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Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; Toccoa, GA, United States 20043 posts
21st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" ... [snip!] ... use any electronics besides that."</blockquote> He needs to have REAL consequences for physically abusing people."</blockquote>




What would you suggest? (I know that sounds sarcastic, but I swear it's not. I honestly want to know.)

Fur_Cue 4 kids; Dundee, United Kingdom 1222 posts
21st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting MommaNoodle:</b>" ... [snip!] ... said he has signs when he was 4, but they wouldn't test him until at least 5, but SO doesn't think he needs to be tested."</blockquote>




If you test and he hasn't, no harm done and your minds at ease.. If you don't and he gets worse youll wonder for years if you messed up. I know plenty of peole who have done the test and its came out their kids were fine but they were lacking something but werent able to tell their parents in fear.. So you never know itmohe be a small thing.

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; Toccoa, GA, United States 20043 posts
21st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" ... [snip!] ... fine but they were lacking something but werent able to tell their parents in fear.. So you never know itmohe be a small thing."</blockquote>




It may be. I'd like to get him tested, but SO is his only legal parent so I can only make suggestions. When We save up the money, though, we plan on putting me on the birth certificate. (Bio mom removed herself 3 years ago.)

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; Toccoa, GA, United States 20043 posts
21st Feb '13

Also I am happy to report that he went to bed with no issues tonight. :D
I have him and DD their snack, read them both a book, and put them to bed. DS got up and followed me once, but he told me he just wanted me to toss him on the bed. I told him no at first, but I felt a struggle coming on so I picked my battles and picked him up and tossed him on the bed. He laughed and let me tuck him in and e said "I love you, goodnight" and rolled over and they are quiet. :)

Fur_Cue 4 kids; Dundee, United Kingdom 1222 posts
21st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" Also I am happy to report that he went to bed with no issues tonight. :D I have him and DD their snack, ... [snip!] ... him on the bed. He laughed and let me tuck him in and e said "I love you, goodnight" and rolled over and they are quiet. :)"</blockquote>



Makes it worth it in the end doesn't it. All the good makes the bad seem to go aways

2happy 50 kids; North Carolina 14739 posts
21st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" You did the right thing to get him into his ... [snip!] ... kids that I know of. Even my mom and dad say that they're worried he's going to hurt DD one day. (He plays really rough too.)"</blockquote>




My son is almost 3 and does the very same thing. When I ignore he seeks things out to get my attention. He will throw his chair or toys, knock things over. We to we're thi king ADHD but I looked into sensory seeking and it fits hit to a tee! And with sensory seeking they don't treat with meds. Maybe look into that as well.its a daily struggle with my son.

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; Toccoa, GA, United States 20043 posts
21st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" Also I am happy to report that he went to bed with ... [snip!] ... they are quiet. :)"</blockquote> Makes it worth it in the end doesn't it. All the good makes the bad seem to go aways"</blockquote>




It really does. He can be the sweetest, most caring child in the whole world. He makes my heart melt every day. He likes to pick me flowers and draw me pictures.



I know I complain about DS's behavior a lot on here, but the good does outweigh the bad. It just doesn't seem like it at the time it's happening.

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; Toccoa, GA, United States 20043 posts
21st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 2happy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" ... [snip!] ... to a tee! And with sensory seeking they don't treat with meds. Maybe look into that as well.its a daily struggle with my son."</blockquote>




What is that? I've never heard of it.
DS used to run away from me when I wanted him to do something and I would end up chasing him an getting frustrated. I decided one day to act like he wasn't even in the room when he started running from me. He would then start going, "Ashley you can't catch me!.....Hey Ashley I'm faster than you!......Ashley, come get me......Hey I'm talking to you.....Chase me!....." Then he would eventually come to me and sit next to me or in the floor and actually listen.



Is that kin of like what you're talking about?

