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Induction V & E's Mom! 2 kids; Stockton, California 4782 posts
19th Feb '13

Before anyone tells me I'm selfish, hear me out.



My EDD on here is wrong.
And it's not decided, just wanted some opinions.



I will be 39 weeks 3/2 and 40 weeks 3/9.



I have already brought up scheduling an induction at 40 weeks because of the situation I will explain in a moment. My doctor okay'd it.



I do not have any family that can watch my 2 year old while I'm in labor. Especially someone who can take her for a couple of days with no planning or just randomly. So scheduling an induction would give me the chance to find someone and be able to plan with them a specific drop off time, how long V would be there and how everything will go about, and they can make the accommodating arrangements for her to be there. Everyone I've talked to before planning an induction on my EDD said "it really depends on...." And gave a reason.



Now we will call her MIL, was diagnosed with cancer on DD1 's bday in January. It's pretty severe and unsure of prognosis and such. We found out she will be undergoing radiation in which neither my newb or I can be around her while she is undergoing her treatment and after while it clears her system. Then I believe she will take a 6 week break from her last day of radiation to her first day of chemo. This will be started 3/5. I JUST found out this date today when I took her to get her port put in and to meet with her oncologist and her other physicians. Now I'm considering being induced at 39 weeks, 3/2.. Just 3 days before she starts her radiation. My "MIL" is very close to me and she has filled the void of me not having a mom while growing up. I want her to be able to meet her grand daughter and spend some time with her before we have to stay away for a period of time.



Which kind of leads me back to my original reason for inducing. She was supposed to be my person to drop V off with when I went into labor but she had a major abdominal surgery along with a colostomy bag and some other stuff done when they found the cancer in January and is still not healed from it, so I can't just leave V with her anymore.



Should I just wait until 40 weeks? Or should I go at 39 weeks to give MIL a chance to meet the baby, in case things don't go well.

Bob Wehadababyitsaboy Due September 10; 2 kids; 4 angel babies; California 29988 posts
19th Feb '13

it's really up to you, i don't think inducing at 39 weeks is selfish.

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; GoShox!, KS, United States 9199 posts
19th Feb '13

Those aren't good enough reasons for *me*... but I'm biased because of a bad experience.

V & E's Mom! 2 kids; Stockton, California 4782 posts
19th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bob Wehadababyitsaboy:</b>" it's really up to you, i don't think inducing at 39 weeks is selfish."</blockquote>




Well it's definitely not how I planned things but my "MIL" is very important to me and my daughter. Before the cancer came up, I planned to go when I was ready. As in have that moment of "I'm inlabor we need to drop V off at parents and head to hospital" moment and now I'm trying to make sure she gets to meet the baby before we aren't allowed to be around her. I have declined being checked so far, but it also depends on if my cervix is favorable. I understand that inducing can risk csection but I just want them to be able to have some moments and days together before we have to stay away :( it's hard because with V she was right there with me every step of the way. And they live literally a quarter mile down the street so we were always there and this time we can't be.

lise. ෆ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Cold, Ol, Canada 58787 posts
status 19th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting loser mom:</b>" Those aren't good enough reasons for *me*... but I'm biased because of a bad experience. "</blockquote>



:!:



I understand where you are coming from OP, but my induction sucked and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

V & E's Mom! 2 kids; Stockton, California 4782 posts
19th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting loser mom:</b>" Those aren't good enough reasons for *me*... but I'm biased because of a bad experience. "</blockquote>




I understand that. For me, my thought is



Do it befor she starts radiation because she has a chance of not surviving and with radiation children cannot be around them for a specific amount of time, or just wait and she can hopefully meet the baby if she makes it through her cancer treatment.

