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I feel like I'm starving her :( ~Cullen & Ridley's Mommy~ 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Missouri 18926 posts
21st Feb '13

DD is 3 months, and we have had nothing but issues with breastfeeding since the beginning. Within the last month I have been trying desperately to get her back to the breast (I was exclusively pumping) but I don't seem to make enough to satisfy her. I recently saw a "lactation consultant" (she is a nurse through DD's pedi office, but she used to be a lactation consultant.) She told me to go a week without giving DD a bottle, just to nurse DD every 2 hours and that I could try and pump after every feed if I want. But tomorrow will be a week an I still have not noticed a change in my supply and DD still always seems hungry after I nurse. I have even been staying up later than DD's last feed just so that I can pump and put something away for later, but I have noticed that what I am pumping now at the 2 hour mark is lower than what I use to be pumping.



Ugh!! I just don't understand what I am doing wrong? Has anyone else had issues like this? Or any advice? I am not ready to give up on breastfeeding, I feel guilty for even thinking about not giving her breast milk, plus formula makes DD miserable. :(

Tiffanie Rose 2 kids; Kansas city, MO, United States 3021 posts
21st Feb '13

Have you tried taking anything? Fenugreek? Lactation cookies are amazing as well! and lots of water of course.

~Cullen & Ridley's Mommy~ 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Missouri 18926 posts
21st Feb '13
Quoting Tiffanie Rose:" Have you tried taking anything? Fenugreek? Lactation cookies are amazing as well! and lots of water of course."


I am drinking water constantly, and I have tried fenugreek and mother's milk tea, both made me sick.

**Eryn Lee** Due March 12; Boston, 685 posts
21st Feb '13

This happened with my son. And he was losing weight. I was told to switch over to formula and my breast feeding was over :( I hope this doesn't happen with this baby =/

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
21st Feb '13

does she have wet diapers?
Is she dropping weight?



you're at the 3 month mark, which means BRUTAL growth spurt. It was this time I was questioning to stop bf'ing Maximus, I just couldnt take it, he nursed all the time, never seemed satisfied. SO encouraged me to keep going....and Im so glad he did, cause once we got through that it was smooth sailing.



Then he was diagnosed at 4.5 months. Every doctor, nurse and nutritionist told me to stop, he would thrive through chemo, he needed a feeding tube blah blah blah. But he made it to 12 months on just boob juice till we put him on almond milk!
You can do this hun! I think you are too hard on yourself. I think you're stressing over nothing. You've been worried since day 1 and look! you have a healthy beautiful 3 month old baby girl!!!! You MUST be doing it right, dont you think?



Its the diapers and the no weight loss. Thats what you need to watch, not what you pump or how she reacts to feeding.



Good luck mama!!! YOU ARE DOING GREAT!

~Cullen & Ridley's Mommy~ 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Missouri 18926 posts
21st Feb '13
Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:" does she have wet diapers? Is she dropping weight? you're at the 3 month mark, which means BRUTAL growth ... [snip!] ... loss. Thats what you need to watch, not what you pump or how she reacts to feeding. Good luck mama!!! YOU ARE DOING GREAT!"


Diapers seem to be good, although with this last week her bowel movements have changed drastically. Her weight is one of my biggest concerns. She is not gaining much, her pedi keeps telling me that she should be gaining more but that they just want to watch her.



I just feel like I am doing something wrong, every time I nurse (every 2 hours) she always seems hungry right after. The nurse told me to encourage her to keep sucking, but if nothing comes out (or comes out easily) Ridley starts to fuss and won't stay latched on, so I end up pumping. But if I pump I don't get much more than an ounce. I'm just really scared that I'm going to have to give her formula again, because I am not able to save much (if anything) in the fridge, for "just-in-case."



The nurse also wants me to take away the pacifier, except for at bedtime. But without it all she does is cry and fuss because she is hungry and can't get anything. So I have gone against the nurse, at least that way, because at least then the pacifier can hold her off for a little bit, for me to get something back. As far as support...that's severely lacking.:(



Jason basically just tells me to do whatever I want. That if I want to quit and give formula, then that's fine too. My mother hasn't been helpful since before Ridley was born. She didn't breastfeed, so the idea is foreign to her. All she kept telling me were stories of women who couldn't do it, and that its not easy. When I started really having issues (Ridley was about 2 weeks) my mom started telling me, "well you did it for a week, she got the important nutrients, so you don't have to breastfeed." So never really any encouragement...just do whatever I want.



I knew this wasn't going to be easy, but I just wish is wasn't so hard, lol.

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
22nd Feb '13
Quoting ~Cullen & Ridley's Mommy~:" Diapers seem to be good, although with this last week her bowel movements have changed drastically. ... [snip!] ... any encouragement...just do whatever I want. I knew this wasn't going to be easy, but I just wish is wasn't so hard, lol. "


I remember when Maximus was 6, 7 and 8 months he didnt gain a pound...and thats when the hospital was pressuring me most to give him feeding tube.



I had a group of moms on here who all had babies in October, 2009. I asked them the wieghts of their kids and they were ALL THE SAME, 3 kids breastfed and 2 formula fed...and all of them had stayed the same weight for the same months.



What I learned.....was talking to other moms with babies the same age and witht the same eating habits was better assurance for me then any text book doctor could give me.



I seen the pics of Ridley in your other post...hun, in NO WAY does she look like a starving baby. Im telling you, once you learn to wipe out all these negative thoughts and convince and BELIEVE you are doing a GREAT job and she is healthy and happy, this will all go away!



Her paci habits, her 'acting hungry' are just her personality and 'habits' shes forming. Babies eat, they cry, they sleep, they just dont do much more then that.



It sucks you have no cheerleaders.....Breastfeeding moms need support