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user banned Shreveport, Louisiana 66739 posts
21st Feb '13
Quoting JessCleavage:" Yep. I have a daughter and he had a son and now we wil have one together so it's been pretty tough ... [snip!] ... that is because she goes to her dads every other week and he lets her do whatever. It is very difficult at the end of the day."

It was easier for me before the baby came, he was wonderful with my daughter. But then when his was here he changed tunes and was pretty hard on her from time to time.

JessCleavage 3 kids; Hooker, Oklahoma 20598 posts
21st Feb '13
Quoting TantricLemons:" It was easier for me before the baby came, he was wonderful with my daughter. But then when his was here he changed tunes and was pretty hard on her from time to time."


That's my fear to a T. He is wonderful with Morgan right now but I'm afraid once Skylar gets here, Morgan is gonna get pushed to the wayside and get her feelings hurt. :( Legit first world fear right there :lol:

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
21st Feb '13
Quoting TantricLemons:" I feel like I got tricked. I do not tolerate "bro" mentality. Its like even when he tries to help its ... [snip!] ... because i dont like gatorate. Its like he doesn't believe anything i say >.< haha thanks for letting me vent"


I don't think you sound like an ungrateful brat at all. Not at all. Yeah, he's doing things for you, but they aren't helpful things, and he's aware of it. He's trying to...force his will on you or something and I wouldn't be grateful for that shit either. I definitely don't get into the "oh you should be grateful, at least he tried" thing. If someone cooks you something they know you won't eat, it's pretty easy to feel like they did it spitefully-cause they probably did.

Brock Obama 1 child; Spain 6372 posts
21st Feb '13

Sounds like my ex. He would trust more what the company says rather what I KNOW.



It makes me laugh now because I got to think that he was f**king up on purpose so I would do the shit myself. So, yeah, pretty much it was his way or nada. f**k GUYS! lol



Yeah, pretty much, don't know, if he helps with the baby stuff, very likely, he'll do it his way. At least, on my experience, there was NO way I could get him to do the shit my way- so to say- if I wanted him to help. How f**king awful.



Of course, he was lazy as f**k and he would do anything in a very poor way in a way not to waste time to do more awesome stuff like video games and shit.



I feel ya.

Brock Obama 1 child; Spain 6372 posts
21st Feb '13
Quoting TantricLemons:" The root of the problem is he has no respect for me. He immediately doubts what I say. And honestly I ... [snip!] ... am meant to be in relationships. I refuse to compromise my values or be disrespected. I love living alone and parenting alone."


Me too!



He was one of the main reasons why I weaned my child at 2. I truly wanted to let her self- wean but he was so unsupportive. She was at the "acrobatic-nursing" stage and that was driving me insane. Everyday, he kept telling me to stop bf her, that she didn't needed it anymore. I explain that based on what I've read and shit it was still good for her. I e-mailed him articles, got him books from the library... he never bothered to read them and trusted more the pedi....



I don't even want to remember because I get upset, lol.

Brock Obama 1 child; Spain 6372 posts
21st Feb '13
Quoting TantricLemons:" I feel like I got tricked. I do not tolerate "bro" mentality. Its like even when he tries to help its ... [snip!] ... because i dont like gatorate. Its like he doesn't believe anything i say >.< haha thanks for letting me vent"


Yeah, I'm getting all carried away reading this because this was the deal breaker on my relationship.



Seriously, he's been gone since December and I've been so able to lose weight because I don't have anybody bitching telling me how f**king ungrateful I am for not eating the super yummy deep-fried shit he cooked everyday for me.
Because if I didn't eat- not just try, eat- what he cooked it was sure fight. *sigh*



I truly wish you good luck, though.

user banned Shreveport, Louisiana 66739 posts
21st Feb '13
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" I don't think you sound like an ungrateful brat at all. Not at all. Yeah, he's doing things for you, ... [snip!] ... cooks you something they know you won't eat, it's pretty easy to feel like they did it spitefully-cause they probably did."


>.< its offensive to me that the person didnt care to find out what you liked and do that, instead of doing what they like.



I unfortunately am at a point in my life where i cant be grateful for "help" like that

user banned Shreveport, Louisiana 66739 posts
21st Feb '13
Quoting Butterbeer:" Sounds like my ex. He would trust more what the company says rather what I KNOW. It makes me laugh ... [snip!] ... do anything in a very poor way in a way not to waste time to do more awesome stuff like video games and shit. I feel ya."


It kills me >.< I am extremely intelligent and I know these things. Why not just let me f**king do the laundry if you are going to f**k it up.

user banned Shreveport, Louisiana 66739 posts
21st Feb '13
Quoting Butterbeer:" Me too! He was one of the main reasons why I weaned my child at 2. I truly wanted to let her self- ... [snip!] ... he never bothered to read them and trusted more the pedi.... I don't even want to remember because I get upset, lol."


its so hard when people wont let you be yourself :(

user banned Shreveport, Louisiana 66739 posts
21st Feb '13
Quoting Butterbeer:" Yeah, I'm getting all carried away reading this because this was the deal breaker on my relationship. ... [snip!] ... me. Because if I didn't eat- not just try, eat- what he cooked it was sure fight. *sigh* I truly wish you good luck, though."


Thanks :D I care about my body and what goes into it, and care about my kids bodies. I am very careful about that and if you are living with me and dont notice, f**k you.

Dr. Angelface 2 kids; California 8230 posts
21st Feb '13
Quoting Supafly★:" No, I would think he is trying to justify what he did, because, you know, men can NEVER be wrong or do ... [snip!] ... do the wrong thing. Also, I would not have my new boyfriend doing my laundry but that' a total "to each her own" type thing. "


this.. lol. men are ALWAYS right don't cha know? he was justifying his decision and inferring that you didn't dry them correctly in the dryer and that's why they shrunk.



anyway that's what I'd hear.