2happy 50 kids; North Carolina 14739 posts
21st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 2happy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" ... [snip!] ... eventually come to me and sit next to me or in the floor and actually listen. Is that kin of like what you're talking about?"</blockquote>




Sorry for my misspellings, my iPad has a funky auto correct. Sensory seeking is a disorder where the brain has a hard time computing the senses. Kids tend to act out. http://www.child-behavior-guide.com/sensory-seeking.html. This website describes it better then I could. Once I read more about it, the more things started to click for me. There are two different kinds. My son is on the side where he loves stimulation. He puts all sorts of things in his mouth. He hates to sit still. I can tell him 50 times in a row not to touch something but he has to touch it.

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; Toccoa, GA, United States 20043 posts
21st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 2happy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 2happy:</b>" ... [snip!] ... of things in his mouth. He hates to sit still. I can tell him 50 times in a row not to touch something but he has to touch it."</blockquote>




DS touches everything too. Like he picks up and handles everything he can. It drives my mom insane when he visits, lol.

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; Toccoa, GA, United States 20043 posts
21st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 2happy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 2happy:</b>" ... [snip!] ... of things in his mouth. He hates to sit still. I can tell him 50 times in a row not to touch something but he has to touch it."</blockquote>




Holy crap I read that list of symptoms and it's DS to a T. Like seriously.
He chatters nonstop and absolutely will not be still. Even when he's watching TV he's spinning around on his butt or rocking or running around. He had NO inside voice. His normal talking is very loud. He plays rough. He loves to be played with rough back, as long as he doesn't get hurt.
He constantly gets into the water hose outside and wets himself with it and makes mud. Like even in the winter, we have to constantly watch him to keep him off the water hose. He either will not or cannot keep a clean room. Every time I clean his room he'll have all the toys pulled out of his toy box within hours. By the next day you'd never know it had been spotless not long before.

2happy 50 kids; North Carolina 14739 posts
21st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 2happy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" ... [snip!] ... all the toys pulled out of his toy box within hours. By the next day you'd never know it had been spotless not long before."</blockquote>




Sounds JUST like my Connor. He will not leave our dogs water dish alone. Water is a big one, he loves water.

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; Toccoa, GA, United States 20043 posts
21st Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 2happy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 2happy:</b>" ... [snip!] ... Sounds JUST like my Connor. He will not leave our dogs water dish alone. Water is a big one, he loves water."</blockquote>




So does he. I catch him a lot playing in the bathroom sink or filling up containers to play with in his room.
He all the time wants a bath, but he doesn't want to wash, just play. And it's like a tsunami went through the bathroom when he's done.

HeatherT82 Due April 2 (girl); 3 kids; Texas 23 posts
22nd Feb '13
Quoting Minion:" I picked DS, who is 5 1/2, up to remove him from the living room because he was having a screaming fit ... [snip!] ... these kinds of fits, isn't he? :( what he does these fits stop? And is it just a boy thing? DD has never had a fit like this!"


My 4yr old daughter is like this. When she has her fits, she wants the whole world shes unhappy and we better fix it. Shes 4 but a HUGE control freak. We have to put her in an area where there is nothing breakable and isolate her until shes calm. If his room is his calm down area, then keep putting him in there. We sometimes have to sneak up behind her and grab her holding her legs tight and sometimes she does break free. We were told to pick our battles with her and use a firm commanding voice not to hollar at her because it just makes their reaction worse. It's been working. You just have to be calm, be firm, tell them what they did, pull them from the situation, let them calm down. And then afterwards, talk to them again about why they were isolated. I dunno why my youngest acts like this but she has been better. We have been using this method for about a month and her fits have decreased by about 50%......Good luck!

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; Toccoa, GA, United States 20043 posts
22nd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting HeatherT82:</b>" My 4yr old daughter is like this. When she has her fits, she wants the whole world shes unhappy and ... [snip!] ... she has been better. We have been using this method for about a month and her fits have decreased by about 50%......Good luck!"</blockquote>




Thank you.