his gma, his ... [snip!] ... that. If your SO is willing, maybe try and ask? But he may become offended a bit by it, so kind of bring it up lightly to him."</blockquote>




Exactly.. With my SO he was lucky to at least have his Gma who showed him love, but it hurt him that he knew he ha a mom and dad who just left him and started another family and forgot about him for 11 years.
And he had uncles who lived with him who he tried to look up to like a father figure but they pushed him away :(

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30556 posts
18th Feb '13
Quoting Silly Mily's Momma ♡:" <blockquote><b>Quoting IDGAF ❤:</b>" That kind of reminds me of my daughter's ... [snip!] ... for 11 years. And he had uncles who lived with him who he tried to look up to like a father figure but they pushed him away :("

BD's gma pushed him away too...he was always treated like crap...his sister was the golden child & he got shown no love. :\ it is sad but I hope he over comes it. I know a lot of times in their culture they are taught to fully respect their parents no matter what, so they do take a lot of shit they shouldn't out of respect. It deff sounds like your SO's issues stem from when he was a kid.

LovingHappyHome 69 kids; Fertile, Minnesota 7260 posts
18th Feb '13
Quoting SaucyPoppet:" Actually it IS a part of his personality now, regardless what happened to him. What happens to us throughout ... [snip!] ... and sanity :) I had a bestfriend like this, I can not imagine being in a relationship with her, she would drive me crazy LOL"


This is very well said :D