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Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21128 posts
status 20th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Rice:</b>" This may be a stupid question, but isn't it the same as me saying I don't want a male dr or nurse involved ... [snip!] ... in her private area (she had a yeast infection so they had to look, it was quick but I request no males present at all)."</blockquote>



I don't think it's any different at all.

Amanda Contento Florida 2300 posts
20th Feb '13

The only difference is because they are pulling the race card. That's why there is still racism today. I love all people no matter color or religion or sexual orientation until they mess with me and hurt me then that one person is done for and I never speak to them again.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
20th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amanda Contento:</b>" The only difference is because they are pulling the race card. That's why there is still racism today. ... [snip!] ... or sexual orientation until they mess with me and hurt me then that one person is done for and I never speak to them again. "</blockquote>




There is prejudice of all kinds still today. Be it race, sexual orientation, gender ect.... People are always offended at something and nobody knows what to say or do anymore because of hypersensitivity. The hospital protected their staff from a clearly ignorant and what could have been a hostile man. She wants a pay day from the source with more $$$. That hospital was damned if they did and damned if they didn't in that situation. Think about the lawsuit she would be filing of they put her on that baby. She would be suing for a hostile work environment and them not protecting her.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
21st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Rice:</b>" This may be a stupid question, but isn't it the same as me saying I don't want a male dr or nurse involved ... [snip!] ... in her private area (she had a yeast infection so they had to look, it was quick but I request no males present at all)."</blockquote>




It's not different at all.



Requesting no male doctor be present during your child's vaginal exam is just as insulting as a man requesting no black nurses look after his child... Maybe more so, even.

Bangtail 50 kids; Katy, Texas 7752 posts
21st Feb '13

I think it's a bit different, honestly. A woman requesting no males is more for personal issues with men seeing private body parts, not because she hates men. A man requesting no black nurses is because of personal prejudice based on skin color. One comes from privacy and the other comes from hate.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
21st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bangtail:</b>" I think it's a bit different, honestly. A woman requesting no males is more for personal issues with ... [snip!] ... no black nurses is because of personal prejudice based on skin color. One comes from privacy and the other comes from hate."</blockquote>




I disagree. It can be viewed the exact same way. The difference is that you would rarely if ever hear a man claim sexual harassment. If a patient requested only a male Dr and asked for the female Dr to leave, you bet in a second, she would make a claim of being treated unfairly because she is female.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
21st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Bangtail:</b>" I think it's a bit different, honestly. A woman ... [snip!] ... asked for the female Dr to leave, you bet in a second, she would make a claim of being treated unfairly because she is female."</blockquote>




Not to mention, to me it just seems odd. It shouldn't matter the sex or race or whatever else. A health care professional is exactly that and should be treated as such. They do the workload, get the grades to pursue their career, they take an oath & they are there to do a job.



To say you don't want a man doctor for the privacy of your child's vagina (yes we are all adults here, we can call it what it is) may not be as "hateful" as saying you don't want someone because of their colour of their skin but it is just so... insinuating... Which is horrible... But like Not Tellin said, men just aren't going to jump up and down about it the way women would.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
21st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ryloonjimama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Bangtail:</b>" ... [snip!] ... Which is horrible... But like Not Tellin said, men just aren't going to jump up and down about it the way women would."</blockquote>



Tell that to my (at the time) 4 year old. I prefer male drs. She specifically asked not to have the male dr look at her. So I should have made an uncomfortable exam even more uncomfortable for her?

WarZoneParis Due August 27 (girl); 1 child; 1 angel baby; Fairfax, VA, United States 848 posts
21st Feb '13

I don't know if I would call it a paid day for her... But I find it to be very rude that anyone would ask for that type of request in public. It is racist and still the hospital did what was best but its unfair to the nurses who would have be assigned to the baby. Only because its hurtful to be treated like that. They are their to help you and it shouldn't matter what color they are. I feel suing them isn't maybe the best choice because everyone is entitled to their believes and whatever but if she feels she has a case then they will most likely win or pursue it..



I do feel those parents should not have had their child in a public hospital if they do not wish to have a black nurse. Have the child at home then. That would have saved them the issue of a lawsuit.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
21st Feb '13
Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ryloonjimama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" ... [snip!] ... asked not to have the male dr look at her. So I should have made an uncomfortable exam even more uncomfortable for her?"


It's one thing if it's what your daughter wants... but you said it was by your request... So that's a stupid question & it's not going to make me feel bad for my POV.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
21st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ryloonjimama:</b>" It's one thing if it's what your daughter wants... but you said it was by your request... So that's a stupid question & it's not going to make me feel bad for my POV."</blockquote>



Not trying to make you feel bad about anything. Like I said I prefer male OBGYNs. I have had only negative experiences with female ones. But in that one case I did request no males because my DD asked for it. I know some women won't even see a male OB because they feel uncomfotable. Just asked to see if it was the same as the racist dad, I know a few that are very serious about the fact that only their DHs will ever see them naked (that includes drs).

Amanda Contento Florida 2300 posts
21st Feb '13
Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ryloonjimama:</b>" It's one thing if it's what your daughter ... [snip!] ... racist dad, I know a few that are very serious about the fact that only their DHs will ever see them naked (that includes drs)."

I don't care male or female obgyn's but I hated one of the male obgyn's when I was pregnant with my son, he was cold and rude and when he said to wait til the following week and he would deliver me, I was like HELL NO. I do not want him too because I want a GOOD experience not a well you got yourself here deal with it attitude from him. The other male was just fine and caring towards my needs. When I would ask the nicer male doctor about hearing the heartbeat he was willing and nice about it, the one I don't like, I'd ask and they would like throw a fit (mind you this is in the SAME office so I don't see why it was a problem). I requested certain times because my daughter was with us and really wanted to hear the heart beat every time she was with us. it was exciting for her. The 2 female doctors had no problem with it either just that one doctor.