V & E's Mom! 2 kids; Stockton, California 4782 posts
19th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ℓise ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting loser mom:</b>" Those aren't good enough reasons for *me*... ... [snip!] ... :!: I understand where you are coming from OP, but my induction sucked and I wouldn't wish it on anyone."</blockquote>




I was induced with DD because IUGR. I know what to expect from induction. :(

Bob Wehadababyitsaboy Due September 10; 2 kids; 4 angel babies; California 29988 posts
19th Feb '13
Quoting V & E's Mom! [37 weeks]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Bob Wehadababyitsaboy:</b>" it's really up to you, i don't think ... [snip!] ... step of the way. And they live literally a quarter mile down the street so we were always there and this time we can't be."

It's really up to you, if you feel like it's best to be induced at 39 weeks for your MIL to be able to meet the baby then i would do it. I was medically induced at 37 weeks with my DD and partially induced with my son at 38 weeks and everything turned out fine.

V & E's Mom! 2 kids; Stockton, California 4782 posts
19th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bob Wehadababyitsaboy:</b>" It's really up to you, if you feel like it's best to be induced at 39 weeks for your MIL to be able to ... [snip!] ... I was medically induced at 37 weeks with my DD and partially induced with my son at 38 weeks and everything turned out fine."</blockquote>




It's conflicting with what I want and hope for and what I know I wanted at te beginning. :( which is why I wanted opinions.



I'm not trying to counteract anyone who has given me reasons as to why they wouldn't. Because I am seriously conflicted in inducing at all. I know I will atleast be induced on my EDD, unless I find that doing the 39 week induction is worth it to me, and my family then I will do it at 39 weeks for MIL.



I guess I'm sort of wanting someone to give me good reasons why to not do it, and not reasons like "induction sucks or just biased reasons" but actual legit reasons.

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; GoShox!, KS, United States 9199 posts
19th Feb '13
Quoting V & E's Mom! [37 weeks]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting loser mom:</b>" Those aren't good enough reasons for *me*... ... [snip!] ... for a specific amount of time, or just wait and she can hopefully meet the baby if she makes it through her cancer treatment."


I do understand where you're coming from, you're in a tough spot. I hope whatever you decide, it works out for the best.

V & E's Mom! 2 kids; Stockton, California 4782 posts
19th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting loser mom:</b>" I do understand where you're coming from, you're in a tough spot. I hope whatever you decide, it works out for the best."</blockquote>




I read your post in the other induction thread.. Do you min me asking how inducing jeapordized your LO's health?

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; GoShox!, KS, United States 9199 posts
19th Feb '13
Quoting V & E's Mom! [37 weeks]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting loser mom:</b>" I do understand where you're coming from, ... [snip!] ... I read your post in the other induction thread.. Do you min me asking how inducing jeapordized your LO's health?"


He went into fetal distress shortly after I received my epidural. The medicine from that started to "fight" with the pitocin. I'm not really sure of the details.. just that pitocin speeds up your labor, and the epidural can slow it down. It's stresses the fetus out. :(



I was only 37 weeks though... so I probably wasn't even close to going into labor on my own. I'm sure that played a big role.

V & E's Mom! 2 kids; Stockton, California 4782 posts
19th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting loser mom:</b>" He went into fetal distress shortly after I received my epidural. The medicine from that started to ... [snip!] ... I was only 37 weeks though... so I probably wasn't even close to going into labor on my own. I'm sure that played a big role. "</blockquote>




Scary :( very scary.

Squid Kid Due July 2; 1 child; 5 angel babies; Tennessee 27642 posts
19th Feb '13

As long as you're okay with the fact you may end up with a C-section, which will make your situation even more difficult than having someone have to watch your DD. I'd start interviewing daycares or something right now or babysitters with a flexible schedule. Because you HAVE to go back to work and doing so with a C section won't be easy, nor will taking care of V and E while recovering.

V & E's Mom! 2 kids; Stockton, California 4782 posts
19th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squid Kid:</b>" As long as you're okay with the fact you may end up with a C-section, which will make your situation ... [snip!] ... you HAVE to go back to work and doing so with a C section won't be easy, nor will taking care of V and E while recovering."</blockquote>




I have 12 weeks after she is born of paid time off.



But I know it's a possibility. I won't even think about it if my cervix isn't favorable. I know with V with my induction it wasn't but I had a great experience for an induction.