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just wanting to share Avery 1 child; Arizona 2709 posts
20th Feb '13

So I just broke up with my bf(baby daddy) about a week and a half ago. It's getting a lot easier as time passes. He treated me like crap. The last night before I left he kept telling me to stfu and calling me a b***h and I told him to stop talking to me like that in front of our son and he threw his soda at me while I was holding Avery. So the next morning I packed my stuff and left. Well every day I would get texts of how sorry he was and he would change and everything is his fault and I deserved so much better. I am happy to say I have not gone back to him and won't ever again. It's hard though because of our son. I am so stressed about how I am going to take care of our son and bills. He want's to go to court for joint custody but I told him not to bother that I won't ever take his son away and he can see him whenever he wants. I wouldn't do that no matter how much I hate him. Anyways I have never been single for very long and now that I have a child I feel that no one will want me or the responsibilities of having a child. Im just feeling a little depressed lately and just some one to talk to. Thanks for reading

Ryleigh's Mama ♥ 17 kids; West Virginia 10703 posts
20th Feb '13

Good for you for sticking with it. It's hard. But I promise you that most people don't change. I say most, because it's possible, but probably not likely.



I would still get official joint custody. That might just be me. But what if he gets another girlfriend in a couple weeks. Would you be okay with him having your son around a new girl? Or what if you meet someone? Would he be okay with that? To avoid the conflict & get it out of the way now, I would.



Take the time to enjoy yourself & your son & someone will come along who appreciates that you take the responsibility for your child. Your main focus should be him, not finding someone who will want you.



Good luck with everything mama.

kr.r 1 child; Dallas, TX, United States 8735 posts
20th Feb '13

Yelling and throwing things at you while you were holding his son? I don't know how comfortable I'd be letting him have the kid. I'd go to court and get it worked out.



Proud you made the best decision for you and your son though. I can't imagine what it's like, but you're a strong woman for doing what you did.

peaches and cream Due August 15 (boy); 36 kids; United Kingdom 95 posts
20th Feb '13

Well done for leaving love ...I was like you i left and never looked back ..I took three kids with me and felt like you nobody wanted me but three years later i met my hubby and h

Avery 1 child; Arizona 2709 posts
20th Feb '13
Quoting Ryleigh's Mama ♥:" Good for you for sticking with it. It's hard. But I promise you that most people don't change. I say ... [snip!] ... for your child. Your main focus should be him, not finding someone who will want you. Good luck with everything mama."



If he finds someone that's great. I don't mind my son being around someone as long as I met them. I'm still breast feeding and don't have a pump so I don't want to not see him for a few days and go without b**bs that's why I am nervous about the whole joint custody thing

Avery 1 child; Arizona 2709 posts
20th Feb '13
Quoting kr.r:" Yelling and throwing things at you while you were holding his son? I don't know how comfortable I'd be ... [snip!] ... best decision for you and your son though. I can't imagine what it's like, but you're a strong woman for doing what you did."


He said he has been doing some counseling and I am glad because I have been asking him to do it our entire relationship. It just sucks it took me leaving for him to realize it. I hope he get's the help he needs and can move on

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18554 posts
20th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Avery

Avery 1 child; Arizona 2709 posts
20th Feb '13
Quoting peaches and cream:" Well done for leaving love ...I was like you i left and never looked back ..I took three kids with me ... [snip!] ... ..so hard lol all teenagers do is grunt and now we have a six month old daughter and another one on the way so never lose hope"


Thanks for the hope lol

Avery 1 child; Arizona 2709 posts
20th Feb '13
Quoting S U Z I E:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Avery