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user banned 2 kids; Vientiane, Lao People's Democratic Republic 17415 posts
18th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting KayleeMarie♥ 06.11:</b>" What I'm trying to say is that some people judge right off the bat. Apparently just because I didn't ... [snip!] ... my life it's nothing new, but there's a line between being blunt and being rude the people I'm talking about cross that line."</blockquote>




How about focusing on how positive and helpful most of the women in your thread were?

Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 57425 posts
18th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting KayleeMarie♥ 06.11:</b>" What I'm trying to say is that some people judge right off the bat. Apparently just because I didn't ... [snip!] ... my life it's nothing new, but there's a line between being blunt and being rude the people I'm talking about cross that line."</blockquote>




You're absolutely right. But you need to understand most teens we see aren't like you. They think it'll all be sunshine and rainbows, their boyfriends will love them forever and babies aren't that expensive. I think we get caught up into stereotyping, we are definitely tainted and perhaps some of us bitter over what we had to give up. Do you know what I mean?



A lot of us just get wrapped up into trying to give them a reality check, so to speak.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15013 posts
18th Feb '13
Quoting KayleeMarie♥ 06.11:" That commenter could have just said something along the lines of, "If you're not get on birth control ... [snip!] ... didn't have money at that time. I want to save as much money for Gabi for when she's born as possible so I wanted a cheap way."


There are plenty of women on BG who are rude, but mostly women here are just blunt. Most of the time when someone is being rude for rude's sake they get called out on it. The women who posted in the thread you linked were being constructive and for the most part actually polite about it. You're going to need to get a thicker internet skin or BG just isn't the community for you.

user banned Due June 10 (girl); Aspen, Colorado 135 posts
18th Feb '13

Katie: I do thank the woman who helped me and gave me ideas, heck most of them actually worked! I was just replying to Crystal's comments I thank those woman so much for being nice and helping me.



Amanda: Thank you, and I know I mean the girls that think need that bluntness. I get were you are coming from and thank you for being so nice about it:)



Amelia: Why should be have to? This is suppose to be a place for mothers to escape the rude comments of the world and come to a place where you can talk with other pregnant woman and other mothers. Not come here and get rude comments about stuff you just want advice in and to see if you're doing it right. Why should we have to come here and get thick skin? We should be able to come here and be happy and have fun.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; South Land, CA, United States 116898 posts
18th Feb '13

This is stupid. I'm sorry but you're nitpicking on a thread where the OP should have used common sense. And people were telling her that. They were being blunt about it.

user banned Due June 10 (girl); Aspen, Colorado 135 posts
18th Feb '13

Sarah, think what you want I can't force you to see something that you don't. Thank you for putting in your output though:)

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15013 posts
18th Feb '13
Quoting KayleeMarie♥ 06.11:" Katie: I do thank the woman who helped me and gave me ideas, heck most of them actually worked! I was ... [snip!] ... doing it right. Why should we have to come here and get thick skin? We should be able to come here and be happy and have fun."


Because there is only one person you can change and that is yourself.

user banned Due June 10 (girl); Aspen, Colorado 135 posts
18th Feb '13

That's why I said at the end of my post, I know this might not change people I realize people probably won't change and I don't expect them to. It would be nice if they did though:)

Martian Child. 2 kids; Modesto, California 281 posts
18th Feb '13


Don't worry about anyone like that. You can be upfront with someone without being a judgmental c**t, TONS of women on here fail to realize that or don't care. Let it roll off your back, it'll never change.

Mama BooBoo(: 1 child; South Carolina 638 posts
19th Feb '13
Quoting Martian Child.:" Don't worry about anyone like that. You can be upfront with someone without being a judgmental c**t, ... [snip!] ... a judgmental c**t, TONS of women on here fail to realize that or don't care. Let it roll off your back, it'll never change. "

trueeee!!

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
19th Feb '13

I'm not a teen mom but I am a first time mom-to-be and I do agree with what she said up there, not everyone pops a baby out and is automatically an expert. It takes experience, I'm probably just as scared as any of these teen moms lol.
However, I do think when fifteen and fourteen year olds are posting on here about how they're "ready to be a mom" and they think it's "easy" being a mom and how they can financially support a child.. I think that's what gives the mature teen moms (such as the OP) a bad name.

Mama BooBoo(: 1 child; South Carolina 638 posts
19th Feb '13
Quoting LayLu:" I'm not a teen mom but I am a first time mom-to-be and I do agree with what she said up there, not everyone ... [snip!] ... mom and how they can financially support a child.. I think that's what gives the mature teen moms (such as the OP) a bad name."


i think that is true too. i hear teen moms all the time saying oh it's no big deal, i'v raised my nieces or nephews before... yeah when it's your own kid it's totally different. i mean im 17, but i was scared when i found out i was pregnant! i do wish i would of waited till i was like 25 honestly! but it happend and he is the best thing ever(: i couldn't picture my life without him now. but a lot of the teen moms are like oh it's so easy, im so ready cause i have 100 dollars stored up lol! it's really not easy, but im really thankful i have all the help i do!
anyways.. i think your going to be a great mom though(:

Tay L 1 child; St Paul, Minnesota 719 posts
21st Feb '13

I HATE when people say use condoms every tIme. Do you know how many people are allergic to latex? Enough that hospitals and clinics all switched from latex. And non latex have an ingredient that most people allergic to latex are also allergic to! I know that first hand! I can't use a single kind of condom!



Birth control failes. My old neighbor has 5 kids, a set of twins, all on different forms of birth control. I believe one kid was a birth control and condom fail.



I don't tell people how old i am and i get stares when i go out! Im 20. Last summer a lady asked if i was 14 when i said no she asked if i was 12. I told her i was 19 and she just looked at me.

Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 57425 posts
21st Feb '13
Quoting Tay L:" I HATE when people say use condoms every tIme. Do you know how many people are allergic to latex? Enough ... [snip!] ... 20. Last summer a lady asked if i was 14 when i said no she asked if i was 12. I told her i was 19 and she just looked at me."


I mean.. I'm not knocking you for having a kid but you're making a lot of excuses. There are TONS of different birth control methods if you were really interested in not getting pregnant.

Tay L 1 child; St Paul, Minnesota 719 posts
21st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Legendary Amandα :</b>" I mean.. I'm not knocking you for having a kid but you're making a lot of excuses. There are TONS of different birth control methods if you were really interested in not getting pregnant. "</blockquote>




My neighbor used the shot, pill, ring, patch and condoms. It was before mirena came out. And she has 5 kids, a set of twins.



I can't use condoms! I got implanon after my son was born.



I have a couple friends who can't take any kind of birth control.



Im not making excuses for myself. Im saying that not everyone can use there things. So i hate when women tell others to ALWAYS use them when not every one can.